My wife is talking and flirting with her first love.
Q. I am a 43 year male who is married to a wonderful person. Found out that she has been emailing, chatting, probably talking to what I believe is a first love, the discussions she has are sexually (I miss you and would love you to touch me #@!$ on by ...
A. 26 June 2009: ... sorry i really have a bee in my bonnet about this one dont I! - she seems a very good manipulator - dont please let her pull the wool over your eyes - get support and be tough - either you get tough or your wife will soon be sleeping with ... (read in full...)
My wife is talking and flirting with her first love.
Q. I am a 43 year male who is married to a wonderful person. Found out that she has been emailing, chatting, probably talking to what I believe is a first love, the discussions she has are sexually (I miss you and would love you to touch me #@!$ on by ...
A. 26 June 2009: hey... my heart goes out to you.... when all of a sudden did she begin to decide what happens in YOUR relationship... i'm sorry but she is having her cake and eating it - she is not giving in or giving him up, at some point they will end up meeting ... (read in full...)
Comments please... Am I wasting my time with her?
Q. hello I met this girl on facebook who i quite like. We mailed each other quite a few times, got quite personal. She then asked me for my MSN address and i gave it her, but whenever i go on she never starts a conversation its always me. Somet...
A. 20 May 2009: shes a single girl enjoying being single & obviously enjoying flirting adn not wanting to be too tied down, i'd play it cool for a while and dont be as available - see what happens - she might be the one chasing you then.... but i wouldnt waste too ... (read in full...)
My wife is talking and flirting with her first love.
Q. I am a 43 year male who is married to a wonderful person. Found out that she has been emailing, chatting, probably talking to what I believe is a first love, the discussions she has are sexually (I miss you and would love you to touch me #@!$ on by ...
A. 20 May 2009: she is cheating on you - maybe not physically but mentally its just as bad - you have to lay down the law here either she cuts off all ties with him or its over, i know its harsh but she is totally disrespecting you - these are things she should be ... (read in full...)
Should I compromise? My boyfriend is still friends with his ex girlfriend.
Q. Hi. My boyfriend, Aaron, and I have been friends for many many years and finally fell in love and moved in together in September. Things are great. My problem is his ex, Cynthia: he was with her for 5 months and left her because he was NOT in love. ...
A. 26 April 2009: its just my hubby has a son with an ex, they are very close and text each other a lot, and not always about their son.. ive had enough and because of that and a million other things ive told him i'm leaving him... he and this situation will never ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends stares at other women constantly.
Q. My boyfriend stares at other woment constantly. He makes sure they know he is looking my making obvious suggestive eye contact with them. I am hurt and embarrased by his behavior. I have told him how I feel and he promised to do better. That ...
A. 20 April 2009: i think he will always be like this, youre obviously concerned as to what would happen if you werent there too?? To be honest i cant believe the cheek of some women flirting with a guy whom they know is with someone its cheap. I dont think he has ... (read in full...)
Should I compromise? My boyfriend is still friends with his ex girlfriend.
Q. Hi. My boyfriend, Aaron, and I have been friends for many many years and finally fell in love and moved in together in September. Things are great. My problem is his ex, Cynthia: he was with her for 5 months and left her because he was NOT in love. ...
A. 20 April 2009: You poor thing, i dont think anyone is considering your feelings here one bit?? To be honest unless she moves away i think it will always be like this, his family obviously loved her.. but they appear to be an open honest, open bunch and it seems ... (read in full...)
He means a lot to me and I can't bear to lose him, what the hell is he thinking?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 9 months now and no matter how pathetic this sounds I admit I have fallen in love with him.. We rarely argue but recently we have started to have problems. Last week everything was perfect and we w...
A. 18 April 2009: never mind what the hell is he thinking, who the hell does he think he is??? Yes you love him but he (in my opinion) has treated you like crap, you cant be mad on someone one minute and then not sure the next??? and its terrible that he has made you ... (read in full...)
I don't like being with him any more because of the way he looks.
Q. I don't like being with him any more because of the way he looks. My boyfriend is 13 and I'm 15, he's 5"2, I'm 5"6, he's small and thin, I'm broad and larger... Everyone looks at us wierdly together ect. What do I do!!!...
A. 18 April 2009: if you are not attracted to him anymore then end it (in a nice way) - i do think you are over paranoid, you know poeple may even look and think gosh shes miserable with her boyfriend or she looks embarrased??? Many people have too much going on in ... (read in full...)
My man doesn't want to hang out with me anymore
Q. im going through alot of stress. I got angry over something really dumb and told my man "i do so much for u and u cant be here for me when i need u!?" he got mad and felt i was throwing what i do for him in his face. I apologized and he said it was ...
