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writes: How can I find guys who prefer small boobs over big boobs? I have small boobs, and I'm tired of always finding guys who prefer and like big boobs better, but who "don't mind" small ones. Yeah, I know I'm insecure, but I can't help it, and I always end up not enjoying myself, especially during sex, because I know that these guys prefer big boobs.I can't help it that my boobs only grew to this size. And everywhere you see, especially in the media and porn or men's magazines it's always like big boobs are better. I've never heard guys in groups discussing how great some girl's small boobs are, but they sure as hell like discussing how hot "big racks" are on girls. It sucks for me, because I never go for guys I'm not fully attracted to physically, I'm choosy (which doesn't mean I'm shallow). I don't go for Brad Pitt lookalikes or any of that, I vastly prefer normal guys, but whithin those normal guys, I only go out with the ones who I feel really attracted to, I don't force myself to be attracted to a guy if I just don't feel it. Just so I don't waste anyone's time.It seems like guys my age around here are all fixated on big boobs! Well, I guess it's cultural, since in my country it's men all ages who seem to think bigger is better, even if fake. I'm tired of always going out with guys only to discover that they don't really fully appreciate my chest because they like bigger ones, or they watch big tit porn exclusively, or ogle busty girls whenever we're out! Even the quieter guys do. I don't know what to do, are small boobs really that bad? :(Are there clues to find guys who prefer small boobs? Are there special questions I can ask them during the first dates (which are not that awkward)? Do you think guys would be turned off or weirded out if I just ask them straight during a first or second date what breast size they prefer? there's just so much emphasis on "Big is better" that I just feel unsexy most of the time... especially since I'm not really "petite"... I'm 5'5"130 lbs. approximately, really wide hips and big thighs... so yeah, I'm not small and skinny and cute.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): If the guys you are around talk about breasts or refer to them as "racks" you are around the wrong guys.
Not sure if there are questions that will reveal all, but I would think if a guy was into celebrities, models and women in media, he would probably like fake boobs or big boobs in general. If he is exploitative of women or objectifies them in any way, likely he is focused on women's bodies as sex objects. If he flat out says he's a breast man, chances are he likes big ones.
Maybe try hanging around other kinds of guys. Many guys who are athletic seem to like small breasted women...athletic women tend to be smaller breasted, and guys will often date women in the same interests. Many intellectual guys are into sexuality more than physique.
Bottom line is you need to find a man who is into emotional love...not physical as much
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reader, soon567  +, writes (21 December 2010):
I love looking at large breasts but I never dated a girl whom were large than a B-cup. If you were a 32-A then you're perfect for me there. My girl cup size now is a 32-A. She was ashamed of them before me, but now she has no problems at all. Lots of guys like them.
Remember- more than a mouthful is a waste
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 December 2010):
Funnily enough, the clue is when he doesn't really talk about boobs. You're almost looking for the guy that doesn't say "I like big boobs, but don't mind small ones". It's the guys that go on about boobs that are the ones who actually care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): hun, I am an A cup, and my boyfriend LOVES them. I have never, ever, ever had any problems with my breast size and finding guys.
Anything more than a handful is just a waste hehe
My advice to you would be to stop worrying about it (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): I know how you feel, but i'm in the reverse situation. I was talking to this guy over txt. We hadn't met before, but I'd txted him on my friends phone and switched to mine, but anyway one time when we were txting the subject of boobs came up. I asked what he preferred more. He was all ''like small boobs all the way,'' then asked my size. It was kind of awkward, because i have 32d. He was like ''nice size'', but it didn't feel like he meant it. But it just goes to prove that everyone's different and have their own ideas on what's attractive. You just have to capture them with your personality. Big boobs aren't that great, trust me :) hopes this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): Beware superficial men often charm you in very superficial ways...but it never goes past it. Remember to look deeper.
Typically superficial men will hold the door for you, pay for your dinner, do corny things such as intently stare into your eyes and compliment your beauty. They try to be very suave. They may purposely ignore a pretty girl passing by and even mention to you if you noticed how intently he is focused on you. He will do "nice" things for you and throw it back in your face. Everything he does is premeditated and part of his game and he often is stupid enough to give his intentions away. This guy just wants to get you in bed and probably only went out with you because all the girl's in his little black book who do have big boobs were out of town.
