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I thought the sperm was meant to go upwards, not back out??
Q. heya just a quick question - the other day i had sex without a condom (its ok im on the pill and i was my bf's first so he doesnt have anything)and afterwards i found that sperm was leaking out of me- is this normal? cos i thought it was kinda meant ...
A. 30 November 2008: Don't worry, when I first had sex I hadn't thought about that happening as well, but yes its completely normal... (read in full...)
How should I handle not being able to see her?
Q. Ok, I met a girl online and we have been talking for a while, and its been heavy flirting both ways. I'm pretty sure in a few weeks I'll be able to move to considering asking her to be my girlfriend. Although, I have never met her in person, we plan ...
A. 30 November 2008: I'm in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend lives about 3 hours away, the same as you. And he lately has been feeling the same as you - being upset that we can't cuddle/kiss etc. as much as normal couples do.
It is hard, and I would on... (read in full...)
What are the ladies preference?
Q. A question 4 the ladys... I want 2 know what do you ladys more enjoy whilst having sex? Also when it comes to the guy's penis, do you like it thick or short, slim or long... x ...
A. 26 October 2008: In my opinion, size does make a difference. Bigger is better. However, the most enjoyable thing about sex is the intimacy, the feeling close and in love with the person and the affection given to each other during it. ... (read in full...)
My first sexual experience turned out to be a big mistake and now I feel guilt and self-disgust, what can I do to stop feeling like this?
Q. Im 19 and i first had sex when i was 18. I regret it so much. My bf at the time guilted me into it and pressured me. I wish I was stronger. Everyday I feel disgusted by myself because of what I did. I regret it because he turned out to not be wh...
A. 26 October 2008: Everybody makes mistakes, most people's sexual experiences the first time are not what they thought they would be. You can't blame yourself for this, the guy sounds manipulative and persuasive and this is something you had no idea would happen. ... (read in full...)
This is really embarrassing.. but my vagina smells gross!
Q. this is really embarrassing.. but my vagina smells gross! I produce a lot of discharge, clear and white. its gross. it smells nasty. I probably produce more than the normal amount. what can I use to clean it? I wash it everyday. should I douche? I'm ...
A. 26 October 2008: Just keep washing every day, or whenever you feel necessary. If it is really worrying you, go to a Doctor you trust and get everything checked out. They will tell you whether it is "normal" or not. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Is he going to be disgusted when he sees me naked?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 months and I'm ready to have sex with him. I'm a virgin and he's not. He loves me so much and i love him back, but I'm not comfortable with my body AT ALL. I find it ugly, but he says that I'm beautiful every ...
A. 26 October 2008: You should only have sex if you feel ready with the whole concept, and by the sound of it you are not ready if you are worried about what this guy will think of your body. You should feel reassured and not worrying at all, please wait.... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin.
Q. Okay this is really embarassing. I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin. I'm really nervous about having sex with him because I want him to enjoy himself. I want him to love me even more than he does now, and he really REALLY ...
A. 26 October 2008: If you are "really nervous" then it will be a horrible experience for both of you. 1. Your boyfriend may hurt you when going inside you as you are so nervous 2. It won't live up to your expectations and you'll be dissappointed. I would recommend ... (read in full...)
What is the best form of contraceptive?
Q. What is the best form of contraceptive?...
A. 26 October 2008: Condom, and then the female taking the pill as well. That way you are both being responsible, and protected more than once.... (read in full...)
What he said... it made me feel a bit like a blow up doll. Do you think I am overreacting?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were fooling around yesterday. We've been together for 2 years and the sex is great. Contrary to what I first thought, as time has passed, he seems to be more and more turned on by me, which I think is fantastic. We were talkin...
A. 14 October 2008: In my eyes I think he just meant that he loves that you're open minded and will let him experiment with you to see what you both like instead of you be reserved and not willing to try things.
Men are not always good with their words, maybe yo... (read in full...)
I'm not pressurised into sex but I'm worried he will cheat on me if I'm not good in bed...
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now, and we are both over 16 + virgins. we done nearly everything, like hand jobs and blowjobs ect, but im scared to have sex.. i feel im ready to and im not being pressurised into it, but im ...
A. 14 October 2008: First of all, if your boyfriends cheats on you or breaks up with you because you're not "good at sex" then he is a complete dickhead either way and deserves nothing.
If you and your botfriend are that close then no matter what you do during s... (read in full...)
I know to some people, virginity is a really precious thing, But why?
