Pimples on my "lips"!
Q. I have sort of a personal question. Right now I have a couple of small pimple like bumps on the lips of my vagina, towards the top, there's maybe 4 or so, a couple on each side. And I have noticed these popping up occasioanly before, and I'm ...
A. 5 March 2009: It could be HPV, which is a VERY common std. This causes warts which don't particularly hurt but are hard when you touch them. Go see a doctor and get tested ASAP!... (read in full...)
He wants me to smoke weed with him before we have sex... what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but he also wants me to smoke WEED with him before we do it so I can get high. I don't know if I should because I'm worried that if he gets high he'll forget to put a condom on and I might get pregnent. What ...
A. 5 March 2009: Well, let me clear things up by saying that Weed is not physically addictive and it's not dangerous either since no one has EVER died from overdosing on weed.
But like anything else, it is your decision whether or not you want to smoke. If you d... (read in full...)
Was he still in love with his ex while he was dating me?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I dated a boy for about six months, but I decided to end things shortly after he graduated college. He was focusing on his career, working seven days a week and I would get to see him only about once a month. We ended things ami...
A. 28 July 2008: Thanks for your input. And "anonymous" you're right. I knew I deserved more than what he was giving me, and that's also one of the reasons why I left him. Thank you both for your advice.... (read in full...)
What does "cute little fellow" mean?
Q. I have a question for the ladies. What exactly does a girl mean when she calls you(a guy) a cute little fellow? I was described as such by a girl and she has refused to explain to me what she meant by that. What does it really mean?...
A. 5 July 2008: Well...
I've also said things along those lines... When I've said that to guys, it was when he was being a little dorky. So I say, "aww, you're cute!" I guess it was my way of saying, you seem sweet, but I'm not interested.
That's just m... (read in full...)
He's not spending enough time with me, how do I confront him?
Q. I feel that the guy I'm currently dating doesn't spend enough time with me. I only see him once a week for about four hours and I feel that this little time isn't enough. He's a full time student who is about to graduate, and I understand he's ...
A. 21 May 2008: Thanks Les. You were right. His classes were stressing him out. I also realized that he was spending so much time with friends because they're all leaving after graduation. We spoke and he says he wants to spend time with me, and he will ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can stop this happening again??
Q. I had sex last night with my boyfriend ..im not looking to be reprimanded for that so please none of those comments. But the thing is after we did it..we were laying there kissing and i queefed..like a little one but i know he heard it..i just acted ...
A. 10 March 2008: It happens to every girl at least once. The best you can do is just laugh about it when it happens. I always joke and say "that was your fault you know." We both just have a giggle and that's that. It's in your hands how awkward you want it to ... (read in full...)
I feel I should just concentrate on college and nothing else, because now I feel that even close friends can leave you behind.
Q. Well basically, in September this year I started college. All of my friends scattered to different places, however I was the only one on my own. My two best friends went to the same college. And now that they have new friends they are always out ...
A. 8 March 2008: I know how awful it must feel to be "left behind." The reality is, your two friends have been able to make more friends because people feel less awkward when they have someone there with them. You can't compare yourself to that because you entered ... (read in full...)
He has no money, what else can we do for fun?
Q. Some help please! I'm currently dating someone who is always very low on funds. He's an artist who doesn't have a steady job. I'm completely fine with that, but I just don't know what to do to pass the time. We mostly spend time at my place, but...
A. 8 March 2008: Thanks!
Those are some great ideas! I think I'll start with going to a used book store.
Can't wait!... (read in full...)
Strange clearish discharge when I stand up.
Q. My mother said it happened to her when she was my age but... When I stand up or sit in a certain position, I release a milky-clear fluid from my vagina. I can't really control it...but it's happened before during sex, too. I've heard it is my b...
A. 5 March 2008: I went through this too and it was quite normal. It was before I had any type of sexual relation, so it wasn't a sexually transmitted disease. As long as there isn't a bad odor, I wouldn't worry too much. Especially since you've already seen your ... (read in full...)
Will I always be under his ex's shadow?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I've been dating a boy for about two months now. Even though we're just dating, I'm feeling worried. I only date guys whom I see myself being in a long term relationship with. In other words, I don't just date randomly for fun...
A. 28 February 2008: Thank you for your advice. I am going to talk to him, but maybe after we spend some more time together. I'm pretty sure that if I approached him now, he would feel awkward since we've been dating for such a short time.
But I will ask!
For now... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that I'm not as knowledgeable as him?
Q. Dear Cupid: I met a guy at my college about 9 months ago. He is very well spoken and knowledgeable about a lot of social issues. He's quite an activist and I love that about him. Good signs right? The problem is that he intimidates me. ...
A. 9 January 2008: Thanks for all your advice. I am definitely trying to learn more about the issues he cares about and have actually asked him to recommend a few books. Hopefully I will be able to bridge that gap. If the relationship doesn't work out, then at ... (read in full...)
With or without a condom....which way is less painful??
Q. My girlfriend said that it hurt's her less with a condom but i have also heard that it hurt's more with a condom. What do you think? Any tip's will help becouse i want to hurt her as little as i can....
