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female
age
51-59,
*ountain girl
writes:I met a man through an online dating site. (First time I've used one) and he is very christian which I like. He was emailing 4-5 times a day and finally we talked on the phone for about a week. Our conversations were 3-4 hours long, so we were getting to know each other. We met after 2 weeks of communicating and we got along well. Then he went in for the kiss. He was ALL OVER ME! After he had told me he was really trying to walk with the Lord, I felt he wasn't being very Godly. After that night was over he was calling me all the time. then he started talking to me about all these opportunities he could have had with other women but wasn't interested until he saw my on the dating site. He feels we met for a reason. He was telling me about these other women...in DETAIL! Very revealing tops, flat stomachs, nice body, even details about women on other dating sites about how they showed their bodies, how they were lifting their shirts and showing just a hint of their breasts, and sort shorts showing white lacy underwear ETC!!!!!! I told him I wasn't interested in hearing all the details and he was talking to me the way he should be telling a guy these things. Then he had to go to Vegas for business and wanted some time to 'seek clarity'. While he was gone he emailed me twice which I didn't reply because I was giving him his time, and he called once and I took that call. But, he was telling me about the free passes to the playboy club and how all the girls looked! Why does he think I want to know that? Then he ended by saying that there was something missing while he was there, and that was 'me' at his side. He got home the other night and hasn't called or emailed since. What is going on???? He is 46, and I'm 41. He has commented on how good loking I am and that I have a body of a 25 year old. So WHY is he telling me about all these other women? Why would he think I would be interested in hearing those details? Why hasn't he contacted me since he's been home?
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (6 November 2008):
 To me it seems a little like game playing. There seems to be a pattern, he tells you about all of these beautiful women who seemingly want him, but then reassures you he would rather you.
It seems like he is trying to talk himself up and score brownie points with you, the aim being that you will think you've got yourself quite a catch and you're lucky he chose you over all these other potential candidates.
He seems like a clueless, sex driven male playing the only games he knows how to keep a womans attention!
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reader, Cowboy  +, writes (6 November 2008):
People do sometimes do things like this to see if the person they really like reacts with jealousy.
Unfortunately, it seems that this guy's graphic descriptions are something else entirely.
I agree with hopelesslyhis.
It sounds to me like he's trying to make himself sound desirable, whilst simultaneously trying to make you feel bad about yourself.
That way, you will feel so grateful for his attention that you will be putty in his hands, or at least that's what he is hoping.
This is pretty awful behaviour on his part, and I get the feeling that he's not a very nice guy.
I'm not a religious person myself, but I still think it's pretty despicable for someone claiming to 'walk with the lord' to behave in this way. Sometimes a guy will say whatever he thinks you want to hear, just to get into your pants.
If you like the idea of someone who shares your beliefs, then I think the anonymous poster's idea of using a specifically Christian dating service might turn up something better than this jackass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): I hate to tell you this, but he is not acting like a Christian. He may have been telling you what he thought you wanted to hear in regards to his being a Christian man, but he definitely isn't one.
Wow, if these are supposed to be compliments, I would hate to hear criticism from him!
Honestly, you should stay away from him, he is bad news and an obvious womanizer. You would be setting yourself up for a rough relationship if you continued seeing him. He is unpredictable, unreliable and very selfish. Do yourself a favor and don't see or talk to him again.
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reader, xxhoplesslyhisxx +, writes (5 November 2008):
i believe that there could be two possiblities...
1. he wants you to be jealous and appear that he is wanted so you will want him more
or
2. hes a jerk and does not appreciate women and you and see them as objects and trophies
i hope everything works out and why he is acting like this before you get hurt.. keep me updated.. good luck =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): It sounds like he is over-interested in sex rather than people.
My advice is go on a specifically Christian site, if that's what you want, and contact some others.
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