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*eatherlou
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now. I thought that we were both happy but recently he told me that he isn't happy and wants more things to do with his life - I think he is going to change his job, he's talking about joining clubs that'll mean he is away at the weekend - I'm just worried that I will be the next to go - he says I am being silly but I don't know what to think.... help me!! Reply to this Question
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY +, writes (11 January 2009):
 He could be depressed, but i bet you'd have a hard time getting him to a doctor...... i know what you mean, you cant physically drag him off to do something but if you make the effort, but the tickets, book the table get ready just see what happens?? maybe he'll enjoy himself wjen he gets out? If none of this works i would consider maybe having a break from each other, maybe for a couple of weeks or a month - say you dont feel like he wants to be with you anymore and leave him to it - it may be the wake up call he needs?? dont stay where you dont think you are wanted - give it another month and try your hardest, you ahve nothing to lose and then suggest the break and just go.
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reader, heatherlou +, writes (7 January 2009):
heatherlou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI suggested a few things to him and he's not interested. He just replies if you really want to with no excitement whatsoever this is beginning to upset me shall I just dump him? If I do do you think this will shake him out of this monotonous bore that he has recently become? Getting worried now
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY +, writes (5 January 2009):
i think he is stuck in a rut and is just shouting out possibilities - has he actually done anything about getting a new job or joining these clubs?? or is he all talk no action??? i can understand that you would be concerned especially as the things he is suggesting dont include you and involve more time away from you?? Why not suggest doing more things together, going on weekend breaks etc - see what reaction you get?? To be honest after 3 years so should be feeling secure if you get a naff answer from suggesting doing more things together then you have to grab the bull by the horns and ask and say you want a bloody good answer! he could be depressed - i would say honestly try to do more things together first
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