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writes:Well basically, in September this year I started college. All of my friends scattered to different places, however I was the only one on my own. My two best friends went to the same college. And now that they have new friends they are always out with them, even some of my old friends go out with them most of the time. I’m the only one who feels left out. They just talk about all the things they have done without having any consideration for me. And just tonight I went out with them two, and I felt like I didn’t even need to be there. All they were talking about were their new friends and college, and tons of people I don’t even know. One of them kept apologising, saying that they kept doing it, and then they just carried on. I was just thinking ‘what’s the point?’ They even at one point started calling my college, and I got mad.I’m not really happy with my life at the moment. I have tons of school work to do and its stressing me out. Also ‘boy’ trouble at my college is confusing and stressing at the moment. I try not to think about it. But it’s hard.I mean my friends talk about so many different people, and I have just made a few friends at my college because its pretty small compared to theirs. And I’m not really close to mine like I was to them. I really feel like a regret not going to their college, cause then I could be out having fun all the time. At one point about a month ago I broke down and cried for no reason for a night. One of my new friends said he would always be there for me, and now it seems like he isn’t either. I feel so alone.I’m sorry but I’m just confused and I don’t know what to do. I feel I should just concentrate on college and nothing else, because now I feel that even close friends can leave you behindI’m sorry this is a bit long and I really appreciate you reading.XxX Thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): Oh hunny
Its such a shame when your friends forget you exsist when all around them is fun fun fun! That they loose track of who has been important to them, Right you have got alot on all these work commitments are going to take you far in life but its a drag getting there and its even more of a drag when your confidence is down your self esteem takes a nose dive and you feel like poop! Im sending you more work!!!!!!!!!!!!!It will help ok dont sigh!!!!!!
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php
http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence
http://www.joseph-
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Not all of this will apply to you sweetpea but you can get some bits of info from each one to build you up again and start smiling and once you start smiling you will become addictive to others and boom!!!!!! Your back hun TAKE CARE MESSAGE ME ANYTIME YOU NEED A CHAT WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, mizzlala3  +, writes (8 March 2008):
Hello hun!
Sooo... I KNOW exactly what your feeling. Only difference is I have a four year old which makes it that much harder. I feel so lost, alone, stressed, guilty, not good enough etc.... There has been times I have had to drop classes just to get things straight financially at home, Or just because I couldn't handle all the stress. This was just this last quarter SPRING. My boyfriend dumped me, my son had to have surgery, my aunt died, then grandma died, son broke his arm, friends go out to party on the weekend and I have to work 16 hours on Saturday and sunday, so I get to slave at the hospital on the weekends, too much homework etc.....
Only thing I can say is if you need a break take a break! It isn't worth getting bad grades and feeling that stressed out. If school is VERY important to you like it is for me, YOU WILL Go BACK! Some people may say things to you like, Oh she isn't gonna go back, or Why did she quit. You didn't quit and tell them that. You just need time.
I am going to school for nursing and still am but I can't possibly get straight A's with all the stress I have right now. But if you don't want to quit school then don't but DEFINITELY FORGET ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE. Because once your done it will have been alllll worth it! :) Hope this helped!
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reader, Dazed & Confused +, writes (8 March 2008):
I know how awful it must feel to be "left behind." The reality is, your two friends have been able to make more friends because people feel less awkward when they have someone there with them. You can't compare yourself to that because you entered your college all alone, not knowing anybody. Of course it's gonna be harder to break out of your shell.
As people go off to college, they begin to change. I think you should try to maintain contact with your two friends, but try not to concentrate on what they've been up to. Instead, focus on yourself. Join one or two fun clubs at your college and try to build up another circle of friends. Be up for new experiences and forget about high school.
Don't worry! A lot of people go through this.
Good luck!
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