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*azed & Confused
writes:Why is it so hard for me (a girl) to keep female friends? I seem to be able to have close bonds with men, but not with women. I do have girl friends but they never seem to last for very long. Is this common? I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazed & Confused +, writes (9 July 2007):
Dazed & Confused is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I do agree that having any type of friend (whether male or female) is great. I think it is that girls always seem to be in competition with each other. Only when I don't feel threatened by a girl, can I really become their friend; otherwise, it won't work.
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reader, rambini  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 to be honest i am the same, i find it difficult to maintain female friends, i think this may be because they take a lot more work than relationships with males, and also i dont like girls wen they r in a group n they bitch n whinge, i find lads much more refreshin company.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (9 July 2007):
So do I. Did you mainly mix with little boys when you were small? Were you a tomboy? You might have missed out on picking up subtle girl-type socialising skills. Did you have a bad experience with female bullying?. You might be having trouble trusting women enough to make close friends. Maybe you unconsciously let female friendships slide because you aren’t getting what you want from them. I wouldn’t worry. As long as you can make friends with women in the first place, just carry on as you are. You will eventually make a good friend or two. If you suspect it’s because you aren’t a very ‘girly’ girl, then maybe take up a pastime that might put you in touch with other less girly girls as well. Maybe you will never have many close female friends, or maybe you will. Don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s having friends of any persuasion that counts.
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (9 July 2007):
 maybe these female friends of yours arent the type of friends that you want to keep.
go out find other females who share the same interests.
good luk, Hannah :)
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