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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I don't know what to do. I dated this guy for 6 months and I love him very much but when high school started we didn't see each other much and ended up breaking up. A month or so later he started dating a new girl and they dated for 6 months but unlike us they had sex and stuff but he still talked to me.The 2 times they ever had sex he called me crying and he had no idea why. I knew they had had sex the fist time and he was like me and her had sex and I was like I know and he said well we did it again and I said okay. He wanted to explain and went on to say okay you already know about the fist time and when we did it that time I thought it was what I wanted but tonight all I could think about was you. When we dated and how I said you would be my first and we were going to wait till we were older and both ready and could take care or whatever happened but now you can't be my first and he went on and on about this and he was crying his eyes out the whole time then they ended up breaking up so what do I do now? Do I keep talking too him or leave him alone? (ps I still really love him) Reply to this Question
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reader, 13AF +, writes (28 March 2009):
He's remorseful. Sounds like he wishes he never ended the relationship with you and never slept with this other girl. I'm not saying take him back as a boyfriend right now but don't shut him out of your life. He's looking for support and a friend more than anything else. Start again as friends and let things progress naturally, at a comfortable, natural, and slow pace. It'll either work out or it won't but it sounds fairly obvious that you both still have very strong feelings for each other, and that's just fine. Second time around can be a charm. But I do warn you, don't let him talk you into having sex before you're ready just to "prove that he wants you and not her." Just because they had sex doesn't mean you have to. Best wishes, love.
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