Q. what is the big deal about sex? i know someones virginity is a really precious thing, but why? i mean.. whats so big about sex? why's it illegal under 16? i dont get it?! i lost my virginity 2 years ago, i was 14 and to be honest i dont regret it, i ...
A. 14 October 2008: I waited until I was seventeen, and in love. It was as special and perfect as I wanted it to be and I am still with the guy now. Sex is meaningless to some, but I feel that if you are in love and it is the right time then it will mean A LOT.... (read in full...)
I performed oral sex on a man early Saturday evening and now have a real sore throat, could I have caught an STD?
Q. I briefly performed oral sex on a man early Saturday evening. He didn't cum and there was no precum. Early the next morning I woke up with a sore throat and it has been a bit sore ever since, well not in the day but each night. Could I have caught ...
A. 14 October 2008: Sometimes deep throating can cause your throat to be sore and feel uncomfortable. So if you did, that could be the reason. I hope it gets better soon.... (read in full...)
I got married after a LDR, but she is not the way I thought she was...
Q. i just got married after long distance relationship, but as i went back to marry now my wife i just discovered that i had no feeling for her.She is no longer beautiful as i thought and nobody else has told me that she is beutiful.after our wedding I ...
A. 14 October 2008: Although this must be hard, physical appearance can't be the only reason you got married.
Try to remember what made you fall in love with her and want to be with her, does she make you laugh, can you talk for hours.
Maybe you could take her out ... (read in full...)
My son lacks so much confidence.
Q. Hi, my son lacks self confidence and there isn't many self confidence groups in my local area. Although it started before this (a year before) I think it has come to a head after the passing of his grandad earlier this year. He's 21 and has become ...
A. 10 October 2008: Maybe a therapist or counsellor could help your son?
Dealing with a death often brings people to cave in on themselves, especially if they were beforeso.
Talking it through, when he is ready could help a lot.... (read in full...)
Why am I like this?
Q. When I am on my period, I have an a major urge to clean everything and tidy up. The rest of the month I'm fine, its just when I'm menstruating. Is this normal? Why I am I like this?...
A. 10 October 2008: Your body can do strange things to you on your period, and therefore you can act in different ways.
For example, after research it has been shown that women are more likely to steal, argue or even commit suicide when they're on their period than... (read in full...)
Do I wait until he knows me better or tell him so that if he has a problem with it I'm not going to get hurt????
Q. I had a civil partnership in January - It ended in March. We are still great friends and live together. Problem is I've recently met someone and am unsure when to tell him about this. Do I wait until he knows me better or tell him so that if he has ...
A. 10 October 2008: I would advise its best to be honest from the beginning, but don't just come out with it, wait for a moment you feel would be okay.
It shouldn't be that much of a big deal if hes a decent guy... (read in full...)
After all these... I presume I can rule out pregnancy?
Q. Im hoping someone can help me. I'm on birth control and during the pill free week I did not get any period - nothing at all. I did a pregnancy test and it was negative and started the next pack of pills on schedule. I stopped the pack mid cycle ...
A. 10 October 2008: It sounds like you can, if you're really worried you can get medically checked by a Doctor and they could tell you for certain and it would be more accurate.
I think its because you stopped the back mid cycle that your hormones are messed up and ... (read in full...)
How do I get my dad to allow me to have a boyfriend? All my friends are allowed to date!
Q. so there is this boy and we hang out all the time! i am between the age of 12-14 and he is the same age! it seems like he really likes me but i asked my dad if i could have a boyfriend and he said no your too young but all my friends are aloud to ...
A. 10 October 2008: I know it must be hard when all your friends are allowed, but having a boyfriend isn't the end of the world.
You can still hang out with this boy, and have fun together without your Dad getting angry and maybe eventually he'll come around when you'... (read in full...)
My long distance crush and I, were talking more, but I was initiating the calls, she said I was not bothering her, I decided to take a break, she has not contacted me, what should I do, I am thinking of moving on?
Q. Hi In the beginning, my crush and I chatted a little on IM (she would initiate a conversation every so often, and so would I). She has since moved to another country. Lately though, I found that I was initiating a conversation on IM more often...
A. 10 October 2008: I am slightly in the same situation as you, but on the other side of things. My long distance boyfriend is pretty much always the one who phones me, but recently he hasn't that much and it has made me wonder what has happened and I'm never sure whe... (read in full...)
Am I being pushed out of my best friend's life by the new boyfriend?
