How can I know for sure that we're in love?
Q. How do I know if he is really in love with me? How do I know if I am really in love with him. We have been together for almost ten months and we are both crazy about eachother but how do i know if it is love or not? Also we have a 6 or 7 ye...
A. 12 October 2005: Love is it a difficult emotion to define
Also remember being in Love is followed by Love itself, which is needeD for a secure relationship.
If you are in loove you will probably feel blisfully happy, nothing else matters except him, and you thin... (read in full...)
I still care for my daughter's husband, but he's been in jail for a while...
Q. I am in love with my daughter's father who is in jail. He's been in jail for about a year now, and during this whole time I have been faithful to him, but I am now having feelings for my childhood friend whom I have known for 10 years. What should I ...
A. 12 October 2005: What sort of feelings? A crush? If you can still see yourself getting back together with your daughters father, and that is what you want in the long term, you should try and ignore the feelings. How will he feel finally being free after 10 years, ... (read in full...)
I'm prepared for no sex to please her until we're married, but she's not sure she wants to marry me...
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 3 years and my partner has said to me that she has felt sex outside of marriage has been difficult. Dave's my name and I have said that I would choose abstinence (no sexual contact). If this is going to work or ...
A. 12 October 2005: If you mean you feel guilty about not having sex, why? If you think that you can have a good relationship with her without having sex, and that is what she wants, why not? After you have been together for a while, she may change her mind.Whatever ... (read in full...)
Could this be a long-term relationship?
Q. Here Goes... I'm a gay man who has met another great guy about a month ago. I find him intelligent, attractive, attentive, and much more. We decided we wouldn't have sex until about the 8th date. We did. This was about two weeks ago. He conti...
A. 11 October 2005: What are you concerned about? He sounds like a great guy, and I'm sure you'll be very happy. ... (read in full...)
Want my ex back, but I don't want a non-committal relationship with him!
Q. Hi there, My ex and I broke up due to circumstantial pressures (I had to move in with him due to other problems when we weren't at all ready and we just both clammed up in panic, then I found a place and moved out - the break up was decided by him t...
A. 11 October 2005: I think you should get back together with him if that is what YOU want. But you should make sure he knows how you feel about avoiding an 'in-between' 'ex-sex' sort of thing .Go on a date with him, and see how you both cope... (read in full...)
Our families would be against our marrying, but I still want us to be together...
Q. I was dating my ex boyfriend for almost 4 years, we broke up because we realised we couldn't get married due to the fact that we are of different religions and our families wouldn't be supporting. However, I want to get back with him even if it m...
A. 11 October 2005: If you believe that you will stay together, and that you will both be faithful, i don not see anyr reason why you should not stay together, even if you do not get married... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so cold that I'm becoming depressed.
Q. Why cant he just show me he cares? Help me, I love my partner but I feel we will be over soon - if not already. Certain events have happened during the course of the last year to cause me to be insecure and depressed. The problem is - he ju...
A. 10 October 2005: Dump him. He's no good for you. You deserve a lot better. ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend keep breaking up for trivial reasons?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 years, and for some reason he always seems to break up with me, because of weird things. Like the first time the reason was he just said some space, then the second time was because in my he...
A. 10 October 2005: Ask him plain and straight whether he wouldn't like to just break up permanently! Personally I don't like the sound of him. Talk to him about this, because if I was you, I would give him a taste of his own medicine, and walk... (read in full...)
My heart and mind conflict about whether to break up...
Q. If your mind tells you that you want to break up but your heart tells you that you love them...which do you choose?...
A. 10 October 2005: If you're mind can honestly tell you that staying in a relationship will hurt you, listen to it, and get out of there.... (read in full...)
Far from congratulating us on the engagement, my fiancee's family are trying to dissuade her!
Q. Hi, it would be great if anyone has some advice for my situation... I've recently become engaged to a girl of 25, 5 years my junior after being in a relationship just over a year and things haven't progressed as I thought. We were both extreme...
A. 10 October 2005: Why don't you talk to your fiancee and wait a while? You could get married in a year or so, to give her time to build up her career a bit more. This should pacify her parents. But at the end of the day, you're not marrying them, are you?... (read in full...)
Falling for a work colleague and it's so hard not to say anything!
Q. I've fallen for a colleague who's in a relationship. We've known each other for about a year now and we get along so well. Lately it's becoming unbearable for me to see him every day and not tell him how I really feel. I've decided not to tell him...
A. 10 October 2005: For the moment keep quiet. Letting this spill when he's in a relationship will only embarass you. Wait til his current relationship is over, then a moth or so after, ask him out for a drink. Good luck... (read in full...)
Snooped on his phone and found some messages that make me wonder if he's cheating...
Q. When staying at my boyfriend's house the other month I found a dating services newsletter in the post he had left it in his room, obviously put to one side. I have since looked on his mobile and found text messages from online dating services. I ...
A. 10 October 2005: Honesty is the best policy. Tell him straight out. ... (read in full...)
Can't tell if the boss is coming on to me...
