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writes:hi. me and my boyfriend had sex. we got really carried away and just pulled our pants down and he stuck his penis in me. he didn't put a condom on cuz it was just in the moment. so we had sex and i guess he pulled out before he cummed and it got all over me. all on my butt and leg. but i don't know if any got in my vagina. i went to the bathroom after and cleaned myself up. im scared that some got in me. cuz i dont know for sure. i know it was so stupid to do this but it happens.. and also when i had sex with someone with a condom i didnt feel anything and when i had sex this time (with a different person) with no condom it felt so good. can someone help me out as of what to do?! i can't tell a doctor or any grown ups. and i don't trust most of my friends. help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): I don't know if this is available in your area or where you live but Plan B is the best option. I don't think people should depend on this all the time but if you make a mistake, there is a way to pretty much guarantee that there's nothing to worry about. Plan B (incase you didnt know) is just 2 pills that you take within 72 hours of the incident, they are 98% effective in preventing pregnancy.. they are pretty inexpensive if you go to a womens clinic like "Planned Parenthood." They are also available depending on your age at most pharmacies in some states.
If its been over 72 hours or if you don't think that would be right for you.. then you should wait until you get your period/miss your period, and then immediately tell you parents and figure out what is best.
take care!!!!!!!!!! AND BE CAREFUL its worth it.
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reader, Aunty Em  +, writes (5 November 2008):
 When smoking has affected a man's sperm count - he's been smoking for a long time and lots of it! We're talking later 30's at the earliest for a bad smoker. Not in your case. Get tested - it is the only way.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (3 November 2008):
 Go get a test asap! Thats the only way you will know and try to stay calm. It may not be that bad! Good luck xx
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reader, Cowboy +, writes (3 November 2008):
No, I don't think the smoking = lower fertility thing would make a significant difference to your situation.
I think that information is more for people who are trying to get pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand my boyfriend also smokes. a lot. and i've heard that decreases the sperm count. is this true and could this make it less possible for me to get pregnant?
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reader, CherryCupcake +, writes (2 November 2008):
Hey hon, i can imagine how youre feeling but wait till your period and if you dont come on take a test. Remember, taking one if not sufficent, you need to do more, they can be wrong. Or you can go see a doctor and provide a urine sample and they will do the test and discuss the options when you get the results. They can also talk to you about types of contraception, its worth going hon. Trust me. Good luck!
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reader, Cowboy +, writes (2 November 2008):
Try to stay calm. You hear horror stories about pre cum containing sperm, but pre cum on its own does not.
The problem is that if he had ejaculated recently, there may still have been viable sperm in his urethra, and this can be carried into you with the pre cum.
This means that although there is a slight risk, it's nowhere near as bad as if he actually came inside you.
The risk is high enough that you should never allow yourself to get into this situation again. Many women have got pregnant from doing just what you did., but the good news it that the chance that you are pregnant is very low.
Take a deep breath and do a test.
It will almost certainly be negative, but I hope that you learned something from this and will be more careful in future.
As to feeling better without a condom, you're absolutely right, but it is really worth the worry?
It might be worth thinking about other methods of birth control if the better feeling makes you take risks like this.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (2 November 2008):
To not tell a doctor or parents means your limiting yourself to your only options. The pull out method isn't a risk free contraception you know - there is such thing as pre-cum, which will have settled inside you. So you can't be sure. Go buy a pregnancy test.
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