Do all men picture women they fancy naked in their minds eye?
Q. Okay so here is something I have come across that I'm quite perplexed about. My ex claims that all men picture women naked at the least the one's that are attractive anyway. What happens when it's a co-worker? and the guy is in a relationship tha...
A. 17 November 2008:
There's a big difference between picturing someone naked and considering having sex with them.
Elephant.
The thing is, he has no control over it, it's just something that happens, and idle thought. It certainly doesn't mean that he thinks ... (read in full...)
Do all men picture women they fancy naked in their minds eye?
Q. Okay so here is something I have come across that I'm quite perplexed about. My ex claims that all men picture women naked at the least the one's that are attractive anyway. What happens when it's a co-worker? and the guy is in a relationship tha...
A. 17 November 2008:
Yup, absolutely normal.
It's not something we deliberately or consciously do, it just sorta happens automatically.... (read in full...)
My stupid ape-looking boobs
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been getting pretty far in our relationship, sexually wise. On our last make-out session, we both took off our shirts. He wanted to take off my bra. I told him no because I'm not altogether comfortable with the way my ...
A. 13 November 2008:
Sorry if this is a repeat answer, my browser messed up.
I see a lot of boobs during the course of my work, and your description sounds like normal young girl boobs.
They often do look a little 'pointy' when you're young, but this is definite... (read in full...)
Christians waiting until marriage for sex, but how far should/can we go?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both Christians and are waiting to have sex until we're married. I doubt we will end up marrying each other, but we are having a great relationship. I'm just concerned with how far we should go. We've made out a few times, a...
A. 12 November 2008:
I don't mean to sound harsh, but why aren't you asking this on a Christian forum?
You're asking for speculation about what the human beings that invented your god want you to do.
There are no clear cut rules about what you can get away wit... (read in full...)
My friend cant get past being friends with girls
Q. My best friend has the worst case of being 'stuck in the friend zone' that I've ever seen. He's a very charismatic person, and has absolutely no problem chatting to people he doesn't know. Unfortunately, he doesn't know when to...
A. 10 November 2008:
Oh yeah, he doesn't drink either....
:o(... (read in full...)
Epilepsy Advice
Q. Im so depressed and annoyed. Im a very self conscious person who had epilepsy as a child. It left me as an adolescent thankfully, but in the last 3 years, my seizures have returned so I have been diagnosed with epilepsy again. Unfortunately I had ...
A. 9 November 2008:
My best mate has really bad epilepsy, and I've seen him have quite a few seizures.
Let me tell you that nobody will be thinking you looked stupid, seeing someone having a fit is not funny, it scares the sh*t out of you because you think you're... (read in full...)
She's coming 100 miles to see me but I'm terrified as I'm still a virgin!
Q. Guys and girls! OMG I am so nervous, I'm terrified. Ok, here goes. I am a virgin. In fact, I've never kissed a girl in my 19 years of life. A girl I met on the internet (seen her on webcam, she IS real!) And she's making a special trip from...
A. 9 November 2008:
Dude, the reason any of us are here at all is because our ancestors had sex a lot.
Your only problem is nerves, not technique.
Kissing and sex aren't as easy to get wrong as you might think, you'll instinctively do it at least vaguely right.
... (read in full...)
What would REALLY put guys off a girl?
Q. A quick question, just out of interest :) Guys, what would really put you off a girl? ...
A. 9 November 2008:
Nagging. possessiveness, moodiness, the obvious stuff really.
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I have never felt so strongly about a girl before and I really want to win her over.
Q. Hello, Recently I met in person, for the first time, a girl that I have been talking to (online/phone). We clicked over the phone and always had lots to chat about. We agreed to meetup after chatting on and off for two years. She was more nervous...
A. 9 November 2008:
I don't know if telling her Surpise! I'm coming to see you! is such a good idea, it may seem a little like you're stalking her.
I think you should send her an email apologising for seeming off with her, and explaining why.
Tell her that ... (read in full...)
Why am I not being trusted ?
Q. my fiance doesn't trusts me. he says i am not virgin after he knew i had boyfriend n we were still friends n also go to his house. to prove myself i had sex wid him n i bleede but he still wants proof n says i have soft breast n did not bleede when ...
A. 9 November 2008:
How does he know that you don't have 'a good vaginal shape'?
If he's a virgin too, then he'd have nothing to compare your vagina to, so he wouldn't know what shape one should be. If he's not a virgin, then why should he expect you to be?... (read in full...)
Anal sex question!
Q. Hi, I had anal sex for the first time with my boyfriend, we didn't use a condom and I heard you're more likely to catch infections this way, is that true? Also I noticed I was bleeding a little bit after, is this normal? Thanx x...
A. 9 November 2008:
A bit of bleeding s normal, as the lining is very delicate and can be damaged easily. This high chance of open wounds is the reason why it is easier to get diseases from anal sex.
... (read in full...)
My virginity is getting in the way!
Q. I'm 26 years old and still a virgin. I'm not saving it for any reason, it just hasn't happened (which is weird I know). I really want to have a healthy sex life at my age. I'm still single, and not really concerned about being in a relationship, so ...
