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My mind is set to leave him, but I have a suspicion that I'm pregnant
Q. Hello everyone... I'm in a stressful situation and I don't think I'm thinking clearly at all. I need some insight please...You see, I have been with a 35yr old man for two years, (I am 20) and he was the first and all that...I regret that so much ...
A. 3 February 2012: Try not to stress yourself out so much. I get nauseated when I'm incredibly stressed. I thought I may have been pregnant too because of that but it turned out to be negative. It may very well be the fact that your coming off of birth control too. ... (read in full...)
My cousin loves me and wants me to have his baby
Q. my first cousin and i have always been close. we barely saw each other when we were little due to him living in another country, yet when he can to visit with his mum we always hung out. i didnt see him for about 6 or 7 years and he was 18 when i ...
A. 30 January 2012: You just had a son. Do you have a brother or sister? If not, then for this comparison imagine that you do. Think of it this way: Would you want your brother or sister's daughter to have a baby or romantic relationship with your son? Empathy is a ... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I don't want a relationship just to make babies.
Q. Well, I am 19 years old and want a child so bad I can hardly wait. Yet I have been waiting for 2yrs now and am tired of waiting. I am mature, live on my own, have a job and everything else I need. I even have taken parenting classes and already have ...
A. 30 January 2012: First off, let me state I understand perfectly where you are coming from. I have known my entire life that I wanted to be a mother. Sometimes the desire is so strong it's almost painful. But I don't want to be irresponsible either. My desire to ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mom that I'm sexual active and may have herpes?
Q. For all the mother on this please help! I made the bigest mistake of my life I went out and had sex with someone I thought loved me and now I think I have genital herpies and I want to get tested but I'm scared to tell my mom I am sexually active ...
A. 17 February 2011: The best thing you can do for yourself is to be honest with your mother and get to a doctor. In the mean time, have you tried to Google images? Try to compare. Also, if you already saw a doctor about this, he'd be *VERY* clear about whether or not ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my boyfriend get over his emotional affair?
Q. I've been in love with my boyfriend (ex-fiance) for the past four years. I recently discovered that he has been having an emotional affair with a girl he went to junior high with years ago. I have not read all of the emails, but the glimpses I catch ...
A. 16 February 2011: You deserve much better. He is elfish. He straight up told you he did it on purpose to hurt you. He's also told you that no woman will tell him who to talk to. This tells me, as plain as day, that he has no respect for you or any woman.
The best... (read in full...)
Is this considered betrayal?
Q. I'd been talking to this guy online for awhile now. Nothing serious, but we did initially plan to meet up over the summer. We clicked pretty quickly and we were talking pretty regularly for awhile as friends when I decided to actually meet him, ...
A. 16 February 2011: That's pretty tough but the heart wants what the heart wants.
I know a girl who met her husband the same way. She met a guy online but ended up falling for the guy's friend who she ended up marrying.
It could be seen or felt like betrayal on his p... (read in full...)
Is it normal to think about cheating if you've only been married for 2 months. I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. Hi everyone, I was just wondering whether it's normal to think about cheating if you have only been married 2 months and already sex is out of the question. Tried talking about it, but personal issues on my partner's side mean we don't. I have ...
A. 16 February 2011: I'm sure it's normal to think about it but to act on it is completely different. You just got married and that is no small commitment. But the fact that you are married and you're not having sex is not healthy, especially if it's only been two ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had success getting over depression?
Q. Has anyone ever had success getting over depression? Has anyone ever been really depressed in their early 20's and then gotten over it later on in their life without the use of drugs or therapy? Do things get better later on in your 20s? Do ...
A. 10 March 2010: If your depression isn't that bad then try to ride it out until the end of college. But life is life and it doesn't always go as planned. But being depressed is nothing to be ashamed of. Many people suffer from it. I wouldn't be surprised if a good ... (read in full...)
I'm scared he will leave me again...
