Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 8 August 2013: Since people ask, I'm a 34 full C, bordering on D, and no, if I'm going braless I dont wear low cut tops.
Also, no, my b/f doesnt control what I wear. He has his preferences, but he doesnt impose what i should wear.... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting by being upset that my boyfriend didn't come to see me when I was ill?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm just looking for some advice on whether I'm overreacting about this or not. I was taken into hospital yesterday with suspected appendicitis. I text my boyfriend of 4 years on the way there to let him know what was happening. When I ...
A. 8 August 2013: Yes, you are.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to spice things up but I'm worried that things would be weird between us afterwards
Q. Hi There, I wanted to get some advise from anyone who might have been in my position. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and we have always had a fairly normal and active sex life. We've never been very experimental before, but he's...
A. 8 August 2013: I can understand your reluctance.
I went through exactly the same feelings years ago with my b/f. However, don't be afraid, you may discover a brand new world and it doesn't have to be weird or extreme or cringeworthy stuff like mask etc :-)
Usi... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 5 months but I'm still worried about his ex
Q. Hi. Ive been seeing a guy for about 5 months now, but I can't seem to get over the thought of him and his ex girlfriend. They were together for ages and are still friends and talk quite a lot. She already doesn't like me and has made it very clear, ...
A. 8 August 2013: Erm...sounds very complicated.
Were you a rebound? How long after he split up with her did he start dating you?
And did she dump him or did he dump her?
If you kindly answer the above questions I could give you (for what it's worth) a more ... (read in full...)
I think my interfering soon to be mother in law needs to mind her own business!
Q. Hi guys, I have another semi-unfortunate family-in-law issue. It basically revolves around my soon to be mother in law. My fiance and I became engaged after 10 years of great friendship and a year of dating. We now live together and share everyt...
A. 8 August 2013: You need to have a proper word with him.
If he's so passive and doesn't stand up to her nicely but very firmly, then you're in for a bit of a nightmare in the years ahead.
She is absolutely out of order.... (read in full...)
Curious to hear from women who have been with men who felt inadequate
Q. Curious to know if any women have had relationships with men obsessed with being inadequate (esp too small) in bed and what the outcome was--relationship ended because of it, satisfactory resolution achieved and how, etc. Thanks!...
A. 8 August 2013: Ok. Generally incredibly insecure men with low levels of self esteem are not a turn on. In fact, I can safely say, 99,9% of women would find them offputting.
Fair enough we like a man to be human and to stop acting all arrogant and artifici... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and told him, when I suggested splitting up he cried and begged me to stay, but the thing is I am much more attracted to the other guy than to my boyfriend
Q. Guys, I need help, I think I'm going mad. I've been in this relationship now for around 9 years. We love each other, but many a time during the first few years I slipped and cheated on my excellent boyfriend. I told him and we managed to work ...
A. 8 August 2013: Sorry, I just read what "A reader, anonymous" wrote today.
You wrote: "Unless it secretly turns him on."
I thought that as well. After all the jealousy and the anger, I've noticed that my b/f's sex drive skyrockets every time we speak about w... (read in full...)
Am I boring because I don't want sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend almost seven months now. At the moment, I'm still very up and down about sexual things and doing sexual things with my boyfriend. This is the most comfortable I've ever been with a boy before, but I'm just not feeling ...
A. 8 August 2013: You'll do it when you feel naturally ready.
You're not boring, just don't let anyone pressurise you into doing things.... (read in full...)
Can you get that wet just from kissing?
Q. Hi! Yesterday we were in bed with my boyfriend and we were kissing (we haven't had sex yet) and I got really wet and I got embarrassed and I didn't want him to notice so we didn't go any further. Is ir normal to get that wet from just kissing?...
A. 8 August 2013: Definitely normal. If you're turned on that's what happens. And...most importantly, nothing to feel embarrassed about!
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I cheated on my boyfriend and told him, when I suggested splitting up he cried and begged me to stay, but the thing is I am much more attracted to the other guy than to my boyfriend
Q. Guys, I need help, I think I'm going mad. I've been in this relationship now for around 9 years. We love each other, but many a time during the first few years I slipped and cheated on my excellent boyfriend. I told him and we managed to work ...