A. 18 April 2009: men can run away when things get tough, if you have been having a terrible time lately it can have pushed him away, why would he want to be with you moaning when he can be with his freinds etc having fun?? However that is part of what being a ... (read in full...)
Does he still love his ex?
Q. this is a long one.... okay! when i first meet my current boyfreind we were both dating other people. All 4 of us were mutual friends and hung out a few times. As time went on my relation ship with the old boyfriend ended and a few months l...
A. 18 April 2009: it seems like there may be something there.. but he may just be inquisitive too, when i visit may parents house (i'm married now and live away) if i drive past an ex's i do look but just being nosey really i think its just normal. Its a shame that ... (read in full...)
Where is this relationship going, please help!
Q. I have been dating an older (divorced) man for a year now and we still don't have sex. We are very sexually active in other ways (by masterbating with each other, foreplay...) but he says that sex means alot to him if it's in a relationship. He ...
A. 17 April 2009: you need to know his intentions, as this is your life aswell as his and you need to know where its headed. It seems you have put him on a pedastal somewhat and he is calling the shots, maybe its because hes older and you look up to him more - but a ... (read in full...)
I need advice, I'm pregnant after being raped!
Q. hi i am 14 and pregant i got pregant cause i was raped i dont know what to do i am scared please give me adivice i beg u ...
A. 17 April 2009: please dont waste any time, you must tell a parent, guardian or teacher you must not go through this alone. You will get all the help you need, i promise but you need to tell the person you trust the most.
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Is it just because I'm a teenager?
Q. Is it just because I'm a teenager? I'm 15 and I feel very bad about myself. I'm chubby and hate my face, I've been told I am ugly and fat by boys and just started believing them... should I? My mom always tells me to ignore them but I just can't. ...
A. 17 April 2009: i felt exactly the same as you when i was your age, it IS because you are a teenager/puberty etc etc.... your body is going through so many changes you have a way to go yet but believe me it will be worth it. I remember crying in my bedroom at 15 ... (read in full...)
I need to quiet my mind, or...
Q. Ug...I can't believe I'm even asking this. My GF and I are in our late forties...certainly old enough to not play games. My GF has taken a short vacation, for which I am happy for her. She works hard and deserves it. My concern is... On the ...
A. 15 April 2009: perhaps then shes having her cake and eating it, and it many cases is acting like a single woman.. okay i understand how you feel now but it seems as far as she is concerned you either like it or you 'lump' it?? On the next time you go out and she ... (read in full...)
It hurts me to see my FWB has moved on ...
Q. i fell in love with my f**k buddy. i never wanted it to be f**k buddies i was totally into him! he lied to me and made me believe he wanted me to be his girl. He is now seeing someone new. He treats her like a proper gf not like how he treated me. ...
A. 15 April 2009: i dont think theres any such thing as a f/buddy... theres one person who is totally in love with the other and would do anything for them (ie put out) and the other person who is using them for sex, a cheap thrill. Hes a bit of a rat and i presume ... (read in full...)
Why can't he let the ex go and why would he want her back?
Q. Dating a man for a couple of months. He told me things like love at first sight, my family will love you, I can see you in my home, could you see yourself living where I live etc. "joe" was in a relationship for 5 years with "Sally". She ha...
A. 15 April 2009: why would her dad call up on his own accord - i think he knows Joe is good for his daughter Sally and is trying to get them back together - i would have been furious with Joe for saying yes - men are slow but for heavens sake he didnt take your ... (read in full...)
He's the perfect guy, except he keeps texting his ex!
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years and I think he is absolutely perfect! He is sweet, caring, Always supportive of me, gorgeous body and face, and amazing in bed. He is 19 and already making almost a thousand dollars a day, smart, fun to ...
A. 15 April 2009: the guy is a jerk - you have (after the first time) given him the green light to cheat on you with her any time he likes.... no matter how much you love him or how much he earns - this is it, this is all he can ever offer you - in bed with you one ... (read in full...)
I don't know what's going on but I don't want to lose her to someone else!
Q. i met this girl a while ago and we started texting and talking on the phone, we hung out a couple of times and i began to realize for a reason i still don't know, that she was special and different than anyone else i'd ever met. now i don't want to ...
A. 15 April 2009: she could feel intimidated by you, especially if you have all these other girls who fancy you perhaps shes feels you are in a different league and perhaps its too much like 'hard work' dating you - feeling she has to look good at all times and act a ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want to have biological children and I do!
Q. My husband doesn't want to have biological children and I do. What should I do?...
A. 13 April 2009: neither does mine, hes just told me (now after 2 years of marriage!) - so you could (or i could) stay with him, accept it will never happen and watch others around you having families and you constantly feeling bitter..... How is your relationship ... (read in full...)
Can people notice any smell on other people?