Q. Dear cupid i have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 years and, he has been the only person who i have ever loved. A few weeks ago he left me and didn't give me a good enough answer to say why he left me, he told me he didn't love me the way ...
A. 10 March 2010: Sounds to me like this will not end well. Not only did he already attempt to leave you (and didn't even have that great of a reason) he's trying to take someone else out. And if he says you're not trying when you know you are trying really hard, ... (read in full...)
Torn between the army and having a baby...
Q. i'm 20 years old and im about to join the army. I have never thought about having a baby before. I always said i didnt want one. But for the past few months everyone seems to be getting pregnant around me and its making me want one myself. My mom ...
A. 10 March 2010: I'm twenty, single, and in a few months I'll be joining the army and it seems like all my friends are getting married and having babies. I can relate to you very much. I want kids very badly. I would love to have a baby but I know now is just not ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had success getting over depression?
Q. Has anyone ever had success getting over depression? Has anyone ever been really depressed in their early 20's and then gotten over it later on in their life without the use of drugs or therapy? Do things get better later on in your 20s? Do ...
A. 9 March 2010: I've dealt with depression for years myself. There is a possibility of overcoming it on your own depending on the kind of depression. There's situational depression and then chronic, as far as I know.
If you don't like the idea of taking drugs, that... (read in full...)
Can't grab a guy... help!!!!
Q. I just can't seem to work up the courage to ask any of the guys i like out, is that a result of insicurity or bad parenting? i know a lot of guys and some are even friendly on a daily basis. I want a real relationship! but im not the type of girl ...
A. 9 March 2010: You shouldn't have to change who you are juts to grab a guy. If you are patient, a guy will come along who loves you for who you are. Baggy t-shirts and all! In fact, there are guys out there who would actually prefer it that way.
However, do try ... (read in full...)
How can I make sure he knows I love him just as much as he loves me?
Q. This isn't really a question... but I just needed someone to share this with. My current boyfriend is SOOOO sweet! Here's something he said to me: "idky, but i really miss u right now :S i think its cuz i just want to hold you in my arms...
A. 9 March 2010: I guess by telling him how he makes you feel. That when he said that, you "just about melted into a puddle". I'm sure he'd love to hear you tell him that. And give him encouragement. Men love and crave encouragement and affirmation just as much as ... (read in full...)
I kicked him out but he won't leave me alone!
Q. I kick my ex boyfriend out going on about a week ago. Sense I did that he calls everyday all day texing me all day and it drives me crazy !!!!! The problem is we didn't get alone and all we did was fuss while we were living together. He doesn't have ...
A. 9 March 2010: He's 37. He need's to realize that he can't rely on other people for support. He is an adult! He needs to start acting like one. If he has a job, then nothing should stop him from finding another place, if he really applies himself. Don't give in, ... (read in full...)
Was my cousin trying to have sex with me?
Q. Was my cousin trying to have sex with me? About 4 months ago me and her and the family went to France and stayed in a hostel one night our parents left and there was a friend sleeping on the sofa and my cousin was taking a shower and came out nake...
A. 9 March 2010: Could be she was just looking for attention. She may thrive off the attention she receives from guys, whether it's her male cousin or not. If she has any ethics at all, I'm sure she wasn't trying to have sex with you.
As to what would've happ... (read in full...)
He answers my questions with questions, should I just walk?
Q. I don't even know how to ask for help with this question. I've been asking so many in the last couple of days. Right now my situation is different. In the last month and a half that my boyfriend and I have been dating I have been very up and down ...
A. 9 March 2010: You're welcome and I'm glad to hear everything turned out well =]... (read in full...)
He's really into me and wants a threesome!!!
Q. I have a boyfriend, we've only been together a month, but we're really into each other or at least I think he's really into me. I mean, he asked if I would participate in having a threesome. Not a normal threesome. He just wants to have 2 girls give ...
