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Why is this guy so mean to me?
Q. I'm in a tennis class with him and every time I do something, he criticizes me. I barely even talk to him! I don't even GLANCE in his direction. I'd walk around with my tennis racket, he'd call me a loser. I'd hug my friend and he'd call me gay. I'd ...
A. 30 November 2010: I'm sorry I confused your grade level with his. I thought you were the senior, but anyway the same advice still applies. I hope it helps you.... (read in full...)
I'm keeping it in the family!
Q. I'm 15 and i think im in love with my brother's girlfriend's brother, but my brother's girlfriend and my brother are having a child together, ive been out with my brother's girlfriend's brother before though, is this wrong or incest in any way ? ...
A. 30 November 2010: Nope, it's not incestuous. You would be on both sides of the baby's family, though, if the two of you were to be married someday. And if you called it into question, other people in society would probably do the same. What's more, if you have kids, ... (read in full...)
Confused about all his "I loves you"..something just isn't right here!
Q. Basically I started dating this guy about 4 months ago offically. We were talking alot before he asked me. At first i wasnt really into him but i liked talking to him alot sometimes. I really felt he was more into me than i was into him and id blow ...
A. 30 November 2010: "I love you" gets thrown around a lot by people who feel like they are supposed to say it. He probably is in love with you, but when someone is texting or emailing, they are a lot braver. He doesn't have to worry about the expression on your face ... (read in full...)
I want to surprise him with some risque photos...just worried he won't find me hot! Help!
Q. Ok so recently I have been seeing this guy..who I really like :) which is awesome and finally I think Im ready for the serious relationship, etc. He's more experienced then me, he's older.. expected. I have been taking it slow but the other night he ...
A. 30 November 2010: Send them if you want to, but like anonymous reader said, your photos could wind up anywhere. They might not get on the internet, but it is highly likely that they will wind up on one (if not all) of his friends' phones. I have been friends with ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy so mean to me?
Q. I'm in a tennis class with him and every time I do something, he criticizes me. I barely even talk to him! I don't even GLANCE in his direction. I'd walk around with my tennis racket, he'd call me a loser. I'd hug my friend and he'd call me gay. I'd ...
A. 30 November 2010: Well, there are a number of reasons. I don't know how well you play tennis, but he could be jealous of your abilities. Did you beat him at a match? Is he treating everyone else this way, or is he just picking on you?
He could be one who wants to... (read in full...)
Girls, what turns you off?
Q. Girls what is a major turn off about a guy? Is it appearance? Smell? What?...
A. 30 November 2010: Being a woman, here are a few of the things a man can do to turn me completely off:
1. Not be clean. He doesn't have to wear cologne or even put on a lot of deodorant, but the guy needs to have a good shower every day and brush his teeth.
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I miss my teacher
Q. I miss my teacher. He has been gone for a month and i feel like i lost my best friend. How do i move on from someone who'd been like a father or brother to me? Who had encouraged and almost spent every free available time with me? He almos...
A. 26 November 2010: It's sad when teachers get that close to you (they really shouldn't) enough to become your best friend. Whatever he encouraged you to do with your life, go ahead and do it, and send him a thank you note later in life for being your mentor. In o... (read in full...)
How to stop the tension between my teacher and me?
Q. Okay,so this is a bit weird.Here it goes. I have this teacher,and umm..things are very complicated between him and me. There is just A LOT of tension between us. And I want to stop it. I don't like him.I don't think he likes me either. It's ju...
A. 26 November 2010: I think this tension is happening between the two of you because you are simply a female and he is simply a male. When a male and a female are this physically close, there will usually be tension, even if he is not your ideal partner. He could even ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, he's 30, is the age difference too much?
Q. My family owns some hotels on the beach and i have always been very involved with them.. i plan on taking over when i'm in college. Over the years, i have become pretty close with one of our bartenders. We've always had a ton of fun together and had ...
A. 25 November 2010: Of course it isn't, in a year or two. You can't "be with" him now, but that is really a good thing. It will give you the opportunity to lay a good, solid foundation of friendship, without the complications of sex.
The biggest problem you will fac... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to let him know how I feel?
Q. a guy im close to i couldnt stay around him as much as i use to because im inlove with him and he knows it. he says alot to keep me at reach like when i told him if he dont want to be with me just tell me, he says thats not it he just approachs ...
A. 25 November 2010: This man doesn't want a commitment; he wants you when he feels like it. It sure looks like you've scared him away for right now, and you're going to have to back away and give him some space.
There is hope. A man wants a woman who needs him some... (read in full...)
