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writes: Me and my boyfriend were fooling around yesterday. We've been together for 2 years and the sex is great. Contrary to what I first thought, as time has passed, he seems to be more and more turned on by me, which I think is fantastic.We were talking about how great sex has been for us, and he told me "You turn me on so much, I love your body and the way you kiss me and touch me... I ALSO LOVE THAT YOU LET ME DO ANYTHING I WANT TO YOU".The part in capitals disturbed me a bit. I am open minded in the bedroom, I am not at all inhibited and I give anything a try, even if just once, but I'm always up for something new (plus, I'm always entirely naked with the lights on, which seems to be a plus).But what he said... it made me feel a bit like a blow up doll. Do you think I am overreacting? I didn't tell him anything, but it just made me wonder if he sees me as some sort of breathing blow up doll (just sexually, as he's very loving in general in the relationship), or if he's glad that I'm uninhibited and just chose the wrong words?
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reader, tayalouise  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 In my eyes I think he just meant that he loves that you're open minded and will let him experiment with you to see what you both like instead of you be reserved and not willing to try things.
Men are not always good with their words, maybe you should let this one go.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (14 October 2008):
i don't think he meant for it to come across like that. maybe you should take abit more control in the bedroom, just to let him know that he can't get his way all the time. use things like role play games, dressing up, whatever turns u and him on. but it may just be a little way to let him no that you have a say in what u want and what you don't want.
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reader, 1trainer1 +, writes (14 October 2008):
from what i have read it is a compliment to you dear as you will do anything he must be very thankful, i hope he is very grateful to know how lucky he is with a women who will do anything for him as a lot of guys find a woman always has something that she wont do whether it be anal or oral, or dressing up or bondage, there are so many things and a fantasy shared is always great for ones sex life
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): I think youre over reacting a bit here honey. I can see how his words were tactless but i think he is just happy that you are uninhibited and adventerous in the bedroom. If your sex life is great and he is not disrespectful in other areas of your relationship, then I wouldnt make too much of it, and take it as a badly worded compliment!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Not the best choice of words. He could almost certainly have phrased it a lot better, but I imagine he was telling you he was glad that you're uninhibited.
If everything else in the garden is rosy I don't see too much of a problem, but you might like to let him know that you found what he said to be just a little insulting. He might then choose his words rather more carefully in future.
Try telling him you don't do things to each other, but with each other.
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