Should I contact my ex to see if he is ok even though he disappeared out of my life with no reason?
Q. My ex and I broke up 7 months ago. We only dated for 6 months and he was having a terrible time from the 2nd month we were dating and onwards. His ex-wife was demanding money, his father died and he moved house all in the space of a month (that wa...
A. 31 May 2013: Maybe a little of both. No it doesn't make you stupid. I personally i think it just make you more human. Sadly to humanity is somewhat rare. Yes it was kind of cruel and cowardly of him to do it in such way. Think of this way, he could be a... (read in full...)
Co-worker will not stop asking me out even after saying no several times... what should I do?
Q. There is this guy I work with who has been showing interest in me for over a year. He is older than me by 10 or so years, but he is in a position below me. Several times he has told me that he is attracted to me, that he cares for me, and that he ...
A. 3 May 2013: my kill switch is knowing the person i like was with someone. I was actually ur workmate position about 5 years ago. I was very head over heel, almost obesses with one my work-bud [lucky for us dating worker mate is frown upon in our line of work... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself having inappropriate thoughts in the form of sexual fantasies about guys who are co-workers?
Q. here deal i'm 25 never dated, slept with anyone. It part by choice and timing. I both studying, working kind lost interest in pub n night life after most of my mates got married and popping out new life into this world. I refuse to dsate/kiss/sl...
A. 17 April 2013: thanks guys the questions now is how can i look this guy in the face at the next staff meeting... (read in full...)
Ex still an active roll in my BF life, how do I manage this?
Q. My little girl was on my boyfriends phone playing a game and showed me that someone had text. it was his ex girlfriend but the entire conversation was deleted and it was her replying obviously to something he'd said.Its making me really down in the ...
A. 11 April 2013: I do believe it is possible for ex's can be good friends. But not always. I can sort of see why his behavior, could made feel little neglected and insecure. People often forget how powerful the word ex holed. ex mean the past this case 10... (read in full...)
How do I break down my subconscious walls so I can live a full life?
Q. I've always consider myself be open and fun loving, and playful character. Willing to try new thing, new place but with cautions. I'm 25 years [past my personal goal of wanting be in relationship by time i was 23. i don't mind considering i did have ...
A. 14 February 2013: i do need to give them more of chances. I think i need re explain the part about refusing a hot n can't hold a conversations. I trying b nice When i said attractive guys they have b ck models but enough so want to be intimate. The w... (read in full...)
I have an unexplainable attraction to someone that I shouldn't have
Q. Just another psychological curiosity. I’m not quite sure how to describe him, I guess an old crush or attractions. He wasn’t my usual bartender or rock-star with rip jean n tatts[it a style that I am most attracted to] We notice each other fro...
A. 23 January 2013: So how do i control my lust for him, next time I see him when uni startS? ... (read in full...)
After all these years, why do I still think about my past love?
Q. I volounteer at the local youth center, and with the help of my mentors have building up a good network systems. About 4 years ago I met this particular youth worker, at the time I really didn't see how amazing he was till after I got to know hi...
A. 20 January 2013: Thanks I for you're right I haven't fully moved on if look back. I can't really delete him from FB cos he's one my network in youth work field and he changed his number and email like pair socks. FB is my sure way of emailing him, if I have to send ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel guilty giving the cold shoulder to someone who was rude to me?
Q. This is a curiosity question mainly for psychologist, and psychology lovers. Keeping in mind this was three years ago. About three - four years ago i was volunteering at youth center there this worker, all the female staff pretty much droolin...
A. 18 December 2012: a month go someone posted a photo of him. It made me cry he lost so much weigh can sort of see his bones. I dont think we even talk i cant say we even friends anymore. My heart feel very heavy one i see a new post or email from him. Force myself to ... (read in full...)
How do you get a bartender's attention and have them ask you out?
Q. I’m almost 25 and yet to really date anyone. I live very strick and traditional asian family. Plus til recently I’ve never really always the enjoy the single life. I notice when im out the pub with best friends, to listen to the local band, somehow ...
A. 10 December 2012: I really don't understand why? I've always been highly attracted to bartenders and band members. I think I even was thinking it as a career option once. Add skills, charm n the slight cockiness cheekiness combo can b quite seductive.... (read in full...)
