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writes:last week when i fort my mum and step dad was asleep me and my boyfriend had sex but my step dad walked in on us and went mad and said that im too young to be having sex he didnt tell my mum but now his tryin to stop me seeing my bf how can i tell him im not a child any more Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy bf didnt make me do anything i told him i didnt want to at first but he was really nice about it and made me feel alot happier about having sex with him also i spoke to my step dad and he said if my bf wasnt so much older he wouldnt have minded
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 I ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH THIS!!!:
A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010):
I'm afraid that while you live under their roof you usually have to abide by their rules.
Move out and get your own place; then you can do whatever you like.
Judging by your post your knowledge of even basic grammar is virtually non existent. Are you really mature enough to raise and support a child if you got pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): You may be of age legally...but if you are living under his roof and he has say in what goes on in his house. He is paying for you to be clean, cool, warm, fed, dressed.....and you repay that by doing something in his house that you know he doesnt approve of?
You be responsible with sex, respectful of your stepdad, and find another place.
Please use birth control and make sure your bf wears a condom. (no glove~no love)
In my opinion maturity is something that is. When you are you usually dont have to tell anyone. SOMETIMES this is not true concerning parents...they see you as their baby regardless. You can try talking to your stepdad...but in the end he holds the cards. Respect that. mal
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 September 2010):
If you are 16 and over, it's legal. If you're under 16, then stop because you're breaking the law. Just be honest. Tell them that the law says you can have sex when you're over 16, and that it's your choice. Tell them you appreciate your concern, but if they try to stop you it might end up driving you away and you don't want that. Failing that, dig your feet in the ground, make sure you respect their house rules (don't bring your boyfriend around) and just keep seeing him.
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reader, Dailath +, writes (9 September 2010):
You are sixteen right ?
I imagine the relationship with mum needs some work as you are haveing to keep this from her, it happens, but one day she will have to accept it, and you are of age already not 12 like some countries.
We all need someone we can talk to about important stuff like this. The net might not be the best place for it, just my opinion. Hope you get the help you looking for.
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reader, Scott french  +, writes (9 September 2010):
Lol, did u see that ur step father also had a post here?
At ur age, u should not have xxx with anyone. Did ur guy force u to do that? If he did, then u should stop seeing him. 19 years old gap is a very big gap. Maybe he is taking advantage on u. Or maybe i am wrong. But in my opinion, u must stop doing it again to avoid any problems that may heppend in the future. Hope this help
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reader, spanishquerida +, writes (9 September 2010):
The thing is, even if you are of the legal age, you are still a child. You are under the age of 18 which means you are still legally a minor, and your father has control over what you do. In my opinion, you are also too young to understand the mature emotions that go through sex. I am trusting that you are being careful and know how to deal with things if anything goes wrong, but it's only natural that your dad would get mad since you are still a child. Your father is protective; he probably still sees you as his little girl and he always will. The only thing to do in this situation, as you are still a child, is to have a long talk with him about it.
Tell him what birth control you are on, what plans you two have made in case things go wrong and you end up pregnant, the STI tests that you have both taken (you don't need to have had sex before to have got these). Pretty much prove to him that you are old enough and mature enough to be having sex. If you have not done any of these things then I suggest you do them before having sex again.
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reader, gigolojone  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 You sure ain't a child no more but you and your boyfriend are acting like kids.
You can not have sex in your parent's house.
Say you are sorry and do not bring your boyfriend to have sex in your parent's house. Have some respect for them.
You can always have sex from somewhere else and you don't have to show your parents that you are old enough to have sex.....proving that you are old enough simply ain't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Sorry to say it, but you ARE to young to be having sex. He is right. You shouldn't be having sex. There will be plenty of time for that believe me.
NightFairy
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): I'm afraid that while you live under their roof you usually have to abide by their rules.
Move out and get your own place; then you can do whatever you like.
Judging by your post your knowledge of even basic grammar is virtually non existent. Are you really mature enough to raise and support a child if you got pregnant?
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reader, you55  +, writes (9 September 2010):
It was wrong of u guys doing it under his roof. It just shows tht u don't respect and it does not matter if u are old enough to have sex it was just not okay doing it in hs house.
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