Q. Dear Cupid My boss, who is older than me, has been giving off very confusing signals! When we have been alone he has been very close but nothing more. This evening as were leaving he said "We always seem to leave together; people will talk...
A. 10 October 2005: I would say that this means he is interested in you. If you carry on recieving strong signals like these, you should tell him straight out if you are not interested... (read in full...)
My married guy is single now and I still have feelings for him...
Q. About a year ago I had a relationship with this married guy. We slept together 3 times and we really cared for each other. Then he heard this rumor that I told on us, even though I didn't tell anybody. Then he stopped talking to me completely. T...
A. 10 October 2005: Do you love him, or do you need him? If you just want him phsyically you're doing yourself no good at all. Build your way up from being his friend again. If he won't talk to you, remind him, you never told a soul.If he still won't talk to you, just ... (read in full...)
I saw the name of the other guy she's seeing on the email she sent me
Q. Hi, I'm in my late 30's, she's in her mid 20's and we really truly fell hard in love with one another..I know she loves me deeply..okay, question... We have been on a break for 2 and a 1/2 months. I know, it seems long, but I took a break initi...
A. 10 October 2005: You are overreacting! Why do you think that it's him? It could be anyone! And is it any business of yours who she e-mails? If she loves you she won't lie to you. If you really love her, you'll trust her.... (read in full...)
Afraid that my ex will find someone else, while we're still friends...
Q. Hi. I have a question concerning how to take my ex. We have been broken up for 3 months. For a while we hardly talked, now we are starting to date once a week and talk on the phone daily, which I am very happy about. We both talk (as friends)...
A. 10 October 2005: Why did you break up in the first place? Will it affect your relationship if you get back togther?
Maybe you should just trust him. Unless you broke up because he lied or cheated, or has a history of that, it sounds like the most sensible thing to d... (read in full...)
Why is he doing it? Every time I'm free to visit him, he's "busy"!
Q. Hi there everyone, Over the summer I met a guy who's slightly younger than me (by 2 years) who came to stay at the place I was working whilst on a sporting event. We got on really well and went out together with a few of the friends he was playing ...
A. 10 October 2005: Tricky. He doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would string you along. Maybe you should tell him how you feel. Honesty is always the best policy.Good Luck... (read in full...)
Bob's the sort of man I want to marry... just not right now.
Q. I’m 18 years old and trying to figure out the relationships in my life. For instance "Bob". He’s 19 years old and graduated a year before me. I’ve known him for 2 years and have dated him on and off. we've been really good friends forever. We still ...
A. 10 October 2005: Do you think that if you start something with Bob you can keep it together? Can you wait? It's not really a wise idea to sleep around for a year if you're plannig to settle down with someone specific afterwards; you're putting yourself and him in ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to understand that I only want her?
Q. I've been with my current girlfriend for the last 5 and a half years. Throughout these last few years she has been very jealous of my female friends. Over the years she must of accused me of having affairs or being attracted to almost all of them. ...
A. 10 October 2005: If she's just not listening to you, maybe you should call it a day. A good relationship requires both of you to listen to each other. Tell her that she can pull her act together, or you can leave. I'm sorry to seem tough, but that's how it seems to ... (read in full...)
I don't like the way I come across to guys
Q. Dear Cupid, I find myself constantly attracted to a great number of guys at school - but find myself clamming up, or taking on an attitude with them that, when I reflect back on what I say, seems very pompous and conceited. I find myself repulsiv...
A. 10 October 2005: How old are you? If you are still at school, then there is an easy solution. Most people who turn out to be gay do not know it for quite a while after they have left school. Don't worry. Stick at your freindship, and if they do turn out to like you ... (read in full...)
An old ex from work is straining the relationship between me and the man I fancy!
Q. I've been flirting with a man from work for a few weeks and to my delight he asked me out recently. (though we are keeping it secret from people at work) The problem is people at work keep gossiping about me fancying another man who works there an...
A. 3 October 2005: Tell your date. Tell him plain and straight that this is the truth. If he's worth holding on to, he'll belive you. ... (read in full...)
I didn't ask the girl out. Now I think I've lost her friendship, too!
Q. Needing to find a way to redeem myself I work with a girl who I developed a strong liking for. Despite several opportunities to ask her out I kept clamming up because I kept thinking that she may not feel the same way and didn’t want to spoil th...
A. 3 October 2005: Maybe you should just talk to her. Write her a letter, if you can't face telling her face to face. That way she knows how you really feel. Honesty is always the best policy. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a younger girl, but she's into my cousin!
Q. I'm 15 and I really like this girl (13) and my friends keep saying I'm in love but I'm not sure. The problem is she likes my cousin and I don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about her....
A. 3 October 2005: Let's be honest; she is a bit young for you. 13 is young for dating any wya, and at that age, two years is a big age gap. How old is your cousin? Does she like him, or does she really like him? If you date her, how will your cousin feel? Your best ... (read in full...)
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