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writes:Ok so recently I have been seeing this guy..who I really like :) which is awesome and finally I think Im ready for the serious relationship, etc. He's more experienced then me, he's older.. expected. I have been taking it slow but the other night he started sending me sexual photos. I explained that I didn't know what to say and I was scared. He was fine with that. But this weekend I want to suprise him with my photos. How do I go about this? What I'm really asking help for other then that, Im just scared he wont like me or find me hot? Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, cait88 +, writes (2 December 2010):
cait88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionone: not too be rude but I did it .lol
I trust my bf alot ...and I honestly dont believe he would put them on the internet...I didnt want to hear that im being used etc..or get put down..as I said my bf didnt expect me to send photos at all he was ok with the fact that I didnt want too..but thankyou for the advice..Me and my bf are still happy as ever :) 3
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reader, americanpatriot  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Send them if you want to, but like anonymous reader said, your photos could wind up anywhere. They might not get on the internet, but it is highly likely that they will wind up on one (if not all) of his friends' phones. I have been friends with some guys. I've found out that they show each other their collections and LAUGH and brag. Guys will say that they delete them, but they lie. What single blue-blooded man would delete a naked photo of a girl from his phone? Think about it. It's free amateur porn is what it is. He probably has a hundred on his phone, some of girls he's met and some his friends have met. Just know what you're getting into.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (30 November 2010):
 If you really want a serious relationship with this man, I'd advise against sending risque photos to him.....the thing is, he could be looking for a friendship where the main focus is sex, rather than a serious relationship.....is that what you really want?
It doesn't sound as if you do. If you want him to like and respect you, it would be better to hold off on sex for the time being and concentrate on getting to know one another better. Then you'll have more of an idea how compatible you and he are.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): Okaii; truth is, if he really likes you, he wont care how you look. And Dont send him anything if you dont feel good about doing it. I sent my bf some; and before i did; he told me that no matter what it wouldnt matter. so Just be Sure you want him Seeing you like that
Hope it helped just a lil atleast! (:
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reader, Whimsey +, writes (30 November 2010):
Make sure he deserves to see you like that, don't feel pressured that you have to. I made a mistake when I was 18 of dating an older guy, he asked me for photos over the phone and of course I sent them even though my gut warned me against it. I was expecting him to be way more appreciative but all I got was "thats f***ing hot". And I was let down, just know that you shouldn't send them if your only intention is to get positive feedback or to please him. You might get hurt. I think you might want to wait a little while. ( Also make sure you can trust him!!!)
But if none of these things are an issue be confident and go for it! Just be sure you want to! Hope I helped
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reader, Gauge45 +, writes (30 November 2010):
I would just want the girl maybe to seem a little bit timid when she sent them so that i could comfort her and compliment her... if he doesn't think that your hot or doesn't like you then he's a jerk and you shouldn't date anyone who doesn't like you for who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): You're being used. Your photos will end up on the internet. Go find yourself a guy who is going to respect you and love you without requiring you to expose yourself to the world...'cause that's exactly where your "risque" photos will end up.
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