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writes:hey all.. I have a problem.. Help! I have known my boyfriend for a round 7 years and had some history of more than friendship when we were younger, i moved abroad and when i decided to come back he had a girlfriend who was pregnent with his kid. 2 years passed abd they had broke up we decided to give us one more go.. We started dating in january so a year and 2 months ago, he had been flirting and messaging girls since april so 3 months into us. I have since found out yet again he has been doing this and have confronted him 4 or 5 times. I love him so much and have tried so hard for this to work and am now thinking enough is enough. I dont want to brake up with him, we live together and have just booked a holiday for september.. I dont care about the material things i just dont want to brake up and hurt him even though he seems to be fine with constantly hurting me! I tried being brave and saying i wasnt sure if i could do this anymore as i couldnt trust him and have stoped wanting sex with him as i dont feel good enough as he keeps trying other girls etc.. What do i do? I have no idea what i should or what i want to do..
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reader, Amdz  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 I really think that it will be much better for you to break up with him and move on. I understand feeling attached to him and wanting it all to work out, but his behaviors are not something that you want to condone, ignore, or put up with a in a healthy relationship. His patterns are long standing and will cause you nothing but grief in the future. I would break it off sooner, rather than later. Find someone who will value you and put all of his focus on you! Best...
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reader, OnlyaJoe  +, writes (21 March 2011):
Hard to know.
What is your gut telling you on this?
Can you sit down with a piece of paper and do The Work (see http://www.thework.com/watch.php?cat=watch&aid=kt-thework.mp3). It is really simple and helps me.
You see, I feel you are attracting all this until you work out what boundaries and values you want for your life independent of anyone else - only you. Write down what are your values and boundaries.
Then write down what you want for yourself (in a lot of detail) what you want from a relationship. Commit this to the UNiverse and thank it for sending it to you. Watch out for it coming - it will appear as an accident in your life (a happy one!!!)
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