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What qualifies me to help people? Frankly, I don't think much...except that I've experienced many things in my few short years. I've run the spectrum of relationships.
Where do I live? The States *points to flag* I'm a student.
What makes me tick? Music, literature, and friends. Couldn't live without them.
What's my relationship status?: Currently single. Been involved in only two serious relationships but countless other experiences. First relationship lasted almost two years but turned abusive. Second relationship was an odd one...quietly chased after a taken friend for over two years after a love at first sight incident, only to have a chance that lasted five months. We broke up amicably but I was devastated. Since, we have tried to restart our relationship twice, both times recently and unsuccessfully, but have remained friends. Things may become very complicated in six months. I will be away at school and he will be in boot camp. |
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Waiting for marriage for intercourse.. already done everything else will I be disappointed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years, and it has always been important to us to wait for marriage to have sex. After being together for a little over a year, we started to be sexual. After a while, it got to the point where we ...
A. 30 April 2009: Even though you've already done "everything else", there's a certain aspect to sex that will still make your wedding night fantastic and memorable. It's the experience, not necessarily the sensations, that make sex a wonderful thing no matter what ... (read in full...)
Do I keep talking too him or leave him alone?
Q. I don't know what to do. I dated this guy for 6 months and I love him very much but when high school started we didn't see each other much and ended up breaking up. A month or so later he started dating a new girl and they dated for 6 months but ...
A. 28 March 2009: He's remorseful. Sounds like he wishes he never ended the relationship with you and never slept with this other girl. I'm not saying take him back as a boyfriend right now but don't shut him out of your life. He's looking for support and a friend ... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive...?
Q. Hey All, SOME CONTEXT: My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year and a half now. We have been long distance almost all of that time, the worst was when we were both in different countries for five months and temporarily opened ...
A. 28 March 2009: Wow. That's pretty complicated. I don't feel you're overstepping your bounds by requesting that your girlfriend not allow this assistant to sleep in the same bed as her, because the two of you are in a committed and closed relationship. However, ... (read in full...)
Am I just barking up the wrong tree (kind of wishful thinking) or do you think there is possibly something there?
Q. Hello, I have a real dilemma! I have a love interest, we are not in a relationship but when we are together we act like a couple and get very close and personal. The thing is her Aunt is also my Aunt through marriage, so although we are not cousins, ...
A. 20 January 2009: Ok, I'm assuming I understand your relationship with this woman correctly as I say this.
A similar thing happened in my family. The two are now happily married with three children. You're not related by blood, so don't let that get you down. True... (read in full...)
Used protection but could I be pregnant?
Q. Straight to the point - I had sex with my boyfriend a few weeks ago. We used condoms - No splits or anything, as far as I'm aware. I also recently just started the pill. And yet I have really sore breasts and the odd spotting, so could I be ...
A. 30 December 2008: Speaking from personal experience, the soreness in your breats and "odd" spotting can be side effects from starting the birth control. The change in hormone levels can do that.... (read in full...)
Could he like me, even though I'm only a freshman?
Q. so i'm a freshman in highschool. and this senior keeps looking at me and stuff. everytime i pass by he gets red, and when i look at him he gets red too. i have no idea if he likes me or not. maybe he just wants be be my friend. and knowing me im ...
A. 14 October 2008: Sure he might be crushing on you. You say he could get any girl he wants, maybe that girl is you! The only way to find out for sure is to try to get to know him. You're not shy, so go say hi!
As for you only being a freshman...sure there's ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and have never had my first kiss or a boyfriend.
Q. I am in college and have never had a relationship. I've never had my first kiss or a boyfriend. It's scaring me a bit because lately I've been thinking of myself as undesireable. It's not as if I'm drop dead ugly, I honestly don't know what it is ...
A. 8 October 2008: Be confident in yourself! Meet new people. Sit in at a poetry reading at a local coffee shot. Go to a cafe concert. New situations=new opportunities. But mostly, the more confidence in yourself, the more reliable men will notice it. I'm not saying ... (read in full...)
I wanna have my own baby!
Q. ok im 13 and i wanna hav sex i already told ma mom to put me on the pill. she already made the appointment. i wanna have a baby wat do i do. i raised ma little brother all by myself and i loved it i want to do it again but with ma own baby. ...
A. 5 October 2008: I hate to be this blunt but, honey, you're too young! Learn, live, love. As you grow older and gain life experience it will make you that much better of a mother. When the time is right in your life and you can support a baby, be in a committed ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know what EMO means?
Q. hi. I'm a 12 going on 13 and I want to know what is emo. My ex boyfriend was emo. but he stopped 4 me. He won't tell me what emo really is. I really want to know so I'm asking you. What is emo?...
A. 5 October 2008: Emo can mean multiple things. It all goes on an indivdual opinion. Basically it refers to a sub-culture which is classified by "emo people" being emotional (emo, emotional, get it?). Sometimes the emo sub-culture will refer to music (MCR, Panic, FOB ... (read in full...)
He says he will go out with me when he returns from the army, but he is unreliable! I'm so confused!
Q. i have been going out with this lad for a couple of months now and he is in the army but i dont no if he real wants to go owt with me i mean he tells me he is coming home and he dont i have also noticed he has been telling me lies all my frends tell...
A. 2 October 2008: Walk away. If he comes back and wants to be with you, consider it but it's not worth tying yourself down with the situation the way it is right now.... (read in full...)
My friend's a bit of a player so how do I not become a temptation to him?
Q. This seems to be a theme but I feel like I've lost my mind. I'm finally away from home and have gotten involved at the uni. I've befriended many of my band members. And then there's M. M is a year older than I am and is a huge flirt, with ever...
