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writes:Help please. I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago. It ended badly (I caught him cheating) after 5 years of being together. I contacted the other woman (that's the nicest I can say about her is that she is a woman) and told her what he was doing to the both of us, and surprise he was lying to her as well. She gave me a song and dance of how she has known him for 4 months and she is in love with him. So despite being pregnant....I told her she wants him, she can have him....I know I am worth more than that and so is my baby. I haven't talked to him since I told them both they deserved one another. But every now and again I get an email and its a picture of the two of them together...I block the email. And she just opens up another one....Its hurting me. I don't respond, because I don't want her to know she is getting to me. I don't know what to do...help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): You CAN block people on your email so that they cannot contact you. Go to your OPTIONS section of your email page (in Yahoo! for example), and look for it. There is a way in there to enter a person's email address on a BLOCK list. Once you enter that email address into the BLOCKED list, click SAVE and that should do the trick. She is a bimbo and she will learn when that loser guy cheats on her, too. Can't say she wasn't warned! I guess the other person always assumes that the other spouse just "wasn't doing their job" taking care of the other person in the marriage! People are so DUMB. They think they are going to be the one that will vhange a cheater's ways and make them soooo happy and do all the things the other person allegedly wasn't doing. BUT IT IS A CROCK. Many people cheat despite having a good spouse right at home who gives them love and emotional support and good sex and everything. Some people get greedy and they cheat and then blame the spouse for it. The person they cheat with actually believes whatever they are told. It is really stupid. Usually the cheater ends up trying to win back the ex and realizes just how GOOD and how much better things were with the spouse at home!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Don't use any threatening words with her. Instead, tell her that her contact is inappropriate at this time and you want no further replies from her or it will be construed as harrassment and will contact the authorities if it continues. I belive that once someone warns someone to back off and stay away, then they have been told and it is harrassment if it continues. So good luck and I hope this has taught you something for future reference.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (23 March 2011):
Hi - the man in this scenario sounds like a complete drop kick too. Leaving a pregnant woman for his mistress? I know it happens all the time but where is this guys sense of responsibility. I would start to focus on getting the financial support your entitled to from this man. That in turn will make life hell with the psycho woman he's with. As for her, just block her email on your browser or report her to your provider they can block her for you. Then any email sent from her computer will never reach yours....Sounds very malicous to me.Good luck with the little one and focus on what you need to provide a great environment for the baby. Forget these other people!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for all the support. I would love to change my email....unfortunately it is my work email. You know the type where it is first [email address blocked] all my clients have this email, I've thought about changing it and just having it feed into a new email address, but that won't stop her from sending the email. If anyone has any more suggestions on how to do that ....you would be my dream come true. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Send a no contact order.Make sure the police know.Then, if they don't stop, file charges.Remember, you aren't just protecting yourself, you are protecting your child. If you don't protect yourself, you won't be able to be protecting the child as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): The fact that she feels the need to do this suggests that she thinks she doesn't really have your ex's affections. It's childish and pathetic, and best ignored because, as you say, any response you send will seem like you're jealous (which is exactly what she wants). The fact that you're resisting responding is probably killing her. Take comfort in that idea.
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reader, Amdz +, writes (23 March 2011):
 First of all, congratulations! I can imagine how difficult the betrayal has been to you, especially when faced with a pregnancy and motherhood. All wonderful, but of course, stressful enough, without the added stress of going through the pain of betrayal and a break up. Your ex sounds worthless, and this woman just the same! You are right, that they deserve one another. I would block her email or change yours. Her behavior is the lowest of low, and she clearly sounds like she will always be a miserable human being! Urggghhhhh..... It angers me to think that there are people like that out there. Focus on your baby and your future, and don't give these evil people anymore of your time and energy.....Good luck!
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Wow, she sounds very mature. Some women have low enough self esteem they will take whatever man they can get, regardless of his moral stances/issues or inability to maintain and uphold a committment. I can't believe he did this to you, let alone while you are pregnant. I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Have you though of changing your email perhaps? Don't let her get your new address. Women like her astound me, that they can be with a man who lied to them because "they are in love" and are surprised when they themselves are also cheated on.
WIsh you the best. Don't let her get to you. I know that's easier said than done but you are doing a good job so far. Change your email address, only give it to a few people and forget about them. Concentrate on your new baby! I'm due in July. Congratulations!!!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Hon, you are doing exceptionally well. Keep on ignoring all the emails - this woman is really being nasty and doing her utmost to keep you away from the bf.
Can you not change your email address?
Move on with your life, concentrate on your baby and leave the two of them to each other. I wouldnt be surprised to find that your bf is cheating on this woman with someone else!
Stay strong.
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