He texts other women and now he wants me to marry him?
Q. Hi everyone, i'v been in a relationship with my bf for 3years now, we've had good times and few bad times, when i noticed some messages in his phone, about how he misses and loved a particular girl. This has happened thrice, of which he apologised ...
A. 30 March 2011: It sounds like you have plenty of "evidence" to not trust him! At least from what you are posting...You are right to have major ambivalence and concerns. How do you know if after 3 years, his sudden desire to marry you isn't purely driven by ... (read in full...)
Kissed another guy and I have a BF help!
Q. I did something I feel really awful about but I don't know if this makes me a bad person or what I should think. I got pretty drunk with my friends and this guy was hitting on me and started kissing on me. I was really uncomfortable and I felt ...
A. 28 March 2011: It doesn't sound to me that you have positive feelings about your current relationship. I personally think that if you have such strong feelings of distrust that your boyfriend would not "understand" you, your feelings, and the circumstance you got ... (read in full...)
Why do guys cheat? I had good reason to break up with my BF, but I still feel awful!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 yrs and I just broke up (I broke with him). I had my reasons...1) signs he was cheating 2) always hiding his phone 3)the PAST 4) my gut feeling. Anyways, I spent the night with him last night and for once he left his phone ou...
A. 28 March 2011: You are likely going to feel awful for a while. No matter how bad a relationship actually is, break ups are hard! Our hearts and our brains are not always on the same page. It definitely sounds like you did the right thing for yourself in the long ... (read in full...)
Confessing to cheating..ONLY experiences from cheaters or cheated-ons.
Q. Hello, As the title says, I would like to know FACTS from people who’ve been through this. I’m not working on a survey or something, but yes, I've cheated on my gf (a fling without intercourse and no feelings) and I'm living hell right now (guilt...
A. 26 March 2011: I have never cheated, nor been cheated on, but I have had close friends/family members who have been on both sides. I had to respond to this question, b/c it is a topic that makes me so incredibly irritated. I am a firm believer in honesty, and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I kissed another guy? I tried to tell him but he cried
Q. my boyfriend of 6 years off and on has hurt me sooo much over the years. and i've broken up with him numerous times for that reason. but we are together now and i do love him and i think we are pretty strong and can get through anything. but one of ...
A. 24 March 2011: It’s always a problem when you hide something that would change the way someone feels about you. Some people are able to be dishonest and keep secrets and rationalize that they are protecting the other person, while for others deception and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I kissed another guy? I tried to tell him but he cried
Q. my boyfriend of 6 years off and on has hurt me sooo much over the years. and i've broken up with him numerous times for that reason. but we are together now and i do love him and i think we are pretty strong and can get through anything. but one of ...
A. 24 March 2011: It’s always a problem when you hide something that would change the way someone feels about you. Some people are able to be dishonest and keep secrets and rationalize that they are protecting the other person, while for others deception and ... (read in full...)
The woman my ex cheated with sends me photos of them together
Q. Help please. I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago. It ended badly (I caught him cheating) after 5 years of being together. I contacted the other woman (that's the nicest I can say about her is that she is a woman) and told her what he ...
A. 23 March 2011: First of all, congratulations! I can imagine how difficult the betrayal has been to you, especially when faced with a pregnancy and motherhood. All wonderful, but of course, stressful enough, without the added stress of going through the pain of ... (read in full...)
How do you tell a guy you won't go any further in the relationship until he is well off?
Q. I met a really nice divorced man a while ago and we started a relationship in which we were both happy, and even discussed marriage and children. However lately I have realised how much it actually costs to raise and school a child. (I don't have ...
A. 23 March 2011: I think you are absolutely right when you say there is "no guarantee!" You can marry someone who has all the money in the world, and the day after your wedding, he could go completely bankrupt. If you truly love someone, and you have kids with ... (read in full...)
Is this romantic? Will she appreciate it?
Q. We were engaged and together for 4,5 years. bad break up as she left me because she loves me but feels cold she said. 2 months since we broke up and next month is her birthday. Will travel 3000 miles to give her flowers and tell her i love her ...
A. 21 March 2011: Don't break your own heart again! That is what will likely happen if you go through with your plan. You deserve to move on...Let her go. And focus your energy on garnering strength, healing, and moving on....... (read in full...)
He is unsure about me because of my diabetes, should I wait for him to make his mind up or consider this as the end of our relationship?
Q. Hi, I met this wonderful person 6 months back. He was really after my look initially from what I interpret now. I told him at this time that I am type 1 diabetic and he said he didnt mind it. I asked him to ask his mom as I knew his parents migh...
A. 21 March 2011: I could barely get through reading your post without being ANGRY at your boyfriend and his senseless parents! You deserve someone WAY better than him, and someone who is not as fickly and insensitive and ridiculous to base all of his feelings and ... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin at 20!
