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writes:Am I just madly in love and perhaps a little blinded by it or is this the real deal? I am a little confused because I feel like my feelings might be moving a little fast. For those who have found their life partners, how did you know that they were the ones for you? Was it just a matter intuition and did you really just "know"? How quickly did you feel such feels and chemistry?I ask because, as said before, I am madly in love with my boyfriend. We've been dating officially for nearly two months and dated casually for a month before that. I am well aware that that is not a long time, but last night I really had a revelation. For the past few weeks, I've known I really, really like my boyfriend and that I deeply care about him. I've felt that I might love him. He's already expressed that he loves me dearly and the more time has went on I've realized I already love him, too. However, he came over last night, we spent the evening together, and my feelings changed immensely. We did nothing profound or special, but it was truly special. We just sat together and talked for a few hours. I just felt so comfortable with him. I felt so at ease and just so very happy. While I've felt a connection to him (and a chemistry with him) since the moment I met him, that connection just became so much deeper and so very different. When he looked at me, I knew he was really looking into me and seeing me like no one else had before him. I realized I had never loved someone like this and that what I felt WAS really love--an incredibly deep, romantic, and serious love. My feelings were validated and strengthened as we spoke to one another and laughed and smiled. I felt like he was it and still I feel like he is the one. I wanted to be with no one else in that moment and I still don't. I can envision a future. I feel so full of happiness. I feel... alive. Yes, I'm young. I'm 20. He is 21. I don't want anyone to get the impression that I'm just a naive girl. I've had a previous serious relationship. I've dated other people. I've always been a severely monogamous person. I've always wanted a connection with someone since I started wanting to date boys and that was around the age of thirteen, haha. I've never wanted to hook up or mess around and "just be young and have fun". I am a mature person. I've always yearned for commitment. However, I know this is so very fast to feel this way. I haven't told him I feel quite this strongly or deeply. I haven't told him of my epiphany because I don't want to scare him away, but part of me actually feels he might be feeling much of the same. So, do these epiphanies happen often? How do you know someone is the one? Am I crazy and lovestruck? Or should I tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Just enjoy these lovely intense feelings and don't worry about where it's all going. It will go where it's meant to go so just hop on and enjoy the ride.
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reader, silenced +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Embrace it while it lasts! I'm not saying it won't last, but it does sound like you may definitely be in love. As for him being "the one," that will take time. I fell in love with my boyfriend exactly after a meager month of dating him. I'm only 19, but I feel he's the one for me. However, I know anything can happen. After many issues (mostly my issues), I've learned that putting too much pressure on the issue of whether he's the one may not go so great. Just enjoy what you two have and let the relationship go on happily. :) See what happens. He may definitely be the one. Just give it time.
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