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writes:okay, well i've been with my bf for nearly a year and ive always been bottom and i love it like that, ive never even thought, fantasied or considered myself to be on the top side of sex it just doesn't do it for me, but now my bf wants me to top him and i cant do it and it's frustrating for him, what can i do, i want to please him but i cant top him, thanks for any advice you can give me i know it probably seems like an odd question Reply to this Question
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reader, Hard_decision  +, writes (9 March 2010):
Why cant you be on top? Do you have selfesteem issues and dont like him looking up at you? or is it something else? Being on top puts you in control so to speak.. you are in charge of that moment and that can be a real turn on for guys - the thought of looking up and seeing a girl ride them is pretty exhilarting! =) keep trying if you want to please your boyfriend, but after putting in the effort you still dont like doing it... dont do it.
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (9 March 2010):
 To be honest I never imagined it at first either. I tried and found it very hard. Could hardly do it. As time when on kept trying. I'm alot better now....nowhere near perfect....lol
I think you should give it a try though. Eve if you find it hard at first keep trying. You might like it once you get use to it.
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reader, ashlydance33  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 If it's something he really wants, then keep trying. Try talking to him and explaining that it's hard for you but since you want to make him happy you'll keep trying and ask him to please be patient with you. But a little clarification as to why you can't might help others to respond with some better advise
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