A. 9 March 2010: The naked truth is that he just has no love or respect for you if he keeps pushing your boundries. When a guy doesn't understand that no means no, it's a sign to stay far away. I'm repeating what everyone else is saying, this guy is bad news and you ... (read in full...)
I'm being needy and clingy, but is it really my fault? Help!!
Q. I'm in that common insecure situation here that every gal gets! So me n my boyfriend are together for 2 1/2 years now and its brilliant!, only not as brilliant as it was in the first year of togetherness!. So, we're studying in the same ...
A. 9 March 2010: I can't tell you the 100% right thing to do because I don't know the entire situation and it's only my personal opinion but from the sound of it, you might just be better off finding someone else. You deserve to be treated like you're captivating to ... (read in full...)
Best friend moved, best friend came back, best friend turned into... a 13-year-old-prostitute!!!
Q. I used to have a best friend I told everything to, then one day she moved away. Lo and behold! A year later my best friend returns, everything should be perfect right? Wrong, unfortunately again, because when she came back she wasn't the friend I ...
A. 9 March 2010: Being your age is never easy. And then throwing in friend you care about who is headed down a very destructive path only makes things harder. You can try to reach out to her and tell her you're concerns, but having been a 13 year old girl once ... (read in full...)
He answers my questions with questions, should I just walk?
Q. I don't even know how to ask for help with this question. I've been asking so many in the last couple of days. Right now my situation is different. In the last month and a half that my boyfriend and I have been dating I have been very up and down ...
A. 9 March 2010: From the sound of it, I think you already know what you have to do. You and I are in the same age group and we're both heterosexual women so if I were in your shoes, I would tell him "You either love me and want to be with me, and only me and not ... (read in full...)
Edge of desire...
Q. I'm 17 years old and have been dating the Same guy since my freshMan year. There is in doubt in my mind that i'm not in love with him... but about 8 months ago he broke up with me. I was heartbroken but I started talking to a boy that I liked. Well ...
A. 9 March 2010: This is a really tough situation to be in but I would suggest that you take time and really decide what it is that you really want first.... (read in full...)
Topsy turvy or bottoms up?
Q. okay, well i've been with my bf for nearly a year and ive always been bottom and i love it like that, ive never even thought, fantasied or considered myself to be on the top side of sex it just doesn't do it for me, but now my bf wants me to top him ...
A. 9 March 2010: If it's something he really wants, then keep trying. Try talking to him and explaining that it's hard for you but since you want to make him happy you'll keep trying and ask him to please be patient with you. But a little clarification as to why you ... (read in full...)
My girl won't please me the way I want her to!
Q. Should I break up with my girl if she won't give me the pleasure I want? She's always making up excuses so as not to do what I want and, just for the record, I always give her whatever she wants, even without her having to ask me for it....
A. 9 March 2010: Based on the information you added, I'd say it sounds like you two may not be compatible. If you can't see yourself with her in five years, or maybe ten years, as the person she is today and not who she might become, then I'd say it's not worth ... (read in full...)
Feeling ready to give my virginity to him.
Q. i am a virgin and i have very strong feelings for my boyfriend. we have know each other for all most a year now and i think that he may be the one i lose my virginity to. how do i get him to see that i am ready to give myself over to him without ...
A. 9 March 2010: First off, you're not wrong to be having these urges, it's only natural, but you're still very young, hun. Aged 13-15, chances are you will not be with this person for very long. And you would be taking a HUGE risk of getting your heart broken and ... (read in full...)
Been with him for 10 years and want to get married...
Q. I need Help, I have been with My Boyfriend Almost Ten years, and I have hinted to Him For awhile that I want to Get married. He has a son that I just adore and He is know asking his dad why we are not married. I feel that it is Time for us to Get ...
A. 9 March 2010: If his love for you is real then he'll marry you. Ten years is a long time but it's never too late. If marriage is something that you really desire then he should be able to recognize that... (read in full...)
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