A. 8 November 2008:
I took my friend's virginity as a 'favour'.
I don't think your situation is too bizarre. My friend was not as old as you (she was 18) but she felt that her virginity was getting in the way in the same way that you do.
She told me that all of ... (read in full...)
Men and Commitment
Q. What is it about commitment that some men fear? I'm just trying to understand, because the guy I was with had commitment issues, and wouldn't even try and talk or explain himself to me. Is it the increase in responsibility? Fear of getting ...
A. 8 November 2008:
I hate to say it, but men often panic if they think they'll never have sex with a different girl ever again.
My friend's ex girlfriend was pretty clever about this. She kept telling him that they'd have a threesome with another girl one day, and... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 8 November 2008:
"I've seen cowboy in a million and one books, that's why I bloody certain that in this real life case he has to get the girl."
Oh ok, so no pressure or anything....
:oD... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 8 November 2008:
So, I'm a rake huh?
I have no idea what a rake is (except in the context of a garden tool), but I can infer that it is a Bad Thing.
The only thing I know about Mills & Boon is that my gran used to read them, but if this sounds like the plot... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 8 November 2008:
Ah, I see. No. No romance novels.
I guess you think that this is what I'm normally like, because the only experieence you havee of me is from this forum.
The reason that I am here in the first place is because this is completely out of ch... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 8 November 2008:
Romance novels?
Never read one I'm afraid. Are you suggesting that I read some to get ideas, or was that a sarcastic observation based upon my predicament?
Let me tell you that I'm really not enjoying any of this.
This is not what I pl... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 8 November 2008:
Incidentally, I'd like to address the issue of sex and love from a male (or at least my) perspective.
It seems that the general consensus is that I shouldn't be having sex with anyone else because of my feelings for this girl.
Allow me to... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 8 November 2008:
The 'one of you did this to me' thing was supposed to be a joke dumbass, I'm no woman hater.
Yeah she's 18 (actually 19 this week) but she's no angel, she pursued me, and she's certainly under no illusion that it's anything but a fling. Not a... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 7 November 2008:
I didn't intend it to be an excuse.
Nobody is attracted to a misery guts, so I did something about it, and now I feel a lot better.
I'll have to hold my hands up about the other bit though I guess.
Go on then, you can have one kick:op... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 7 November 2008:
Sorry Diovan, what you have to do is obtain their phone number and then send them a text.
You'll probably be horrified to learn that this is precisely what I did on Wednesday with T.
Before you jump down my throat, let me tell you that I calcu... (read in full...)
Polyurethane condoms?
Q. This is mainly one for the guys, although ladies feel free to chime in too. I have a terrible problem using condoms. I thought I was weird, but after some research, I have discovered that I'm certainly not alone, about 25% of men have the sam...
A. 6 November 2008:
Yeah, I read about the lambskin ones, but you're right about the disease thing, there are microscopic pores that can allow pathogens through.
Also, I don't know if I like the idea of putting my penis into a section of baby sheep's intestin... (read in full...)
Polyurethane condoms?
Q. This is mainly one for the guys, although ladies feel free to chime in too. I have a terrible problem using condoms. I thought I was weird, but after some research, I have discovered that I'm certainly not alone, about 25% of men have the sam...
A. 6 November 2008:
I'm right though aren't I?
Asking a girl to use a femidom is asking her to do something pretty unflattering.
Trying to retrieve one that has vanished up inside, perhaps with the help of a a bent coathanger and a torch isn't very erotic eithe... (read in full...)
Polyurethane condoms?
Q. This is mainly one for the guys, although ladies feel free to chime in too. I have a terrible problem using condoms. I thought I was weird, but after some research, I have discovered that I'm certainly not alone, about 25% of men have the sam...
A. 6 November 2008:
Sorry, I meant to mention female condoms, but I forgot.
I have tried these too, (I think they were PU actually) but at least in my case they didn't really work too well. I had problems with them either coming out or getting pushed inside. The ... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 6 November 2008:
Ok Diovan, here's what you do....
It's pretty easy as long as you follow a few simple rules.
Arrange a date. This part should be easy because you are a woman.
When you first meet them, ensure that you make it very clear early on that you... (read in full...)
Why do some guys only want girls for sex?
Q. Do they not know that girls are PEOPLE and not THINGS? What causes them to be like this? Is it in their genes?...
A. 6 November 2008:
I think lazyguy has hit the nail on the head.
It may sound a little unsympathetic, but for the most part it's true.
Just to provide a reasonable argument both ways though, there are guys who are incredibly adept at portraying themselve... (read in full...)
I'm interested to hear from anyone who does or has ever worked in the corporate office environment.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm interested to hear from anyone who does or has ever worked in the corporate office environment. I am feeling miserable and really need some advice :( I'm 25 years old and for my entire working life I have been bullied at work...
A. 6 November 2008:
I haven't worked in this type of environment, but most of my friends do.