Caught boyfriend making out with best friend!
Q. I caught my bf making out with my best friend last week. He swears she made the 1st move and wants me to forgive him. He was my 1st bf and my 1st kiss and so on... Wat should I do?...
A. 25 November 2010: Kissing someone back is one thing. Making out is another. He should have mentioned that he had a girlfriend and stopped it right then. And, oh my gosh, you actually caught him! What are the chances of that happening? What did she do when you saw ... (read in full...)
Should I keep this relationship with the teacher a secret?
Q. i need help i wanna know if we should continue this relationship in secret or we shuold tell someone but i don't really want to end what we have got. i will be brief i went on this school visit for the whole weekend with school the teacher i ha...
A. 24 November 2010: I'm sorry I don't know the laws of Great Britain, but this is how the laws work in the United States. Here it's illegal for a teacher to kiss a student. I don't know what kind of kiss it was, but you have to end it. That's just the way it is.
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He has a girlfriend, yet he sent me a picture of his member!
Q. So, theres this guy i like. We met two years ago, and three weeks ago we started talking again. He said he was interested in me. He was having problems with this girl he was with for 10 months. They broke up and he wanted me to be his ...
A. 24 November 2010: There's got to be a reason why you weren't interested in him enough to have sex with him when he was single. Remember that reason. Don't give this guy the satisfaction of thinking it was seeing his p---- that changed your mind! I think doing that ... (read in full...)
What cologne should I get my boyfriend for christmas?
Q. Not really a relationship question as such but something most people will have an opinion on I hope. I want to get my boyfriend some cologne as part of his xmas present, but I'm completely clueless when it's comes to male fragrance and was hoping ...
A. 24 November 2010: I love the smell of Drakkar Noir.... (read in full...)
I don't really love him, but my kids want us together!
Q. I don't know if this marriage is worth saving. I've been married for ten years. We have three children (8, 4, and 1). My husband and I haven't had sex in two years because he is impotent. I still give him hand jobs and oral sex, but I have never ...
A. 18 November 2010: Thanks everyone for the responses. I've considered every one of them. It's funny that aunt honesty mentioned that my husband get a hearing aid because not long after I posted this question my husband came in with a hearing aid that his father had ... (read in full...)
How obvious do I have to be with these signals?
Q. How obvious do I have to make myself before he realises the signs im sending him. I really like him! Here we go again ... I like this guy in the year above me and we don't actually talk at all. We used to but we drifted apart because none of ...
A. 17 November 2010: It looks to me like he forgot something, had to go back to get it, and found out you were following him in the hall (whether it was intentional or not), and it surprised him that you were there. Next time he watches you from across the room, that's ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to think a guy is very attractive yet not be sexually attracted to him?
Q. I've been seeing my girfriend for a little over a year. (I'm 46 and she's 34) The sex was great at first, and she couldn't keep her hands off me. But, she's gradually lost interest over the past 3-4 months, and does't want to do much of anything ...
A. 17 November 2010: Actually, I think that your girlfriend feels unattractive. There is really no way to convince her of that with just the words you say, so you could try gazing at her body more, you know, with the eyes that say "wow". You also could get her some ... (read in full...)
After ending a two year relationship she's with another guy in less than a week!
Q. After breaking up with me last Thursday, she's already posting pictures online of her with another guy. How do I get over this? This past week has been tough on me, but I've been able to move on fairly well through the support of my friends and f...
A. 17 November 2010: My advice is a little different. This girl that you love is pretty young, and she might be wanting to see what's out there. Sometimes the grass seems greener on the other side, but then we find out that it isn't. The last two years were not wasted. ... (read in full...)
After flirting with my TA, do you think he's aware that I like him?
Q. Hi guys, so I want to follow up my previous post regarding me and my teacher. Actually yesterday, me and my teacher met a social networking event and we exchanged a few conversations together which was nice. Then I introduced my friend to him, later ...
A. 17 November 2010: I think you should know him better before you tell him that you're interested in more than friendship. It doesn't sound like you've known him for very long. And guys that are that age have had just enough experience with women to tell by your ... (read in full...)
Is confidence really important to guys?
Q. Hey, just a quick question, is confidence really important to guys? Cause i've heard that guys are more attracted to confident girls, but im really shy and I haven't had a boyfriend in ages. How can i be more confident around guys? And is confidence ...
A. 16 November 2010: The good guys are attracted to confident women. On the other hand, the bad ones, the abusive and controlling ones, are attracted to the less confident women because they can break them and train them into what they want them to be.
You can fake... (read in full...)
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