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I don't want my girlfriend's gay friend at my house and she doesn't respect my wishes
Q. My girlfriend has this lesbian couple as her friends. I have met them, spent time with them and i quite like them. This Sunday, she wants to take all of us out for breakfast, me, the couple and a male gay friend i have never met, but she talks about ...
A. 24 May 2012: Totally with your girlfriend on this one. Why are lesbians okay and not gay guys? Why do you feel uncomfortable? If another girl was winking at you would you feel uncomfortable or just laugh it off?
Guys can be flirty. Laugh and wink back or if y... (read in full...)
Will flowers win back my teenage, but legal ex-girlfriend?
Q. Hello everyone. Tricky and possibly a bit of a controversial situation here. Keeping it as short as possible. I love my ex girlfriend, Im 24, shes 15 (age of consent in Sweden = 15 so relax). Anyways she broke up with me almost 2 months ago, as she ...
A. 22 May 2012: No one is making fun of you. We are only trying to explain how inappropriate your behaviour is. You are talking about her like she is an adult but trying to control her and make decisions for her like she is a child.
Her breaking it off with you ... (read in full...)
My husband is getting more and more controlling of my appearance
Q. First, it was the clothing: dresses, skirts, tights, blouses. I'm not allowed jeans, trainers, flipflops, T-shirts, track suits. I'm barely allowed tasteful trousers. Then, it was telling me how much jewellery I can wear. Then, it was th...
A. 18 April 2012: Have you ever told him no? Or explained you would prefere to have/ wear something different? If so has he ever gotten violent?
This sort of controlling behavior usually leads to aggression. If he is violent then you need to leave. Staying with... (read in full...)
How do I develop a list of the good and bad things about my friend without alienating my friend, and not a soppy list either?
Q. I want to write a list of good and bad things about my best friend. We're both 18 and I want to show them the good points, but there are a couple of things that need to be improved and I don't want them to feel under attack because they tend to get ...
A. 18 April 2012: Why do you want to write this list? What point are you trying to make?
The 'bad points', do you intend to tell them to change them? If they take offence what then?
Would you want them to tell you what your bad points are? I don't understa... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 12 April 2012: I find that I agree with you. It's great that women can get any job they want now and aren't as dicriminated against, but the old ways shouldn't be completely lost.
If men weren't chivalrous then we would be the first to say that it's not ... (read in full...)
She has destroyed my life with her sexual past that I never knew about.. Just to marry her!!
Q. Ive been married 13 years, have 2 children. my wife has been very good to me all 13 years. but never thought in a 1,000,000 years this would happen to me.. I feel like my marriage was nothing but a fairytale. So this is what...
A. 5 April 2012: I don't entirely understand. Is the problem that she slept with more people than you thought, or is it that she slept with people of a different race?
It seems to me that it is the latter, in which case you should have no problem. She slept with... (read in full...)
After 5 years together my boyfriend suddenly says he doesn't like my body anymore
Q. A while ago my long term boyfriend told me he didn't like my body anymore. We got together at 16 and are now 21. Of course, when we met my body was still developing, and it's silly to think it wouldn't change over time. I'm still the same clothin...
A. 2 April 2012: If you're an 8/10 my love, then you don't have a heck of a lot of weight to shift. But there is a simple way to lose about twelve stone of weight with very little trouble. Get rid of the boyfriend.
It would still be very wrong but a little more... (read in full...)
B/f got angry at me because a guy at the club was touching me
Q. ok need some advise please ppl i went out clubbing the other night with my bf we had not spoke most of the night tbh we were out with friends he was with the boys an i was with the girls me and 1 of the girls went out for a fag and some bloke st...
A. 2 April 2012: Why didn't you tell him to 'sod off' and follow it up woth a slap? Your boyfriend has a right to be angry! When would you actually of acted and pushed him away? How far would you let him go?... (read in full...)
Best way to tell my parents I'm pregnant?
Q. so im 19 and am almost 7 weeks pregnant. i haven't told my parents yet and im just looking for some advise on how to tell them and what i should say, and also how to ask my mother to stop smoking since i do still live at home, therefore being ...
A. 27 March 2012: Sit them down and tell them calmly, make sure you have worked out your future so can answer the obvious questions such as "Are you keeping it? How will you look after it? Will the father be involved?" Don't let it turn into a shouting match. If ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my brother in law that his wife wasn't a virgin when they married?
Q. I just found out something and I'm not sure if I should keep to myself. My wife is the youngest of 3 daughters. Her next oldest sister just filed for divorce and is already dating and sleeping with men even though her divorce isn't final. My ...
A. 27 March 2012: keep quiet. It's none of your business and you shouldn't interfere.
You will only do damage.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to move in with me for another 2 years!
Q. Feel free to be as honest as possible. I have been with my bf for 3.5yrs now, and he decided at the 2.5yr stage he wasn't ready to live with me. So I accepted that. I wasn't quite ready either, but was looking forward to the prospect. We had a convo ...
A. 26 March 2012: Have you asked him why he has stated specifically '2 years time', why does he think that is when he will be ready??
It's sounds a little like he isn't telling you ssomething.
Talk to him. It's all you can do, then you can make an informed... (read in full...)
Have I missed out by not having sexual experiences with any guy other than my boyfriend?