I had to reply to say that your description of the type of bully, ie. older unattractive woman who is incompetent and controlling is EXACTLY the same description that I h... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 6 November 2008:
Lol! Fade, I think you're over analysing again. No, I was not abused, and my mother is a fantastic woman.
That quote is pretty poignant, the author has hit the nail right on the head. Rather more eloquent than my herpes analogy,but the sentimen... (read in full...)
Why is he telling me about all these other women if he supposedly likes me?
Q. I met a man through an online dating site. (First time I've used one) and he is very christian which I like. He was emailing 4-5 times a day and finally we talked on the phone for about a week. Our conversations were 3-4 hours long, so we were ...
A. 6 November 2008:
People do sometimes do things like this to see if the person they really like reacts with jealousy.
Unfortunately, it seems that this guy's graphic descriptions are something else entirely.
I agree with hopelesslyhis.
It sounds to me lik... (read in full...)
I'm being bullied, does anyone know any good comebacks?
Q. okay, i am being verbally bullied. do you have any comebacks or insults???????????????????...
A. 6 November 2008:
Yeah, I was a bit frivolous back there, bullying is dead serious.
Try to remember that the old adage that bullies are cowards is absolutely true.
You may think that talking to your parents or teacher will make the problem worse, but since... (read in full...)
Why do some guys only want girls for sex?
Q. Do they not know that girls are PEOPLE and not THINGS? What causes them to be like this? Is it in their genes?...
A. 6 November 2008:
Absolutely. And don't forget that it depends on the situation too.
I have been both a loving partner and a philanderer, and I can switch between the two with ease. To be honest, it largely depends on the girl.
If I don't want to be in a relatio... (read in full...)
I'm being bullied, does anyone know any good comebacks?
Q. okay, i am being verbally bullied. do you have any comebacks or insults???????????????????...
A. 5 November 2008:
You want comebacks?
If I wanted come back, I'd have wiped it off your mom's chin....
:o)... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 5 November 2008: No, I'd be more than happy to date a co worker, but it seems she wouldn't, at least that's the reason she gave when she turned me down before. I've read the PM you sent me, but I'm going to reply to it later because I'm at work at the moment. ... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 5 November 2008:
Ok, but you'll have to take a ticket and wait in line like everyone else :op... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 5 November 2008:
I haven't given up easily, it's been several years!
Iv'e been too embarrassed to tell anyone about it (again,the herpes analogy fits quite well...) but discussing it here has allowed me to collect my thoughts a little better.
Now I've ha... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 5 November 2008: Someone made a post earlier saying that she didn't know whether she wanted to punch me or feel sorry for me.
The post seems to have been removed, but I can quite understand her point.
I think we need to straighten this out.
I don't want this.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to masturbate in his 1st month of wedding?
Q. is it normal that the man masturbate at his 1st month of weeding? i have just get married lately and i found out that my husband musturbate alone he gets on line and watch nacked women,i dont know why he does that especially that i have never sa...
A. 4 November 2008:
Yup, we do it all the time, no biggie.
There is a theory that men masturbate in order to ensure that old sperm cells are flushed out and replaced by new, more viable ones, thus increasing the chances of producing offspring.
... (read in full...)
I can't stop these feelings of shame...
Q. Basically, about a year ago I got in to drugs and heavy drinking and became really self-destructive and depressed. I slept around a lot and started seeing my ex (Ste*) who lived near me with his girlfriend (Lucy*). One night I slept with Ste and his ...
A. 3 November 2008:
If you told her, who's benefit would it be for?
Would her life be better or worse for knowing about this thing that you did?
I think you want to tell her to alleviate your own guilt, when it seems that the best thing for you to do is live with ... (read in full...)
Will it get bigger or has it stopped growing?
Q. I have a little below average penis and I'm 17, will it get any bigger or stay like this....
A. 3 November 2008:
You could try trimming/ shaving your pubic hair, apparently that makes it look an inch longer... (read in full...)
I'm scared !
Q. hi. me and my boyfriend had sex. we got really carried away and just pulled our pants down and he stuck his penis in me. he didn't put a condom on cuz it was just in the moment. so we had sex and i guess he pulled out before he cummed and it got all ...
A. 3 November 2008:
No, I don't think the smoking = lower fertility thing would make a significant difference to your situation.
I think that information is more for people who are trying to get pregnant.... (read in full...)
Will it get bigger or has it stopped growing?
Q. I have a little below average penis and I'm 17, will it get any bigger or stay like this....
A. 2 November 2008:
All true.
One other thing that may be of interest is that with most penis length statistics, the average taken is the mean, not the median. Consequently, the majority of the men measured in the surveys are below 'average'.
In my work (I'm a b... (read in full...)
I'm scared !
Q. hi. me and my boyfriend had sex. we got really carried away and just pulled our pants down and he stuck his penis in me. he didn't put a condom on cuz it was just in the moment. so we had sex and i guess he pulled out before he cummed and it got all ...
A. 2 November 2008:
Try to stay calm. You hear horror stories about pre cum containing sperm, but pre cum on its own does not.
The problem is that if he had ejaculated recently, there may still have been viable sperm in his urethra, and this can be carried into you... (read in full...)
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