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writes:Okay this is really embarassing. I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin. I'm really nervous about having sex with him because I want him to enjoy himself. I want him to love me even more than he does now, and he really REALLY loves me. I want him to come big time! How do I do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Honestly i dont think you are ready, if you boyfriend really loves you like you say he does, then he should understands.Wait till you feel ready.
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reader, tayalouise  +, writes (26 October 2008):
 If you are "really nervous" then it will be a horrible experience for both of you. 1. Your boyfriend may hurt you when going inside you as you are so nervous 2. It won't live up to your expectations and you'll be dissappointed.I would recommend to wait until you're not as nervous.If your boyfriend loves you as much as you say he does, he will understand that you want to wait, and wait with you.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (26 October 2008):
 Trust that the first time never really goes to plan. And it'll hurt mate! 99% guarantee lol.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (26 October 2008):
I agree with rcn. You're focussing too much on his experience, and how you want to be better than anyone he's had so far by making him 'come big time.' As for him loving you more than he does now, can love be measured like that? If he loves you alot already, are you not satisfied?
Anyway. I think you should wait a while. You're underage for a start. And you seem quite immature - not in a bad way, but naiive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Okay, first things first...having out of this world sex is NOT going to happen your first time. Secondly, if he really loves you then it won't change depending on how good you are in bed. Thirdly, if you do decide to have sex for the first time USE PROTECTION. There are millions of girls your age in your exact situation that end up getting pregnant or STD's or both.
I'm not going to preach abstinence to you or anything. I personally didn't lose my virginity until I was 17. I don't think it needs to be anything special, but it does need to be with someone you trust. I'd been with my bf for 7 months when I decided to have sex. He was 3 years older than me. It hurt REALLY bad, so it was impossible for me to enjoy it. I asked him to stop and he did no questions asked.
If you're really certain this is what you want to do then allow me to give you some rather unconventional advice. It might sound gross or whatever, but watch a dirty movie or two. It will help you see how to ORALLY please the opposite sex, but I STRONGLY advise against kinky sex your first time. Do it normal (missionary position)and if it hurts too much (which it JUST might) make sure your guy understands he needs to stop when you say. I'm not trying to freak you out, but if he refuses to stop until he's done that can be considered rape. That's why I say it should be with someone you trust.
First and foremost, take care of yourself; use protection; and understand it's not going to be like in the romance novels for quite a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Sweetie, im 15.. I lost it when i was 12. No i didnt want to lose it. It was horrible, last time i talked to this guy was just this last June... Me and him dated for 2years..
I am madly in love with him. But i shouldnt..Why? he beat me..When i was 12 he was 15...He ABOUT to be 18 on the 27th..
You NEED to wait until you KNOW that you are ready.
wait, please wait....Sex will not make him love you more. You dont know, he might take advantage of the sex. You DONT want that...
Make the right decision...
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 October 2008):
 I don't believe your ready. You keep saying you want him to... When it comes to your body, it's not what others want or enjoy, it's what you want to do, and not to be pressured in doing it. Virginity, once it's gone it can't be returned. Think carefully before having sex. If you don't, you might end up regretting it.
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