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writes: Okay,so this is a bit weird.Here it goes.I have this teacher,and umm..things are very complicated between him and me.There is just A LOT of tension between us.And I want to stop it.I don't like him.I don't think he likes me either.It's just based on the physical level.And he would never do anything about it,but it just goes on and on..for 4 years now!He knows it.I know it.Even others noticed that we have a soft spot for each other.And to make things worse,he's my dance teacher,so there is a lot of touching included.Sometimes I can see him STARING AT ME on the window reflection.He's always flirting,but I always try to be cold and not to show anything I feel.I guess I fail at that sometimes XDAnd there is a lot of details he has done or said ,but I don't want to write them down because of his privacy.But inside,I just melt.I know it's wrong and I just want a normal teacher-student relationship.Do not say I'm just reading too much into this.I AM NOT.As I said,others noticed it and pick at me about it,but I just laugh it off.What should I do? :|and btw I noticed that he tries so hard not to cross the line.That makes me so sad,and I want even more to stop it.
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reader, americanpatriot  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 I think this tension is happening between the two of you because you are simply a female and he is simply a male. When a male and a female are this physically close, there will usually be tension, even if he is not your ideal partner. He could even be an ugly man. And I don't want to just assume things, but maybe you are not getting any physical attention at all outside of the dance class. In that case, I would suggest that you find someone who has many of the qualities you seek in a boyfriend and ask him out. Touch someone else, of course, don't rush it, and maybe that tension will leave you when you're with your dance teacher.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Is this dance instructor part of your school, or is this an independent business?
If it's independent, then you're an adult and if he's not married why not cross that line. Sometimes that sexual tension can only be broken by getting physical. Then you'll realize weather things will work or not. You could always talk to him about it too.
Decide what you really want. As long as he isn't a teacher at school, then you're simply two adults. This tension won't go away unless it's addressed.
The other option would be to find a new dance school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): How old are you? Is it a school teacher or are you taking dance class outside of school? If your not 18 then he is a freak and not good for you or any other young girls. If he is your school teacher just forget about it and try to talk to him as little as possible. If he is not a school teacher then tell him that the flirting needs to stop because it isn't right. Good luck.
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