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writes: I've fallen for a colleague who's in a relationship. We've known each other for about a year now and we get along so well. Lately it's becoming unbearable for me to see him every day and not tell him how I really feel. I've decided not to tell him about my feelings for the sake of our friendship, but I don't know if keeping quiet will do me any good in the long run... Please help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Cambelina  +, writes (11 October 2005):
I know it must be so frustrating for you, but i really think you wouldn't get anywhere by saying anything whilst he's in a relationship. There are subtle hints you can drop to show that you like him with mild flirtation and so on which will put the "idea" of you and him in his mind, but you really should hold off on saying anything at the moment.
Throw yourself into working on cultivating a friendship with him so that if the event occured that he was to break up with his current partner, you already have an excellent basis ready and waiting for you both upon which to build a relationship. Consider it "laying the groundwork" whilse u wait! ;)
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reader, AuntieChrissy +, writes (10 October 2005):
For the moment keep quiet. Letting this spill when he's in a relationship will only embarass you. Wait til his current relationship is over, then a moth or so after, ask him out for a drink. Good luck
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