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writes:This seems to be a theme but I feel like I've lost my mind.I'm finally away from home and have gotten involved at the uni. I've befriended many of my band members. And then there's M.M is a year older than I am and is a huge flirt, with every girl he knows well including myself, and is also very attractive. But, there's two catches that make me think M is trouble. 1) He has a girlfriend my age. I know they've been together a while (they went to high school together) but I've never met her or seen her and I don't know if she goes to my uni or a uni around here even. 2) Last year, M had a fling (although a very serious one) with another one of my friends, who is (and was at the time) engaged.I feel crazy for giving him the benefit of the doubt. M's recent history suggests he's a player. I want to hang out with him and spend time with him because he is my friend (and I have a bit of a crush on him...) but I don't want to become a temptation for him to stray again. What should I do?
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 Well if he has good flirting skills you may just get taken in without realising it ;-)
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reader, 13AF +, writes (13 September 2008):
13AF is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks.
It wasn't really my temptations I was worried about, I have other people on my mind. And this crush is just based in that M is cute, but I really don't have a desire to be more than a friend to him, even if he wasn't in a relationship and never had that affair (as I'm now calling it). *Shrugs*
Really, I'm worried more about being a temptation to him. You're spot on to say that I should just keep reminding myself of that fact when he tries something or what not. Thanks much.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (12 September 2008):
Uh oh...lose the crush pronto or you'll be next!
Yep, he's a player alright.
"2) Last year, M had a fling (although a very serious one) with another one of my friends, who is (and was at the time) engaged."
You shouldn't really be asking for advice, that statement alone should bring you to your senses...if you feel like you're giving into temptation, keep reciting that statement.
There isn't nothing wrong with being his friend, but if he does try anything, just recite that statement and ignore him.
Take care
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