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writes:I feel like i'm losing everything in the last 24 hours it feels like i've lost everything. The guy i liked won't talk to me. My friends don't act like friends around me anymore and it makes me feel like crap. Like for the fella I think i may have scared him off as I've always been a hyper and random person and as for my friend I just keep thinking they hang around with me as a joke. I don't want to confront them as I'm be afraid i might be making mountains out of molehills.I don't know what i,m doing wrong and I don't know what to do... Any advice? I could really use it.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell for the fella we only met like last week and hes my friends brother and we went spinning the other night kinda like a date and it went really well like we talked, kissed thats bout it and he hasnt texted me since. And like we held hands the whole night and he won't reply to my texts
And for my friends...they just make fun of me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): You need to elaborate OP. You need to give us details so we tell you whether we think this is in your head or whether you do have cause for concern.
You don't say why the guy you liked won't talk to you, so we have no idea what's going on there. You say you feel like a joke to your friends, yet somehow I think that's nonsense and you may well feel that way because of the whole guy thing you have going on. Perhaps you'd like their support more but no one seems to have time to comfort you right now.
OP the one thing that is certain from your question is that you are probably making a bigger deal out of this than there really is. Getting hurt by a guy/girl romantically has this fantastic way of blurring our outlook and screwing with our perceptions of things, we tend to see only the negative because we feel so bad about ourselves and we start to see signs of bad things that aren't really there.
My advice based on the little you have told us is to just call up some friends, go out for a few drinks with them or just hang out. Talk to them, have fun with them and just relax if they're too busy to see you at the moment then understand their reasons and cut them some slack.
Look it's not as bad as you think it is, this is just your judgement being clouded by a perceived rejection from this guy you like. There's nothing wrong with that either, we all get like that in those circumstances, just try and force your brain to see the positives and don't make any rash decisions or judgements or you could create something out of nothing.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (5 August 2011):
Hi there. Have you had a fight with your boyfriend?
What has happened in the last 24 hours for you to feel this way?
You haven't really said. Something must have happened for it all to suddenly change so dramatically.
Your boyfriend wouldn't stop talking to you for no reason at all, surely.
Can you think what happened just before everything changed?
Has your boyfriend had a death in his family or a close friend, or has he lost his job?
If you can tell me this, I can help you further.
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reader, silenced  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 First step would be to talk to them. You said that past 24 hours, which means it hasn't been going on for long.Talk to the guy you're into--however, don't pester him--and ask him if he's okay. Then possibly ask him where he sees things going between the two of you. From that answer, decide whether to forget about him or stay.Then about your friends, ask them what they think of you. They may think it strange, but you owe it to yourself to know how your friends truly think of you. It may be hard to bring up, but don't wait for the right time (it won't come)...just do it. And keep us updated. :)
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reader, toomuchhdrama101 +, writes (5 August 2011):
first off. have you been talking to him first? most guys are afaid to talk to the girl first. and for your friends. have they been suddenly.....acting strange or downing you about things?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): Beyond you being a 'hyper and random' person (which many find annoying), there isn't much information to go on here so we really don't know what you're doing wrong either. Could you elaborate a little?Did the guy you liked like you in return? How did you express your interest in him? What were the circumstances that led to his refusal to speak to you? Do you know for certain he is avoiding you or could he just be busy and you're simply assuming the worst? What have your friends said or done that leads you to believe they only associate with you as a joke?
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