Why do I always seem to meet jerks who only wants to sleep with me?
Q. Guys, what goes through your mind when you meet a new girl and only want to sleep with her? Why do guys I meet only want or try to sleep with me? I met a couple of guys from club online and even "friends of friends". Their only motive is t...
A. 5 December 2012: Just Help Me Again your comment "A lot of girls in bars and clubs do just want sex from a guy. ' to me was somewhat sexist. I am girl and i know many other that do go to clubs, bars, pub. I will admit there maybe and odd few. Whom prob need to a ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him he stares at me. He's the lead singer in one of my favorite local bands. Should I add him on facebook?
Q. There is this guy I've met last winter (so about 5 months ago). well, we didn't really meet. We were at a bar and kept looking at each other. We took the night bus back home together and he talked to my best friend a little bit while stilll looking ...
A. 4 December 2012: lol been so many time, however your much lucky then we you know someone that help you guys connected. Remember his a musician, they tend have that seductive charm. Say if his you guys have this staring flirtations things, there a chance are there a ... (read in full...)
I'm a nice guy is that why I get friendzoned?
Q. I'm what you could call a nice guy. I hold doors open for girls, always treat them with the respect they deserve, and my friends that are girls say that I'm sweet, ask why more guys aren't like me, and why I'm not dating anyone. Yet, even when I ...
A. 28 November 2012: Your not the first guy to ask this.
I tell you the same thing i told them. We sometimes can't control whom we like. True major of the girls your ages so go what ppl sterotype as bad boys and cool as youth worker i dont really approve of those la... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 28 November 2012: As a feminist myself i agree and often ask those questions. As a youth worker i say: These men /ppl [as there some elders and other women whom think this way]are still stuck in the old ways and have yet learn to be as accepting and open minded ... (read in full...)
We don't like her, so we bully her. I think she's going to report us, any advice?
Q. in my friendship group there are 20 of us and we're all really close. since about yr6 we've been friends with this other girl,bertha, in yr7 we had a fall out. i felt really bad so i apologised to her face she accepted it, but did not apologise ...
A. 28 November 2012: I can understand you guy fell out and not wanting to be friends with her. But i really cant accept your method with dealing with situations.
Most sucide happen out of bullying the other half is feeling worthless and unloved.
Look at it fr... (read in full...)
Could a man who is 10 years older than me, fall in love with me? Or is this a major teen crush?
Q. All right. So I am seventeen, and my supervisor where I volunteer is probably around 27. I don't know for certain but he's between 25 and 30. Before you go berserk, yes, I know there are many reasons a relationship between us would be inapprop...
A. 17 November 2012: Whiles these guys make all valid points. But to answer your first questions anything possible. Personally i thought falling love is a very strong word to used maybe a possible for attractions. Reading your story it really does take me, bac... (read in full...)
Should I get a second ear piercing?
Q. i want to get a second ear piercing because i think they are cute and catchy. i just really like them and almost obsessed with them. it's just whenever i want to go and get a second piercing i always wonder if it would ruin my ear, as i've always ...
A. 14 November 2012: ask yaself these question before you.
What the real reason i want them?
Do i really want them or is just a phase would really used it. can you live with it for the rest of your life?
and not there be no scare but there be a whole as pricing i... (read in full...)
How do I become calmer and become more confident when around the opposite sex?
Q. I'm a girl in my early 20's, who's never dated before or anything. People say I'm attractive so I know my lack of experience with guys is due mostly to low self-confidence and my social anxiety. Anyway, I've noticed that whenever I interact with ...
A. 14 November 2012: hmm i used to have this problem. Still do kinda mainly with those i like. Everyone different so my solutions may not be yours. First thing first to get more confident you need to your self doubt in it place. Like i said we are different, that what ... (read in full...)
My feel my whole family are against me...
Q. I am eldest daughter in my family yet my parents treat me like trash. in past i had affair with a guy who i broke up with as he made my life miserable, making me go through worst periods of my life, he cheated me despite the fact that i loved him a ...
A. 13 November 2012: From what i've read there are two major issues in your life but they both effecting the same way. A = Guy and B= Family.