A truly nice unsuperficial guy will probably be less "gentlemanly," have less finesse and be much more reserved. That is because he actually LIKES you. He is probably nervous around you and trying to play it cool. So while I think any guy SHOULD pay for your outing, don't expect a nice guy do drop a bunch of money on you right away on some fancy dinner...he'll probably be more casual, buy you a beer and a burger. Don't expect him to be right on point to open the door for you...he's trying to be your friend too not just some Don Juan. So he will be much more casual. Your conversations will be deeper and he will be interested in getting to know you (because he is interested in more than just your boobs). And he probably won't compliment you as much if at all but his actions will paint a different picture. You feel his genuine concern and interest without him having to say it. So while he doesn't take you to fancy dinners, or hold the door for you on point, he respects you and you feel good about yourself around him.
So both are actions of guys who like you but for different reasons. They both can see through your shirt the size of your boobs. One guy will want to just hit it. The other actually likes what he sees and wants to try to get to know you and see where it goes.
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reader, Fionnlagh  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 Some men are idiots. They believe whatever the media shoves in their faces as being sexy and what is socially accepted among their peers. Boobs have nothing to do with love. If sex is all you're after than goodluck to you and keep looking but don't let the way you were born bring you down, and never over what some chump of a man thinks of boobs.
A smart, respectful man is what you want. You won't find him in a club.
'Your body is a temple.'
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reader, TexInTheCity +, writes (20 December 2010):
Honey, where exactly is your country? Get your self to the biggest city, get your self the biggest job you can find and stop settling for ordinary! You need a good dose of some self confidence, bless your heart. Your not sexy if some dude declares your sexy--your sexy if you know you are sexy.They're going out with you, not your boobs! You missed the lesson on not going to bed with a man until you know he can't live without you? Get smart sister and don't let them take you home until you know for certain.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (20 December 2010):
 Well, the large ones are eye catching, but not what I like, personally. I'm a man who likes smaller ones. I've never dated a girl above an A cup. Smaller ones are such a nice handful, are so perky and cute, and won't even sag much later in life! I'll agree many men like comically large breats, but tastes vary. Just keep looking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): The less superficial the guy is the less he will care about your boob size (he will be looking in you for alot more than that.) The more superficial he is, the more inadequate you will feel. Clues to tell if a guy is not superficial and that he really likes you just as you are. 1. He treats you with respect when you are out (not staring at other girls)2. He treats you with respect, period. He doesn't curse in front of you. Looks after you, makes you feel safe in his presence. Calls you at appropriate times. Makes sure you feel comfortable around him. Tries to get to know you. Tries to be involved in your life. Asks you questions about life, your life, your friend's life, his life, life in general...in other words he values your opinion. 3.You can't quite explain why but you feel beautiful and confident around him, no matter where you are or who is around. Bad luck, but just sounds like you haven't met the right guy just yet. Just try to be more selective. More picky. If, say you are hanging around meatheads or at clubs then change up your social cirle a bit. Try to put yourself in situations where the quality of men is more intellectual or more sensitive or at any rate just different than what you are currently surrounding yourself with.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 No, there are no clues, unless he tells you so.
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reader, angelluvr +, writes (20 December 2010):
This is kinda weird 2 hear? Do you have guys come up 2 you and ask if you like a small penis or a large penis?
I cant help it if all the losers that you've went out with
end up lying 2 you just to get in your pants. My way of thinking is anything over a mouthful aint worth having. By the way....do you enjoy having your breasts caressed and your n****** sucked? If so, who cares what everyone else likes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): I enjoy and prefer smaller breasts, just letting you know we exist. You date guys based on certain physical traits, just as a guy would date you for your physical trait of smaller breasts. I don't see it as something that should be discussed in a first date.l
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reader, YouWish +, writes (20 December 2010):
 Well, you could start by finding a guy who would never refer to boobs as a "big rack" and makes a woman's boobs the most intelligent topic he has with another person.
Umm...don't even think about making boob size a first date question. Can you say "awkward?!" What are you dating guys for, anyways? Don't YOU get so hung up on your appearance or the man's appearance as the defining characteristic.
Find a guy who is intelligent, kindhearted and who would treat you like gold, as you would also treat him. Leave the idiots and their boob talk in the bars and cheap clubs.
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