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writes:I caught my bf making out with my best friend last week. He swears she made the 1st move and wants me to forgive him. He was my 1st bf and my 1st kiss and so on... Wat should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 November 2010):
Dump him. And get rid of her. Neither of these people are worthy of your time. As for his excuse, it's pathetic. He could have stopped her. He didn't. The difference between a good guy and a bad guy is that even in a moment of temptation, a good guy will remember his commitments. Your boyfriend stood there, let her kiss him, then made out with her (and there is a big difference), and then has the nerve to blame her and say you should forgive him. No way. First boyfriend and first kiss are never as good as best boyfriend and best kiss, all of which you can find with a far better guy.
Don't stand for this behaviour. He failed you in a huge way, as did your friend. Get rid of them both.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Okay, let's say he was right, and your best friend did in fact make the first move on him. Is he saying that he's incapable of a very firm "STOP!"? It wasn't like you saw the beginnings of a kiss. You saw them making out. That means the kiss had well progressed, and there was heating up and lust on both sides.
It says a lot about his character that his response is that he wants you to forgive him because she "made the first move".
This is very important. Just because he was your first boyfriend and first kiss doesn't mean he'll be your last. You do not have to allow this kind of behavior from any guy. There are other guys out there that if your best friend truly came onto them, they would put an immediate stop to it and tell them that they don't stand a chance, because they're taken.
Don't forgive this guy. He made out with your best friend. And never trust either of them again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): he says she made the first move but u caught them making out? did he push her away? or were they making out? if he kissed her bak then clearly he messed up and it's really up to you to forive him. only u know if u can handle being with him still after that. everyone makes mistakes and he could be truly sorry. your best friend is not really ur bestfriend tho!!! can u trust he wont kiss her again or anyone else for that matter? and if you knw he hasnt done anything like this before then maybe you can try to forgive him and try to move on. but if u knw u cant deal with knwin he did that u may just want to leave him alone. if it were me personally no i wouldnt stay with him but thats because i believe if a man im with knws who my bestfriend is and still makes out with her then i believe he doesnt care about me but if my bestfriend kissed him first and he told me i would let her go and stay with my man. but only u knw what you saw.... think about what happened and exactly what u saw and u will knw what to do..and even if u do forgive him if during the relationship it keeps bothering u and u cant move past it just tell him and maybe you'll decide u want to let him go but dnt let him go if you really are not sure!!!!!
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reader, candyw +, writes (25 November 2010):
Before decide to forgive your bf, talk to your friend too! If you have not, tell her to be honest with you and she really made the first move or if it was your bf. Do you really want to be with a guy that betrays you with your best friend? sometimes life puts us through difficult things that we cant understand, but maybe its so you can really see if the people around you really love and care for you. Maybe, your bf is not, and mr right might be waiting to meet you..
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reader, americanpatriot +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Kissing someone back is one thing. Making out is another. He should have mentioned that he had a girlfriend and stopped it right then. And, oh my gosh, you actually caught him! What are the chances of that happening? What did she do when you saw them? Is she sorry? I would be having a talk with that girl. I mean she's your "best friend." If you don't dump him, dump her. Really, with friends like that, who needs enemies? If they liked it, they will most likely do it again, and the next time they will make sure not to get caught. I think maybe it's time to get a new boyfriend. You don't have to settle for him because he was the first. A guy might have a bad crush on you right now, and you might be the only girl that guy ever dreams about kissing. Give a better guy a chance.Tell him you want to be "just friends." See how he likes that. And dump her altogether. They might just hit it off and get married someday, but your world will not have ended. You're young, and there are a lot of guys out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): If you forgive him he will only do it again because he knows you will just forgive him again. Im not going to tell you what you should do or don't do, but I hope this at least helped somewhat in what you are going to do.
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