Q. I always take my bath or shower immediately before bed but then during the night I do some self-stimulation and become quite damp. I am a bit afraid that I will have odor during the day. During the course of the day my underclothing may become damp ...
A. 13 April 2009: can you not have a quick shower in the mmorning too?? go to bed earlier and get up earlier, spray deoderant - get a good top brand one and put on some fresh clean clothes and maybe top up the srapy at dinnertime?? why not discuss this with your ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm torn between two girls!
Q. Hi, well here's the deal. I have a girlfriend and she's great to me but I think I've fallen for someone else. The girl I like is very very pretty (I've seen pics and videos of her) and has a sense of humour and but we've never talked before. She ...
A. 13 April 2009: okay for a start you dont know if this other girl would fancy you anyway?? shes just a face on a screen at the moment. There is obviously something between you and your girlfriend 3 years is a long time at your age - but that said if you are having ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to fancy someone so young?
Q. In a nut shell was with a guy for 3 years, he treated me like shit, you name it he did it!! Met a guy thats 18, I'm 22!! Fancy him like mad but he's four years younger then me, is it weird to fancy someone so young?!...
A. 13 April 2009: you could be on the re-bound, when you said young i thought you meant like 16 or something?? 18 is nothing, just have fun with him and not expect anything too heavy, which is probably the last thing you need after coming out of a long relationship... (read in full...)
How should I handle this?
Q. A couple of months back, I went to New Orleans with a group of friends. I met this girl, and we hit it off. We kept in touch, and even met half way between where she lives and where I live last weekend. Anyway, the last couple of days have been ...
A. 13 April 2009: i think its overkill. You met up it was nice but not perhaps the fireworks it had been built up to be (as far as shes concerned) stay in touch but i wouldnt put my life on hold, perhaps it was a holiday romance.. have her just as a mate but get on ... (read in full...)
I'd like to see him again but not sure how to go about it
Q. I'm confused about a guy i like.I saw him tonight,i hadnt seen him for about a year,as i havent been to the place where i used to see him regularly that much.I saw him in a pub at first tonight.We looked at each other and smiled,but we didnt talk to ...
A. 13 April 2009: next time you go out and you see this guy go over and explain that you like him and give him your number, explain that your friends are busy thats why you are out with your uncle and his friend - lay it out straight for him so he knows the full ... (read in full...)
I need to quiet my mind, or...
Q. Ug...I can't believe I'm even asking this. My GF and I are in our late forties...certainly old enough to not play games. My GF has taken a short vacation, for which I am happy for her. She works hard and deserves it. My concern is... On the ...
A. 13 April 2009: how come you aren't on this trip too?? You are sounding like a jealous maniac to be fair, let the poor woman have a qulity break - women can do that without having to stick our tongues down someones throats you know? Give her a break - right now the ... (read in full...)
I like her but I am not attracted to her? Am I trying to change her?
Q. Okay so I'm seeing this girl. She's not usually what I would go for.. Like she's really cute. Maybe a 5.9/10 on my scale. I usually date 7/10's and up... I'm involved with this girl because I'm looking for someone to share my time with and so...
A. 13 April 2009: i would leave this poor girl alone and allow her to find someone who truly likes her for the way she is... yes you are brutally honest, but also sound very shallow to me - i wonder deep down if she would like to change anything about you??? Yes you ... (read in full...)
Silent treatment and no answer. What do do ...
Q. I have currently developed feelings for this guy that I've known for around four years. Things have started to develop with us but we haven't had intercourse with him. Even though we both want to do things, afterwards I feel like he's given me the ...
A. 13 April 2009: well unless he was in a committed relationship with you i wouldnt be having sex with him... why should you have sex with him when for all you know he will fire off the next day and you wont see him for weeks. He is coming and going as he pleases so ... (read in full...)
Should I play him at his own game? Tease him and make him chase me?
Q. Me and my friends have been hanging around with this group of lads for quite a while now and basically one of them is what you would call the stereotypical bad boy, good looking but he knows it, cocky and is so persuasive and convincing. The thing ...
A. 13 April 2009: well if you do end up having sex with him, be sure to remember it would be just sex as far as he is concerned - i doubt from how you describe him there would be any real emotion involved or love. I reckon once he has sex with you (theres nothing to ... (read in full...)
My bf is 7 yrs older than me and I know it's illegal for us to date. Is he worth it?? Please read xxx
Q. i am currently going out with a 21 year old and im only 13 (he was 20 when we started seeing eachother) the thing is he hasnt pressured me into anything and ive never felt this way before. i know about his past and everything ive spoken 2 his cous...
A. 13 April 2009: Hi, i totally agree this guy is way too old for you - but okay hes cheated on you already - because he was pissed????? - he still is only 21 and i'm sure he will be getting pissed many many times in the future and will no doubt cheat on you again - ... (read in full...)
