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I'm uncomfortable that my daughter with diabetes will inject herself in public. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Q.   Okay, a very tricky question here. About a year ago my 24 years old my daughter suddenly developed diabetes type 1 - yes, type 1 where you have to take insulin - and ever since then she has to take insulin shots 4 times a day. We have no history ...

A.   29 October 2012: Normally I don't post answers to questions, but I must admit this one hit me quite hard and quite personally. I have been a Type 1 diabetic from the age of 18, and no one in my family had had it either. It came as a shock to me and my entire f... (read in full...)

Can my boyfriend have an STD he doesn't know about, and transmit it through oral sex?

Q.   Although my boyfriend's never been officially tested for STDs, he's pretty sure he's clear. From what I know, he hasn't had many previous sexual partners (although he didn't always use condoms because his then girlfriends were on birth control, and ...

A.   8 November 2011: Chlamydia can be transmitted through oral sex, and most of the time you show NO symptoms for it at all. This means that neither of you would know you had it until it was too late. It can cause infertility and other terrible consequences so do not ... (read in full...)

I do not know her father's name. Should I leave that blank on the form? Or put my new boyfriend's name on the pre-school form as "father" to avoid questions?

Q.   I was raped nearly 3 years ago by a disgusting guy at a friends party. I didnt know who he was and still dont. What he did to me was awful but it had a hidden blessing. It created a beautiful baby girl who i love to bits. I decided to keep the baby...

A.   6 November 2011: I would personally discuss it with the school before you write anybody's name down, but if you explain the circumstances to them and suggest writing down your boyfriend's name, I'm sure they won't have a problem with it. Just make sure you talk to ... (read in full...)

How can I get my study partner in the sack?

Q.   Here is the situation there is this girl, she is my classmate and she lives not far at my place, she asked me to study with her for exams just like we did last semester, but the thing is I'm attracted to her, and I told her couple of times how I ...

A.   4 November 2011: She has a boyfriend, so don't. Simple.... (read in full...)

I cheated on my wife. Should I tell her?

Q.   I cheated on my wife 14 years ago. I didn't have an affair. It was just one day in a motel room with an ex-girlfriend. I felt terrible about it even as it was happening. My wife does suspect something may have happened. In fact, I think she susp...

A.   18 September 2011: You say that if your wife cheated on you, you would want to know. Give her the same treatment. Tell her what happened, and be as honest as you can. Tell her.... (read in full...)

My husband admitted he married me to get into Canada!

Q.   I've been married to my husband for 13 years now. We first met when I was on holiday in Edinburgh, Scotland back in 1995 - it was a great holiday, I'd always wanted to visit Britain, in fact I still go every so often, to this day. Our marriage...

A.   18 September 2011: You need to talk with him. Has he grown to love you now? Are there feelings there or is he still using you? How does he treat you? It may have been that he used you at first, which is of course unacceptable and you have EVERY right to be upset and ... (read in full...)

Does boyfriend love me or what I do for him?

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend of 10 years. life is good as long as its about him and no one else. recently my adopted son came back into my life and i needed to build a bound there. my question is does my boyfriend love me for me or what i can do ...

A.   18 September 2011: You are being taken advantage of and emotionally abused. This is not a loving, caring relationship made with two equals. You are his maid and he is the master of the house. You need to get out NOW and find someone who will treat you with the respect ... (read in full...)

Is he gay from being in prison or just a weird?

Q.   I have a question about what turns men on. I have been sleeping with a guy for way over a year and recently he asked me to do something in bed that made me wonder and got embarrassed for him. He wanted me to play with his anus. I didn't want to at ...

A.   25 August 2011: You are aware that women have a G Spot in their vagina, yes? Well a man's G Spot happens to be in his anus. It's called the prostate. Some men love this to be stimulated, as some women love their own G Spot to be stimulated. It does not make him gay ... (read in full...)

I'm all for being in a healthy relationship and having our own lives, but I don't even see where ours mesh anymore.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and a half, and we're not connecting these days. Ever since graduating this past spring and moving 1-2 hours away from each other (1hr by car, 2+ by train), it's been difficult to spend time ...

A.   31 July 2011: I think you both need to sit down together and have a long talk about where this relationship is heading, and whether or not you think it's working as it is. It might be that you need to put it on hold until you can live closer, or it may be that ... (read in full...)

2 hours of sex and he still doesn't get tired?

Q.   My boyfriend doesnt get tired during sex , and he doesnt CUM ! we'v lasted for 2 hours of having sex and im usually exausted and a little sore and hes still going at it . and i feel bad to tell him to stop even though i know he wouldnt mind , but ...

A.   3 November 2010: You're right, there's no rush. I understand that you've been together a long time and that you are about to be sixteen, which may be legal in your state. It's just that even at sixteen your body might not have finished maturing, and if he is around ... (read in full...)

2 hours of sex and he still doesn't get tired?

Q.   My boyfriend doesnt get tired during sex , and he doesnt CUM ! we'v lasted for 2 hours of having sex and im usually exausted and a little sore and hes still going at it . and i feel bad to tell him to stop even though i know he wouldnt mind , but ...

A.   3 November 2010: Simple - you stop having until you're older, and it is actually legal.... (read in full...)

I don't want my boyfriend to touch me or see me naked!

Q.   I don't want my boyfriend to see me naked! He keeps telling me that I'm beautiful and that he'd love to see my body but I'm really self conscious cause I was made fun of for my body and looks for 3 years. I was depressed and anorexic and bulimic and ...