A. 23 December 2007: Use a lot of lube! And if you want to try without a condom, make sure you both get tested fot STD's. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Where do guys like to be rubbed when they're given a handjob?
Q. when ur tossing a guy off, does he like to be rub from bottom of penis to the top (so upwards) or from the top to the bottom (so downwards towards his pelvis)? ...
A. 17 December 2007: Use both hands and SOFTLY TWIST in different directions while going up and down. Try by using one hand first.... (read in full...)
Advice on kissing during sex?
Q. What types of kissing do women enjoy the most during sex? Where on their bodies do they liked to be kissed? In general how much kissing is expected before having intercourse?...
A. 24 November 2007: Well, of course everyone will be different. But what has worked with me and some of my friends is SLOW and TENDER kisses at first, to get the mood going. Once foreplay is over, slowly increase the force and pace, see how she responds. Make sure ... (read in full...)
We work together and talk all the time, but I just can't get round to asking her out, help me!
Q. There is this new girl who has started in the office, she's a really nice person both asthetically and personality wise. I talk to her on msn about random things for at least a good hour every day. I've discovered that i fancy her a little on both ...
A. 31 October 2007: Going out to lunch first is a good idea. Once there, see if she seems awkward or uncomfortable. If everything goes well and you don't get any feelings of awkwardness between you, then ask her out for a Saturday night. Ask her out to dinner and a ... (read in full...)
Mom is flirting with my bf! Should I be concerned or is this harmless fun?
Q. Help! My mother has been flirting with my boyfriend ever since she met him. I'm not sure if he's interested in her, he says she's too old for him even though she looks hot for her age. Sometimes when he comes over to visit she'll take him out to ...
A. 11 August 2007: Well, I've had my share of boyfriends, and my mom NEVER treated them like that! Them going shopping together and going out, sounds like she's dating him. And no, there is no way that you could have "accidentally" sent a nude picture of your mom to ... (read in full...)
... or do they just get sticky fingers?
Q. do guys get turned on when fingering a girl?...
A. 6 August 2007: Well, when my boyfriends did it to me, the wetter I was the more turned on they got. I could tell not just by what they said, but by the giant grin on their faces. When you're wet, it means they're turning you on and it's a great compliment to ... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard for me ( a girl) to keep female friends?
Q. Why is it so hard for me (a girl) to keep female friends? I seem to be able to have close bonds with men, but not with women. I do have girl friends but they never seem to last for very long. Is this common? I just don't know what I'm doing ...
A. 9 July 2007: Well, I do agree that having any type of friend (whether male or female) is great. I think it is that girls always seem to be in competition with each other. Only when I don't feel threatened by a girl, can I really become their friend; otherwise, ... (read in full...)
We broke up and he's taunting me but I'm still not over him
Q. I was in a three year relationship and I'm having a really hard time getting over him. I honestly think about him everyday and I can't help but feel lonely without him. I go out with friends but all I can think about is him. He left me for another ...
A. 24 June 2007: Well, I do agree with all of you; he has been acting horribly. No one deserves to be treated that way. But I feel as though I gave him reasons to lash out at me that way. I know he's hurt because a year before our break up, we were on a break ... (read in full...)
I don't want just a sex buddy any more, I want love
Q. I never had a true relationship. How do I put myself out there? I decided to leave my 'friend with benefits' and seek someone who will care about me. I am overweight and lack the confidence to ask guys out. I have always spent my Fri/Sat nights ...
A. 23 June 2007: It seems as though you may have some self-esteem issues. I think you should focus more on yourself rather than on the men you want to date. Working out and treating yourself better definately helps boost your self confidence. Once you begin to ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps sending me emails telling me he hates me! Does this mean he's not over me or what!?
Q. I had been dating a boy for about 3 years and we recently broke up for the second time about 4 months ago. He constantly calls me and emails me and when I respond with a casual answer, he turns around and insults me. He tells me to leave him alone ...
A. 19 May 2007: I do plan to avoid him at all costs. It will be best for the both of us, since I don't think I'm completely over him either. Thanks!!... (read in full...)
I let him know some do's and don'ts about dating and he's upset with me! Was I out of line?
Q. I met a guy at school and we've been hanging out when he confessed to me he like me and after 3 months of hanging out with him he told me he could see himself falling in love with me. We're just friends and I don't feel the same way about him. ...
A. 16 April 2007: Thanks. My comments were not intended as a put down, but I suppose that I should never give advise unless asked. ... (read in full...)
My guy friends tell me that I'm a huge flirt and that I confuse them. Should I change my behaviours?
Q. Telling a friend you don't like him the way he likes you is tough. Most of my guy friends have confessed to me that they like me, but I haven't felt the same way about any of them. Some of them have been cool afterwards, but they seem awkward ...
A. 16 April 2007: Thanks for all the help. Trying to look at myself from the outside is probably the best advice. If I were looking at myself, I know I wouldn't like any of it. I also think that the self-esteem issue is something I should be loooking at.
THANK... (read in full...)
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