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writes:Guys and girls! OMGI am so nervous, I'm terrified.Ok, here goes. I am a virgin. In fact, I've never kissed a girl in my 19 years of life. A girl I met on the internet (seen her on webcam, she IS real!) And she's making a special trip from a 100 miles away to come and see me and spend the night.She is a virgin, but she doesn't know I am. She thinks I'm expereinced. I can't tell her I am a virgin, it might ruin things.Anyway, how do I kiss?! She's kissed lads before, what do I do!? I don't know how?And sex itself!? PLease help me, I genuinely like this girl and want a relationship, but I'm scared I'll be useless in bed. My penis is only about 5 and half inches long! Any tips on making her cum and orgasm.Plus, I'm a little on the weighty side, my stomach is quite bloated and I'm pale and pasty, so she'll be put off by my body. I'm gonna try to get in more shape, but she's here in a month!Also, she'll arrive in the afternoon and leave tomorrow at noon. So what do we do in the meantime? We'll have to use my parents bed for sex, mine's only a single. I can't talk to women! I've been quite charming over MSN (I must have been or she wouldn't come to me for her first time), but in real life I'm useless. Shit, this is starting to sound like a bad idea....I've never had a girlfriend before!What do we do? watch a dvd? I don't bloody know....I really need your help! I'm desperate and nervous and need help!
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reader, wickyricky +, writes (11 November 2008):
dont be sure she goin to sleep with you the first night and if she wants to just tell her ur a virgin she will respect you more if you do it will be a special night for you both good luck
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reader, Cowboy +, writes (9 November 2008):
Dude, the reason any of us are here at all is because our ancestors had sex a lot.
Your only problem is nerves, not technique.
Kissing and sex aren't as easy to get wrong as you might think, you'll instinctively do it at least vaguely right.
I am still good friends with my first girlfriend from 15 years ago.
When we got together, we both told each other that we weren't virgins, and it was only about a year ago that we admitted to each other that we were both in fact virgins the first time we had sex. We had a right old laugh about it too :oD
A girl I used to go out with had only had sex three times before she meet me, even though she was 22.
That didn't stop her being absolutely fantastic in bed.
My point is that even if you fumble around a bit and don't really know what you're doing, you'll find that you pick it up extremely rapidly when you are in a bed with a naked girl.
Stop worrying and have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, change of plans.
The whole sex thing was planned in the euphoria of meeting someone new and both liking each other.
Now, I'm going to her and we are not going to have sex, beause we both realised how stupid it would be to have sex the first time we met.
We're gonna get to know each other and hopefully start a relationship. I'm worried though, I've never had a relationship before!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): How lovely to hear a guy being so honest about all this!
Why is this woman travelling so far to have sex with you? It sounds like you might rather get to know her first, in which case say so. Your first sexual encounter is nerve-wracking enough, without doing it with someone you never met before!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): I'd like to know what makes you think she'll step through the door and rip her clothes off expecting to have her virginity cured?
Nice girls don't just jump into bed with a guy the first time they meet. I'd learn to walk first before trying to run if I were you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): Dude just try to make more comfortable with each other. Ask her for a kiss. just start with 1 kiss then tell her that you like her & want to kiss again. make her romantic............then see..........as you told you both are not experienced then dont worry just start kissing her.............. you will find the way..........................
best of luck.
just remember
virginity is not a dignity its a lack of opportunity........ so dont waste this opportunity.
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reader, Metroncho  +, writes (31 October 2008):
Wow, wow, boy...relax a bit, for the world is not ending tomorrow! I see you're too nervous because of all the situation so my first advice would be to sit down and calm down. How could you do that?, Why not fantasize about the whole thing becoming into the worst disaster in human history?...after that you'll start to realize it will never get to be that bad, so why worry? Second step make a little planning of the time she'll spend with you; why not start showing her around your neighbourhood, you could get into a coffe house and have a nice conversation possibly about your interests, hobbies etc, nothing too personal just so you both feel comfortable with each other. After that I guess you could have supper somewhere nice. When it comes to sleepping I would suggest you to either book a hotel room with too indiviual beds o go home (it depends on how confortable you think you both could be)so that you don't feel that forced to make it. When the time comes, you'll find out how everything is going, so you then -not before- decide to go for it or not. Anyway, you should have planned also the way the morning after is going to be like, but I am sure you'll find interesting things to do in your area. Anyway, the important thing is to take it easy, and enjoy it! so boy have fun and don't worry too much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): oh dear, it's all catching up with you isn't it? Be honest with her, about your virginity, about the fact that you feel pressured into sex (you do, even if you want the experience), and meet her. Spend time with her. If she doesn't like your body that much then you'll part ways and that's fine. If it doesn't bother her, then it shouldn't bother you either, so move on and forget about that aspect of yourself as you develop a relationship with her. Frankly the worst thing you could do right now is sleep with her so quickly, spend some time in each others company, go to the cinema or whatever, doesn't have to be big and expensive, just be yourself. Please relax, you'll push her away be being a nervous wreck, because that'll make you all the more pushy, which she may not like. So to sum up, chill out, be honest with her before she comes, and enjoy your time together. If sex doesn't happen then that's FINE, give it time! be confident! provided you haven't told her too many more lies already (set any of them straight before she comes), then it should all work out nicely. Maybe she's just as worried - she's a virgin, maybe she's just as nervous as you are! Set her up a single bed in a spare room or somewhere you're not going to be, then if she wants to sleep with you she can (a single bed isn't the end of the world unless you're both truly massive!), but there isn't the pressure to do so.Yeah she's pretty, but get over it. There's more to life, love and relationships than getting your willy wet. Be nice to her, don't try too hard, and chill out! if she leaves knowing you a little better, and you knowing her a little better then that's cool, see where it goes in the future.hope it works out!
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