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writes: How do I know if he is really in love with me? How do I know if I am really in love with him. We have been together for almost ten months and we are both crazy about eachother but how do i know if it is love or not? Also we have a 6 or 7 year age difference. I have never been in love before, how do I know if it is LOVE? Cupid please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Hun, when asked to define what true love is, even the experts have to pause and think about that question. Perhaps it's because true love has different meanings for different people. My own personal definition of knowing if it's love is... caring about the health, well-being and happiness of another person to a greater degree than your own health, well-being and happiness and they feel the same about you. It's when you carefully consider your words, thoughts and actions and specifically
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2005): Hun, when asked to define what true love is, even the experts have to pause and think about that question. Perhaps it's because true love has different meanings for different people. My own personal definition of knowing if it's love is... caring about the health, well-being and happiness of another person to a greater degree than your own health, well-being and happiness and they feel the same about you. It's when you carefully consider your words, thoughts and actions and specifically how they will benefit that other person, then you're in love and you love this person with great depth and meaningfulness. True love is when you care enough for another person to allow them the space and time they need to become all they can be. Two words basically-unconditional support. Hope this helps you understand it better...good luck and keep being happy.
Hugs, Irish
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reader, xixi +, writes (12 October 2005):
If you’re feelings of being “crazy in love” means that you’re super hot for one another, then it may just be lust, not love. The very fact that you’re questioning your feelings may mean that at some level you know that there is something not quite right about this relationship. If you find that you spend most of your time being physical and can’t keep your hands off each other every time you see each other, then it’s probably not true lasting love, but a hot-and-heavy physical attraction.
Has he introduced you to his family? Have you introduced him to yours? Do you know each other’s friends very well? What do your closest friends and family think of him? That’s usually a very good indicator of whether or not you’re in a good, healthy relationship. Especially introducing one another to the family, because that indicates that he’s already thinking of you in terms of raising a family together with you and making you part of his family.
From personal experience, I know it can be really, really hard to tell the difference from hot-and-heavy exhilarating lust and true love. Physical and sexual attraction can be extremely overpowering and hard to get an objective perspective on. Try as best as you can to let reason and logic to rule over your heart and hormones for a moment and think about your long-term prospects together.
But, as long as it’s mutual, there’s nothing wrong with having a physical relationship and just enjoy the moment. Just don’t expect things to last forever once the roller coaster ride comes to an end and your man starts telling you that he’s unsure about marriage but wants to keep things going as they are. Most importantly, protect yourself from getting hurt emotionally. Wish you all the best!
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reader, AuntieChrissy +, writes (12 October 2005):
Love is it a difficult emotion to define
Also remember being in Love is followed by Love itself, which is needeD for a secure relationship.
If you are in loove you will probably feel blisfully happy, nothing else matters except him, and you think of him all day every day. You talk about him to your friends so much they're sick of hearin of him. He's the first thing on your mind when you wake up and the last when you go to sleep
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reader, Pinky Poos +, writes (12 October 2005):
How can you define love? You can listen to all the cliches on tv and in books, such as does he make your heart flutter? Do you get butterflies in your tummy? Does your heart skip a beat?
I believe love is feeling comfortable with someone, Not being afraid to put off shaving your legs for a while, feeling comfortable about your body with him, laughing at his jokes even when they may not be funny. But you know the best way of knowing if the love is there.....imagine life without him. The saying you don't know what you have until it's gone is really true! Arrange to go away without your guy for a weekend, or stay at a friends for the weekend. If he trusts you, which he should, it should be fine. Have a girly weekend away. And if not an hour goes by without him popping into your head, or little things reminding you of him..then that should answer your question. Love doesn't have to be at first sight, or come easily, love cannot be measured or compared. Love has to be worked at and appreciated. Goood luck darling.
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reader, Stewart Terrace +, writes (12 October 2005):
Hi love affects people in different ways if nothing eles matters but him and you start to dream of a future together. True love is best friends
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