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reader, Echo85  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 Some do. Some don't. Alot of girls don't mind.
A better question would be:
'Why do you need your partner to stop watching porn?'
If it's something he enjoys why don't you try to enjoy it with him?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (22 March 2012):
 Yes many men give up porn. Some men only use it when they are single because they don't have a proper girlfriend. Other men use it very rarely and do it in private so that you don't know, so as far as your concerned it doesn't exist.
Men have been looking at pornography for years without women ever knowing.
But Candycane, your problem is more than this, please update your other post properly so the aunts can give you more advice on your problems with the guy you are seeing.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 That is a personal choice and what you should consider is to stop hoping for guys to stop like it is some horrible thing that ruins every reltionship because that is far from the case, for the most part. As long as the relationship is healthy it doesn't matter what the other person likes to do with their private time.
If it bothers you that much which is perfectly fine if it does you may have to look for someone who shares your views rather then being aggravated with those who have made the choice to watch porn.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (21 March 2012):
 My boyfriend started watching more porn with me. Its fun to watch together!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Some do, some don't.
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (21 March 2012):
I have been watching porn for years and has never stopped because i had a girlfriend. All my gfs actually watch it with me sometimes, but i wont give it up for anyone. Us guys seem to want sex more than most women, so instead of bothering my gf when shes not in the mood, i turn to porn and relieve myself. My gf will tell u, its better that me cheating.
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reader, eek +, writes (21 March 2012):
 when i am in a relationship i stop looking at porn. So for me yes.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Some, but from what I've read most guys who use porn continue to use it whether or not they have one and the ones who don't, continue to not. There have been a few surveys on this and the differences in numbers are not significant.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 March 2012):
 "Sounds" like you and the female who submitted just after you feel the need to be the "woman-police." Any chance you'd be content to let OTHER WOMEN think for themselves?
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reader, Candycane1234 +, writes (21 March 2012):
Candycane1234 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I wish i could be like you
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): I absolutely would! I always saw it as something mainly for single people to use (or in some cases couples, if they're into that). Certainly within a marriage with kids around, the ideal is no porn whatsoever. Men, if you want porn that much then just stay single. Just like if you want many girlfriends, be like George Clooney and don't get married. Only be in a relationship if that is what you really want and can make the sacrifices it entails. If you love someone, you don't do something you know will hurt them.
I can kind of understand people resorting to fantasy if they feel completely unloved and neglected by their partner. Porn then is just a symptom of the problem, not the cause. But now it seems there's more healthy relationships being sabotaged by porn alone. That is truly sad. If you have a ready and willing partner who's up for anything, appreciate what you have. Don't take it for granted. Don't keep looking for something more. There are nice guys out there who have no one, who are looking at you and shaking their heads in dismay.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2012):
 I don't hope he stops. I don't care if he looks... we look together...
and honey we live together and he has free and full access to me at all times....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): i think it does nt really matter if men use porn or not. my husband does and it really does not bother me. he is getting excited by a woman on a screen or paper, his choice but he is using it less than he did. if you go on about it they tend to get worse but just let it go over your head and he will eventually use it less and less as he wont be getting same excitment out of it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): I will be honest I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years and I didnt stop looking at porn although i dont do it very often. It is not for the women or fake noises as i will only watch homemade porn the staged porn is just stupid. I watch it because for example my girlfriend wont go on top or give blowjobs so when i do look at porn its more to imagine my gf doing it to me than wow shes fit the people arent why im watching it it is the act of what they are doing
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): "Us women?" Don't you mean you? Because you certainly don't speak for any women I know.
Do guys stop using it when they have a girlfriend? Of course some do. Others lie and say they do but keep using it anyway, you'd be surprized how easy it is to hide porn usage these days. You can use a private window in your browser that means there is no history and no sign of it in the cache and as long as you only use it when you're certain she's not around then she'll never know. I know plenty of guys who are in relationships who have been using it for years without their partner knowing and I would do the exact same thing if I ever fell in love with a woman who didn't like it. When women stop using romantic movies and the guys in those to stir their romantic emotions and fantasies then I'll give up mine for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): yes, recently. the missus doesn't like it and because i respect her i don't watch it.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Not that I'm aware of. They probably just watch it less than when they are single. Men and porn go hand-in-hand.
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