Issues A= the guy actions maybe questioned, the fact is you also believe you loved him. Meaning your much have really c... (read in full...)
How can I get to know someone in a professional manner?
Q. I want some advice on how I should go about getting to know someone at work in a professional manner, without appearing too forthright and desperate. I have been hopelessly in love with a guy from work probably since the first few times I laid...
A. 12 November 2012: Look I volunteer at a local youth center, my organization and we share the space with about at least 6 other programs. Which mean lots people in the building. And the type that needs friendly environment to work in, so i make effort to chit chat ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me check on my ex crush's page just to make sure his alive and okay?
Q. There a guy an old crush till recently I really thought I was over him but I guess part still has some feelings. Long story short on my first day at uni at coffee shop. ii started eye flirted with cute guy across the room we both with other ppl so ...
A. 3 November 2012: First of all thank you for your advice.
Guess part it true i do check his page cause i still care[that and sometime i like to go and steal some resources links he good collections of resolutions image that i used in my workshop.]
While i agree... (read in full...)
Girls seem to like me as a friend. So why can't I convert any of my friends into a Genuine Girl friend?
Q. I’ll be turning 27 soon and have never had any sort of romantic relationship with a woman. I just can’t seem to figure this out. From what I hear from friends and family I should have no problem attracting women. I’m told that I’m an attractiv...
A. 2 November 2012: By sound of it, I agree with ur friends n family u are a find catch plus a copper. Which manly, caring strong, don't underestimate the power of uniform has on us gals. You said ask ur female out, how did was causally or just straight out., did flirt ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never buys me anything! Should I bring this up, and if so, how do it do it?
Q. My boyfriend never buys me anything!!! When we had been going out for about 2 months, he bought me a birthday present, but didn't even pay for my dinner! We always split EVERYTHING, he never even offers to pay. Which really makes me upset. I havn't...
A. 2 November 2012: I agree with blonde. Money isn't everything, I really hate when my mate complain when their partner doesn't give thing gifts. Why their materials things. Ask yourself was this the reason I went out with him? cos buy you stuff n spoil u like a ... (read in full...)
This situation is a mess, what do I do?
Q. Here's a triangle love story that soon enough is going to turn into a disaster.. There this guy let's call him(mark)and a girl(cindy) and me..so mark really liked me,and I wasn't aware of it but I very well knew that cindy liked mark cuz she conf...
A. 1 November 2012: Look at from her point she so into a guy, had finally went out with her she think going really well. Til sorry i have to break up with you cause i like friend. Either way you looked at her pride was hurt. Now she hurting, and maybe feeling b... (read in full...)
Is it normal to find others unattractive even if you find only one person attractive?
Q. I asked these kind of questions in many different ways but i could't get satisfying answers so i'm asking in an easier way to understand.believe me or not i only find my husband attractive and beautiful and my husband says he feels the same way. But ...
A. 1 November 2012: I don't know how valid my answers would be for, I've have yet to actually dated anyone. Right moments was never there.
But Yes i do believe you can. Until recently i can always tell when i truly deeply like someone, how cause i can be surround... (read in full...)
For Girls: First Impressions when you meet a guy - is 5 foot six inches tall enough for you? Or do you prefer taller?
Q. Hello This question is mostly for girls Do you find attractive a guy who is 5.6 feet or maybe girls want a guy who is taller. Well I know some responses may be 'a guy must be loyal,caring etc' but my question is related with first impression. T...
A. 30 October 2012: i can never tell if who or when i will like a guy it depends on chemistry. im 5.2 u will b my ideal heigh. Most of the guy i attracted to at first glances like have average 5.8-6.2. There this one guy my co worker hir ur height i may not notice him ... (read in full...)
There are decent guys like me who get no where. Why do some girls allow guys to treat them in disrespectful ways?
Q. My friends are always giving me a hard time calling me nasty names because they say I treat girls "too nice". At first I use to brush it off but now it is getting really old hearing them go on and on about how I better check to see if I still ah...
A. 30 October 2012: Dear Mr Nice Guys First of all thanks. You just reassure there at least some decent guys at the bar/pub. I normally go to pub just hang with my girls trying forget stress of uni n work. Yes we do get pick up and be nice and chat to them, b... (read in full...)
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