Q. I lost my virginity a bit later than most and have been with that boy ever since which is four years. I can see myself marrying him one day but I have one problem. He's slept with other girls before me and I feel a bit weird thinking I could marry ...
A. 26 March 2012: I'm getting married next year to my fiznce who i've been with for 5 years. He was my first, and I feel so lucky not to have had to go through all the heartache to find 'the one', 'cos he was right there straight away.
He feels so amazed that he w... (read in full...)
We had sex for the first time then he told me about all the other girls he had
Q. Hes been with a lot of other girls, and I want to be the last one. We just had sex for the first time, and when he was taking me home he started talking about all the other girls hes had. It made me feel really bad, but i didnt tell him cause I know ...
A. 26 March 2012: Sweetheart i'm really sorry but it is unlikely you will be the last one.
You are very young and I assume he is too. You will probably have your heart broken by him, but you will get over it. And you will find someone worthy of you.
Good luck my ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 26 March 2012: I wouldn't call a girl that does those things anything because it's her life and I (and you) have no right to judge her or throw names around.
The problem isn't what she has done, it's what she is doing now, using what she has done in the past... (read in full...)
Was I wrong in suggesting that my girlfriend should use botox? She just flipped when I said it
Q. I know this will make me sound like not a nice person (to some), when in reality I like to think I am decent, and am pretty diplomatic. Thing is, my gf of 3 years is aging badly. I love her to distraction, and that love is more about her lovely...
A. 26 March 2012: Yes you were wrong. You just tod a women that she needs plastic surgery so thst she looks the way you want her to look. Very, very undiplomatic and hurtful.
What you said will probably be at the forefront of her mind now everytime she looks in t... (read in full...)
I just used her for sex so how do I end it and still look good?
Q. I started screwing, nothing serious, around with this chick from my job when I'm home from college. She was a rebound girl from my last relationship and i wasn't being to pick when i choose her. I'm not saying I'm a great catch but I'm way out of ...
A. 25 March 2012: It's a bit late to worry about being a dick, You're already past that point.
If she didn't know you were just using her for sex then no matter what, you are going to hurt her. Just make sure you explain that it's your fault, tell her you've real... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay because he watches porn?
Q. My boyfriend watches porn, is he gay? I confronted him about it and he denies his not. am I being in denial?...
A. 22 March 2012: Heterosexual porn? If so then what is your reasoning.
If Gay porn then it is a possibility but not definate.
The only way to know for sure is to talk to him.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I am jealous that other men got her while she was partying, carefree and slim, and I only get the "in debt and less attractive" version of her
Q. Hi all, hoping you can help me out here. I've been dating a girl who I really love for almost 4 years now. I know she loves me too. Something causes me to be really upset and question my whole relationship. I should give a bit of background, she ...
A. 22 March 2012: I have never read a question before and had no answer straight away other than 'WOW, Douchebag!!!'.
So this is a first.
Break up with her and let her find a 'real' man. Or at least a less whingy one.
Seriously, did you expect us to go 'ahhh,... (read in full...)
Do men stop using porn when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Hi everyone, us women need hope is there any men here who stop using porn/looking at it when they have a girlfriend? ...
A. 22 March 2012: Some do. Some don't. Alot of girls don't mind.
A better question would be:
'Why do you need your partner to stop watching porn?'
If it's something he enjoys why don't you try to enjoy it with him?... (read in full...)
How can women watch porn with their partners?
Q. One thing that bugs me is how can women watch porn with their boyfriends/husbands? Aren't you bothered he's getting turned on by another woman, who he possibly thinks is hotter? The thought is horrible....
A. 22 March 2012: Would you cover your boyfriends eyes if a pretty girl walked past you on the street? He might think she's hotter than you!
So what? He's with you, if he didn't want to be with you then he wouldn't be.
He could get turned on by anyone, ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mother I'm not a virgin anymore?
Q. I'm almost 17 and my mom doesn't know that I'm sexually active. I lost my virginity at a young age and I feel like I'm old enough to tell her that I'm not a virgin, however I'm scared because she had me when she was my age. How can I tell her and ...
A. 14 March 2012: I'm sorry hunni, but no parent wants to know that their child is no longer 'pure'. You can't tell her and keep her trust. If she was easy going enough for you to do that you would have been able to tell her the very first time.
Keep it on a stri... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my girlfriend, but her parents cannot know!
Q. I'm 17 and love my girlfriend. We've already talked about marriage and all that stuff so this isn't some one night stand. We want to have sex (by the way she's 16 so in my state it's still legal) but her parents are VERY overprotective as far as ...
A. 14 March 2012: This may sound a little harsh, but if you aren't adult enough to talk to her parents about it are you sure that you are ready for sex?
Maybe you should wait?
If you are both serious about this relationship then a year or teo will not break yo... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend because she is not a virgin, advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we both love eachother. When I met her she was in a relationship and we started off as friends and she ended up leaving her ex boyfriend for me, She's never done anything bad, she's faithful, ...
A. 13 March 2012: Feel free to leave her. She deserves so much more than someone that is going to repeatedly make her apologise for past actions, whether they are mistakes or not. You are not a virgin yourself and if you loved her none of this would matter. Deal with ... (read in full...)
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