Q. im going to be twenty in 2 days and im still a virgin. is this normal? at times i lie awake at night and despise myself for it. other times i think its fine and i shouldnt worry. ive considered losing it to an escort-going so far as to make the ...
A. 21 March 2011: It will happen for you when the time is right! No need to rush into anything and I don't recommend losing your virginity to an escort! It is silly to think that there is an age that you "have" to lose your virginity, or there is something wrong ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me return or exchange a foster child, but I would like to adopt
Q. I fostered a three year todler, with a view to adopt, against my boyfriend's will last year. We are now engaged to be married in next few months. he is still not for the idea of the boy being around. He is an active boy, and like any other child can ...
A. 21 March 2011: My heart breaks for you! What a difficult situation...This is something to think long and hard about, and it's apparent that you have. Obviously, fostering a child and adopting are a huge committment and I commend you for making that committment. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I fake my orgasms without hurting his feelings?
Q. i always lie to my partner that i reach orgasm because i didnt want to hurt his feelings or to get me the wrong way, you no how guys are like,how can i tell him without hurting his feelings...
A. 21 March 2011: Like everyone else who has commented, I think that your honesty will only make sex better for the BOTH of you. I think if you talk to him, and focus on how much you want to keep increasing the pleasure for the two of you, he may not focus on his ... (read in full...)
I have tried so hard to make this work, now enough is enough but I still cant bring myself to break up with him!
Q. hey all.. I have a problem.. Help! I have known my boyfriend for a round 7 years and had some history of more than friendship when we were younger, i moved abroad and when i decided to come back he had a girlfriend who was pregnent with his kid. 2 ...
A. 21 March 2011: I really think that it will be much better for you to break up with him and move on. I understand feeling attached to him and wanting it all to work out, but his behaviors are not something that you want to condone, ignore, or put up with a in a ... (read in full...)
I love my girl but am scared of losing her if I admit to having kissed another girl while drunk
Q. Hi, really need some help, i have now been with my girlfriend for 6 months, i love her to pieces and think out relationship is absolutely amazing. However, i am at uni and she lives back home, during freshers weeks, while very drunk i kissed a few ...
A. 20 March 2011: I personally would prefer being honest in this scenario. If you keep lying to her, your relationship will be nothing but a lie. You will never know if she truly loves you, flaws and all. She will only love the person she thinks you are and not the ... (read in full...)
He wants to get married, but I don't trust him enough yet.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years. We had alot of problems in the middle of our relationship and it caused major distrust. We have been working on rebuilding the relationship for about a year. Trouble is, I still cannot commit ...
A. 18 March 2011: I hate to say it, but my gut response based on what you've stated is to suggest that you move on..."long term lying and cheating" is not something to be taken lightly, and I'm afraid that there is a strong possibility that you will always have those ... (read in full...)
I cant stand his flirting with other women anymore!
Q. my husband enjoys chatting texting and flirtung with other women. he is not sexually active with them. but he has been doing this from the time we were newly weds. what do i do. i cannot fight anymore for this relationship. the lies and deciets ...
A. 18 March 2011: His behavior is extremely frustrating and totally inconsiderate of you! If he has been doing this since you were newlyweds, my bets on the fact that he has never been fully committed to being emotionally engaged with you, and/or he has a problem ... (read in full...)
Do people put too much weight on the institution of marriage, and too little value on the PERSON they marry?
Q. I sometimes worry when I see a young person "pushing" for marriage, and seeing marriage as the ultimate goal in a relationship, while worrying little about the "issues" that exist within the relationship and on building a healthy relationship and ...
A. 17 March 2011: I am the OP of this post and I LOVE the discussion my post has created! This is an awesome site! Thank you to all who have responded, as I have really enjoyed reading the thoughtful comments and additions/debates to the points I originally ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and sex is daunting!
Q. I am 19 years old and i am still a virgin. I am ready to finally have sex but i find it very daunting and being that intimate with someone is rather scary. I have someone i would like to be my first but i keep avoiding it because of this. How ca...
A. 16 March 2011: My personal preference would be to focus more on developing a relationship with someone, where it feels natural to want intimacy with that person and it feels natural to "desire" them, rather than be so focused on wanting to have sex for the first ... (read in full...)
I hate having sex with him, is this normal?
Q. I hate having sex with my husband,but I still love him even after 13 years of relationship. He was my first and only sex partner...Is that normal? What should I do?...
A. 16 March 2011: What do you mean by "consented rape?". Is he forcing you to have sex against your will? Your descriptions definitely are bordering on that possibility and that is unacceptable! My heart broke when I read your post, because you sound so frustrated ... (read in full...)
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