I now question if she ever loved me.
Q. I have been with my wife for 6 years. She recently cheated on me and the person she was cheating with needed a place to stay and she had him move in with us. I found out what was going on about a month and a half afterwards. He petended to be my ...
A. 29 January 2009: I wonder if the guy wasn't in jail would they still be together?? probably?? sometimes when we are bored and stressed with everyday life we can look elsewhere for comfort etc but i truly believe if she was totally happy with you and in love this ... (read in full...)
Do I wait to see if he gets in a better place?
Q. I have a friend who I've been in love with for quite some time now. Last night, I could no longer hold it in anymore and I confessed that I am in love with him. He told me that he did not feel that he could be in a relationship right now becaus...
A. 11 January 2009: well i would keep him as a good freind but dont push it - he may not like you in that way and was just trying to let you down gently but dont even go there with him as it will just push him away. I think he is happy being your friend and sometimes ... (read in full...)
He aint no mate!!!
Q. Hi I used to fancy this boy for 3 years but now I have gone off him thank god. Friday he kicks me at the back of my leg for no reason at all, I thought that was out but I stayed cool.. cos I am trying to stop my moods for my bf and I'm doing ok ...
A. 11 January 2009: oh hes weird! i'd stay away from this one big time - you could look at it that oooh he might be trying to impress me and look cool but sorry hes an idiot keep him at a distance, you dont want a fella who thinks its cool to kick you????? ... (read in full...)
Guys opinions in particular would be appreciated here!
Q. Dear Aunts. I recently have met a guy online. We went out for dinner last weekend and it was great! During Christmas break he was off work for a couple weeks and we talked every day, sometimes hours on the phone. He's back to work now so it ...
A. 11 January 2009: well to be honest i think hes an idiot for letting you know so late - he could well be one of those guys who rings when he wants to and wants to go out with a girl once he has checked his mates arent going out. I think you could have had a lucky ... (read in full...)
Am I next???
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now. I thought that we were both happy but recently he told me that he isn't happy and wants more things to do with his life - I think he is going to change his job, he's talking about joining clubs ...
A. 11 January 2009: He could be depressed, but i bet you'd have a hard time getting him to a doctor...... i know what you mean, you cant physically drag him off to do something but if you make the effort, but the tickets, book the table get ready just see what ... (read in full...)
Am I next???
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now. I thought that we were both happy but recently he told me that he isn't happy and wants more things to do with his life - I think he is going to change his job, he's talking about joining clubs ...
A. 5 January 2009: i think he is stuck in a rut and is just shouting out possibilities - has he actually done anything about getting a new job or joining these clubs?? or is he all talk no action??? i can understand that you would be concerned especially as the things ... (read in full...)
I really need help with this urgently before tomorrow (2nd posting) thanks!
Q. P.S. I am only posting again as this is a very important question and I did not recieve enough answers to consolidate the issue. You may be tempted to delete my post despite this P.S. note - but why don't you take into consideration my feelings and ...
A. 5 January 2009: wow what a massive infatuation you have! you were young and the pressure i guess of close families and the fact that they were normally in the next room anyway led to your nervousness - but you seem a bright girl - but i want to shake you and say ... (read in full...)
I dated him for 3 weeks in May 2008, I didn't know what I was getting myself into...
Q. I've asked a ton of questions on here for some advice, but I've never really got the help that I needed. In May 2008, I *unofficially* dated this guy, we were friends first, I was 16 he was 16, but we just didnt want to rush into anything incase ...
A. 5 January 2009: oh god this linking thing just seems a way for guys to snog as many girls as possible - seriously i think 'linking' only benefits people who want open relationships - once you fall in love you are screwed. I think from the start when you both agreed ... (read in full...)
She accused me of abusing her!
Q. Hello everyone, I find myself very confused, angry and insulted. After a new years celebration, this woman I used to call my friend, accused me of 'either leaving her alone or abusing her' she claims someone touched her while she was drunk. I don't ...
A. 4 January 2009: she was very very foolish to get so drunk she did not now what was going on silly woman, i would give her a wide berth from now on - if anyone says anything tell them that all you did was ensure she got home okay and that was it. If she trys to ... (read in full...)
He's a bit slow on the uptake - any ideas for dropping hints?
Q. I've fallen for the most irritating person! Ok, lets say he seems perfect - tall, good looking, generous, sweet, kind, friendly and we can talk for hours BUT he never can keep an appointment. For example he invited me round to his, but I couldnt ...
A. 4 January 2009: bless him? i feel like shaking him!!! i would clean up anyway get it all done and looking perfect just incase atleast it will keep you busy - for a while.
If he really did like you i think you would have met up by now - i cant really understand what... (read in full...)
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