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writes:I have always been someone who has felt a great deal of guilt, and lately this problem has come back to bite me. I'm wondering if I have overreacted. I recently got married to the most wonderful man in the world. It was a small wedding, and the service was beautiful. After the ceremony, we had a small private dinner with just family and friends. During this, I sat across from one of my husband's friends. He has always been a really charming guy, and I half way through dinner, I walked to the bathroom and had a quick fantasy of him barging in and kissing me. That was it. Just a second. I caught myself and started feeling terribly guilty. Ever since then, I have been feeling terrible. I would never cheat on my husband, but I feel awful that the day of our wedding, I had this thought. Is this normal, or terrible? Please someone help me. I can't get over the guilt.
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reader, silenced +, writes (9 May 2012):
 I would agree with eddie85.
Just because you are in a relationship, which of course marriage is still a relationship, doesn't mean you won't be attracted to other people. I've had these sorts of fantasies. As long as they aren't recurring and you don't act on them (and there are NOT any feelings involved), then it's totally innocent.
It's completely understandable to feel a little guilt after something like this, especially since it was your wedding night, but you're just a normal human being with a normal sex drive. Give yourself some peace of mind.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (9 May 2012):
 Give yourself some time to get over this. I suspect right now that you maybe had a little too much to drink that night and with all the excitement it would be very easy to make that leap.
Let's face it, your wedding night has a sense of sexual energy to it and your mind can easily get diverted. In addition, you were maybe thinking that you'll never be able to kiss another man now that you are married... so perhaps there was a pang of regret and finality.
In short, it is easy to see how you might've had the fantasy. But you did the correct thing and didn't act on it. You'll find as you go through your marriage that just because you are married it doesn't mean you don't have normal sexual drives and fantasies.
So be sure to give yourself a break and realize they are just that: fantasies.
Congratulations and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): Yes normal don't worry about it its a fantasy that's it guys do the same as long as u don't act on it your fine
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): Hi. Dreams can be thought of in many ways. Especially kissing. Kissing a friend can represent adoration or admiration for them. Visit dreammoods.com
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