Q. My best friend and I are drifting apart ever since he met his new boyfriend. His new boyfriend is wonderful and all, and has been a great influence upon my best friend and makes him really happy. Before my best friend's new boyfriend we'd hang out ...
A. 10 October 2008: You're not being selfish at all. I can understand that your friend wants time with his boyfriend, but he should also make time for you if he values your friendship. Have you talked about how you feel with him? Perhaps you could all do things t... (read in full...)
My online friend has become arrogant and disrespectful since he found a girlfriend. Should I get rid of him?
Q. dear agony aunt...im a 17 year old girl. i have an online friend since the last one and a half year. we used to very attached to each other. and were the closest friends. but since the last couple of months since he has started dating this other ...
A. 10 October 2008: I understand your problem, obviouly this person you feel you were close to has changed and you want to know why.
The girlfriend has had a big effect on him and it doesn't sound like he is the same person you were close with.
If its hurting you and ... (read in full...)
He has moved on and I am still stuck on him. I cant get over him!
Q. I'm 16. I dated(unofficially) this guy (17 y/o) for 3 months - May, June and July. Things were great in the beginning and he had been in previous relationships, but I hadn't. We didn't kiss or do anything like that.. I used to hug only, because as...
A. 8 October 2008: I know its very hard when you really like someone, and I feel for you, I really do.
And age means nothing, I'm seventeen and in love so I completely understand.
Like you said he has moved on and you are doing the right thing by trying to as well,... (read in full...)
I don't know if it's right for me to always ask my boyfriend for sex, as I am always in the mood, could he lose interest in me?
Q. I have a sexual problem: i dont know if its right to always ask my boyfriend to have sex with me and i want him to do it everyday how can i stop this before he loses intrest in me?...
A. 8 October 2008: Dont feel bad, its only natural! Ask him if he feels you are too full on and should calm down, and see what he thinks. You'll only know if you talk to him directly.... (read in full...)
Am I making a fuss over nothing or is any of this something to worry about?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for six months. I love him very much. The thing is I feel like I'm always proving my love but he isn't. I talk about him on my facebook profile, but he mentions nothing about me, not even that he's in a ...
A. 8 October 2008: I know how you feel, recently I have felt my love is proven to my boyfriend but he is not always being equal back. I mention him on my myspace, yet he refuses to as he says its a girl thing.
You're not making a fuss over nothing, I know that it soun... (read in full...)
My live-in partner treats me poorly, his brother who always helps me has fallen in love with me, what will I do?
Q. after having a boyfriend of 2 years, i lived in his house with his mother and brother, he always hurt me physically but i still love him after that i notice that i am pregnant to him but he does not treat me good he always leaves me and 2 a day go h...
A. 8 October 2008: Follow your heart, and also think of your children.
This relationships sounds bad even without your partner's brother involved and I would advise to leave regardless of what happens between you and him.
I know it is hard when you love somebody... (read in full...)
If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?
Q. If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?...
A. 8 October 2008: No! Its up to her what she does and how she does it. ... (read in full...)
Any helpful sites on giving blow jobs?
Q. Okay, so I have a pretty awkward question here. I gave my first blowjob ever a few days ago. TBH, I had previously read up on them online and such, and though I'd be pretty good. The problem was, my mouth was a lot smaller than I expected, or his ...
A. 8 October 2008: I HAVE AMAZING ADVICE FOR YOU. This will sound wrong, but the best way to learn how to give the best blowjob is to watch porn. It will definitely show you what to do and how to position/use your mouth. I know from experience!... (read in full...)
Did my ex return to me because I paid someone to do spells??
Q. this is a bit of a random question but, i broke up with my ex last year and even after having no contact from all that time i couldnt move on, although he had, so i decided casting a few spells would bring him back to me, i payed someone to do it, ...
A. 8 October 2008: My Dad's girlfriend also does spells and has told me they are very effective.
This does seem odd, especially as the timing with the spell is right, but either way you got what you wanted! :)... (read in full...)
I feel like a failed mother as my son masturbates all the time.
Q. I am I concerned mother, my son is 14 years old, and he masturbates, but the thing is that, he masturbates anywhere he wants, last night we were having dinner, whith my husband, my other son and my two daughters, and he just started masturbating ...
A. 8 October 2008: This doesn't sound normal, maybe you should tell him that its perfectly natural to do it, but not everyone wants to see it and he can do it in his room only and nowhere else.
If he can't cope with that maybe theres some kind of medical problem.... (read in full...)
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