A. 13 September 2008: Thanks.
It wasn't really my temptations I was worried about, I have other people on my mind. And this crush is just based in that M is cute, but I really don't have a desire to be more than a friend to him, even if he wasn't in a relationship and ... (read in full...)
I have some concerns about the new vaccine, Gardasil.
Q. so my dad is telling me and my sister that he's willing to pay the expensive price for us to get the vaccine, gardasil. I know its a new medicine so idk a whole lot about it or side effects and what not. I was reading some stuff online but not a...
A. 26 July 2008: I've had my set and no side effects, just typical injection site aches but those get better with the three. I suggest you take this opportunity as well, unless you have allergies including but not limited to latex. Many people who have reactions ... (read in full...)
Is what I said years ago making him believe I want to have sex with him?
Q. This question just popped into my head after thinking about a situation at least five or six years ago. A long-distance male friend of mine and I were talking about sex (we were in middle school at the time). He's been very sexually active for year...
A. 22 July 2008: Thanks for the thoughts. Just to make myself clear, I couldn't have been more than 14 when this occured (probably 12 or 13). I was naive and don't consider myself as naive anymore. I realize I should set him straight, we just don't have contact that ... (read in full...)
How did you meet your partner?
Q. Hi everyone, I've had a lot on my mind today so to lighten the mood I wanted to find out somthing dreamy. You see, every guy I have ever been with I have met after a big night at a party or the pub/club. Im not an alco or anything I just like (well ...
A. 22 July 2008: Ooh fluffy talk! ^.^
I met my last boyfriend at school. We were in band together. But I really saw him as more than a friend one night at a football game. I was laying in the grass after it had rained, staring at the sky, when he came over, stoo... (read in full...)
He told me he loves me but I don't know if he means it. How do I tell?
Q. i told a guy that i love him so much and at first he didnt say anything but then he told me that he loves me, but i am just not sure if he really means it or not, because i thought it would be easy for him to say after me saying it. how do i know i...
A. 22 July 2008: You've got to trust him. Trust is probably the number one biggest thing in a relationship. People will betray your trust but you can't go around doubting things your significant other tells you. That's just predicting trouble.... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and he's 20, is it ok for us to be together or should I wait?
Q. Okay. So here's the deal. I met this guy.. lets call him Justin (not real name).. on Friday... well no I've been talking to him for SO much longer... I've been talking to him since i was 13 and he was 18 but now I'm 15 and he's 20. I actually...
A. 21 July 2008: Technically, a relationship between people of your age is legal as long as there is no sexual contact since you are under the age of consent. But a relationship with that age difference at your age (when you're older, five years won't seem as big) ... (read in full...)
He could't keep his hands off me before, why has he lost interest in sex now?
Q. Hi all! My boyfriend and I have been toogether for the better part of two years. I am a 21 year ols culinary studen and he is a 25 year old probationary fire fighter. We have somewhat of a long distance relationship, but we see eachother most ...
A. 21 July 2008: Sounds like this was very sudden. It's possible something else could be stressing him out. A sudden occurance judging by the rapid change. Bring it up to him and try to talk it out. Ask him if something's been bothering him and address that you're ... (read in full...)
Do I ask her or just go for it?
Q. If I want to kiss my girlfriend for the first time do I ask her if its okay or do I just go for it? (Mod Note: Age shown may be wrong)...
A. 21 July 2008: It kind of depends on the type of girl. Some love the spontenaity of just kissing her while others like the classic and gentlemanly sense of being asked. Some want both (like me...I dream of being asked if my boyfriend can kiss me but I love when he ... (read in full...)
Would you tell your ex you still love them before they depart for boot camp?
Q. Here's the deal. Almost four years ago, I fell head over heels for my guy-friend. We didn't become romantically involved until about a year and half ago. We were admittedly madly in love with each other but the relationship lasted a mere five ...
A. 21 July 2008: Thank you Sealmire. Your encouragement made me look at things in a different light.
Since you shared your story, I figure I'll elaborate. He's joined the air force, a dream of his for years, and will leave in either December or January.
Good lu... (read in full...)
Will having a birthmark on my penis shift the mood?
Q. hey i no im not ready for sex but i just have a question i have a birthmark on my penis will that possibly make any problems for me by like shifting the mood or something like that?...
A. 20 July 2008: I see no reason why this would "shift the mood" or anything else. If you're ever in a situation where this is the case, you might want to reconsider having sex with the person. They shouldn't care about a birthmark, only you!... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he just came out of a relationship!
Q. For a few months now, I have discovered I have very strong feelings towards this guy, who I know vaguely. My friends started to tell him that I like him and then I admitted it to him. His reply was "I've just come out of a relationship after 3 ...
A. 7 July 2008: Go ahead and get closer to him. You could blossom a great friendship or more. But be wary when trying for a relationship with him. Often times the "rebound" is used to incite jealousy in an ex, as revenge, or simply to boost self esteem. These ... (read in full...)
I care for her, but her past is disturbing, how many sexual partners is too many?
Q. Hi, this may seem like a strange question, but I really need to know the answer. I met this girl, I love her to death, but her sexual past kind of disturbs me. shes 19, started having sex at age 17, but, from age 17-18 she had 10 different s...
A. 7 July 2008: It's normal to be concerned about her sexual past. STDs are such a concern nowadays. Personally, I think 20 times isn't too much by any stretch but 10 partners is too many. Considering eight of them were one timers, she's still averaging almost a ... (read in full...)
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