A.   19 September 2010: If you were truly ready for this then you wouldn't feel so uncomfortable. Whether you liked yourself or not, you should trust your partner to find you beautiful no matter how you are and so would be willing to let him see you. The fact that you're ... (read in full...)

Husband says I must accept that he has a small penis but I never have an orgasm during sex!

Q.   hi every1.i have a problem with my husband when we make love he doesnt want to do foreplay unless i complain and if i do so he says i complain too much.for the past seven years of my marriage never had an orgasm the last time i had it it was with ...

A.   9 September 2010: This is a touchy subject, since most men do think that penis size and all matters. Penis size has nothing to do with enjoying sex. Anyway onto the question itself. If you tell him that most women can't have an orgasm through just intercourse and ... (read in full...)

My 14 year old daughter is having sex with a 19 year old. How to handle this?

Q.   i walked into my 14 year old step daughters room and found her having sex with her boyfriend who i later found out is 19 the age gap is really worryin me i dont think 14 year old girls would went to have sex do u think he couldve made her do it or ...

A.   9 September 2010: I would be concerned if it were my child, too. 14 is far too young to be having sex, no matter what the age of the boyfriend is. I do agree that he could have pushed her into it, as many 14 year olds are not mature enough to handle sex and probably ... (read in full...)

Dad walked in on us having sex!

Q.   last week when i fort my mum and step dad was asleep me and my boyfriend had sex but my step dad walked in on us and went mad and said that im too young to be having sex he didnt tell my mum but now his tryin to stop me seeing my bf how can i tell ...

A.   9 September 2010: The thing is, even if you are of the legal age, you are still a child. You are under the age of 18 which means you are still legally a minor, and your father has control over what you do. In my opinion, you are also too young to understand the ... (read in full...)

She says I'm better even though they were bigger!

Q.   ive been with the same woman for 14 years.i just found out that she slept with 3 of my friends four yrs ago.one a really close friend.iam now very insecure and hurt cuz i knw that they are bigger than me in penis size.so i knw she enjoyed it ...

A.   7 September 2010: I've slept with three men in my life. One was six inches, the other two were seven and a half... The two seven and a half inches made me curl up in agony and were absolutely awful - I hated them. The six inches I just kept going back for more and ... (read in full...)

Does he want more than just sex?

Q.   i met this guy on a dating site.. we emailed me we've been talking on BlackBerry chat for about 6weeks now. hes different from any other guy ive met. hes sensitive, smart, caring, funny and handsome. we talk about everything a...

A.   6 September 2010: If he's shown no interest in just sex then he probably doesn't want just sex. Just because you've had past relationships of guys who want just sex doesn't mean that this guy is. If he's not giving you any reason to believe that's all he's after, ... (read in full...)

Did I deserve to be slapped in the face?

Q.   Ok where to start ... Me and my boyfriend have been together 3 and a half years and last weekend (4th september) we went out with friends for my birthday. There was 3 of my friends and one of his. We had all drunk far too much and my boyfrien...

A.   6 September 2010: Please end it. My mother was abused for many years. It started out as just a push... then a slap... then a punch... It ended with a carving knife slicing open her head. Please please please end it now. It may start this way but it'll soon change; ... (read in full...)

I don't think about this boyfriend all the time like I did with my last. Do I love him less?

Q.   Well i have a boyfriend. he is my 2nd boyfriend in fact.i We have been a couple for 3 months i am 15 he is 17. . . Now i dont know why but i dont think about him all the time.and i was wondering if thats normal? cause i want to think about him all ...

A.   4 September 2010: At your age, you probably haven't loved at all. Some say that you can feel as though you will fall in love as time goes on but your maturity level at the time means your body does not have the potential to fall in love properly yet. I know there are ... (read in full...)

Bad(ish) boyfriend suddenly becoming wonderful overnight, turns out he's been watching porn. Help?

Q.   Sorry guys, it's another porn story, but please listen to me. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2/3 years now. He was wonderful at the start, but then he seemed to stop caring. He wouldn't do anything nice for me, didn't call me beautiful, di...

A.   4 September 2010: Men watch porn. That's what they do; they are much more visual than us, as women, are and they need that for their fantasy. You cannot expect him to simply drop all of that and leave him for it. It seems a little unreasonable to me. Why don't you ... (read in full...)

I kissed 4 other boys and have only just broke up with my boyfriend

Q.   i need some advice please... i have just broke up with my boyfriend not even a week ago and went to a party last night and kissed a few differnt lads in a game of spin the bottle and one of the was my ex before my recent ex!! i feel horrible...

A.   4 September 2010: Honey relax. It was just a game of spin the bottle! Besides, it's natural for girls to go out and celebrate their freedom after a break up. It can help the healing process and also help us re-find ourselves after a break up. Just relax and go with ... (read in full...)

I think about cheating... a lot

Q.   I'm in my first relationship. This is my boyfriend's second serious relationship and he's hooked up with a few girls. He says he loves me more than anything and wants to marry me. I do love him but I don't know if I love him as much as he lo...

A.   3 September 2010: Well it all depends on what you mean by "I often think of cheating on him". Do you mean that you fantasise about other men? Because that is completely healthy in a relationship. A lot of relationships can only work with fantasy... However, if you ... (read in full...)

How do I get over my past hurts in order to let him in?

Q.   I'm afraid this is another one of those insecurity questions that you must get plenty of... I've been in multiple relationships now and have tried my very hardest to be a good parter to them. It's just that I always seem to be hurt in the long...

A.   3 September 2010: Thank you very much for your fast response! You're right... I think it's just so hard because of how insecure they made me feel, saying it was my fault and such... That's the hard bit. But you are right, and I do need to forget about the past. Thank ... (read in full...)

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