A. 8 August 2013: Thank you all for your kind interest.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and told him, when I suggested splitting up he cried and begged me to stay, but the thing is I am much more attracted to the other guy than to my boyfriend
Q. Guys, I need help, I think I'm going mad. I've been in this relationship now for around 9 years. We love each other, but many a time during the first few years I slipped and cheated on my excellent boyfriend. I told him and we managed to work ...
A. 8 August 2013: Thanks all for your answers. Fair enough you'e being harsh. I deserve it :-( However, if i may, you don't know what it's like. He just won't let me split up. The last time I had an affair, I told him, and he presented me with a stunning engagem... (read in full...)
My fiancé admits she still has feeling for her first love and wants him to be a part of her life
Q. My fiancé dated a guy who was 6 years older than her when she was 14, he was her first love but she cheated on him with me and we ended up being together. We're the same age, we started going out when we were 16 up to now. She told me she loves me...
A. 7 August 2013: Let her deal with it and make her choice. If her love for you is stronger than her love for him, she'll tell you. ... (read in full...)
Curious to hear from women who have been with men who felt inadequate
Q. Curious to know if any women have had relationships with men obsessed with being inadequate (esp too small) in bed and what the outcome was--relationship ended because of it, satisfactory resolution achieved and how, etc. Thanks!...
A. 7 August 2013: Oh my god. I really feel for you, as this has been my case (with my boyfriend) for years. I made the mistake, right from the start, to tell him the truth about how big my exes were. Unfortunately, we had such chats before we got intimate. As it ... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to finish with him, how do I break up without him harming himself?
Q. Hello there. Well I’ve been with my boyfriend coming up for three years and I am no longer in love with him. I’m guessing my question is how should I finish with him? I've been putting it off for months now, tryng to find the right time, but we've ...
A. 7 August 2013: God, I sympathise with you. I've been in your situation before, though I must say your case sounds more clearcut.
For example, you say that you've grown apart and that you barely talk. We never went through that stage, at least not as radical ... (read in full...)
He caught me red-handed, cheating, I treated him badly and dumped him, but he still wants me!
Q. I had a short lived relationship with this may, who has been a childhood friend. He wanted marriage and i agreed to it, though i wasnt realy sure. I hurt his feelings badly. I cheated on him several times and he cought me with condoms and hotel ...
A. 13 August 2009: Well.. if he wants you back, then it means he's ready to forgive you.... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend are having lots of issues around sex. What can I do?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 1/2 years now. we have quite a few issues when it comes to sex. we were 16 when we started having sex, and i was self concious because he couldnt make me orgasm...so i faked it because he hated that he ...
A. 1 August 2009: I have a very similar problem. In fact I posted my question about it last month. I just tell you what happened to me. My b/f too has never been able to give me an orgasm. Again, like with yourself, we manage with dildos and stuff, but alone he jus... (read in full...)
Would shorter nails make me less of a man-magnet?
Q. This may sound a bit silly but it's causing tension. I love wearing long nails. I always have, especially (but not just) french manicured nails. My boyfriend, who's 29, always said that they're very sexy, but the problem is he's got unbelievably...
A. 1 August 2009: Thanks for your feedback.
I guess he sees his masculinity undermined as his hands are much smaller than his girfriend's, which doesn't really happen to anybody else. Also, perhaps he is conscious of being quite tiny all over hence his over reac... (read in full...)
He put his penis inside me. Am I a virgin?
Q. I was on my summer vacation and I was fooling around with the cutest guy and we got naked and all. He fingered me and one thing led to another and umm he put his penis in my vagina (his penis was maybe 9 cm long, I dunno and I'm a virgin, or at ...
A. 1 August 2009: Oh my god, it sounds like a fantastic moment!
you didnt feel much cos you were obviously well turned on... You lucky thing...for you to say 9 inches long it must have looked it!massive! Enjoy it!!!... (read in full...)
My wife went into the gents with another guy but claims she cant remember what happened in there!
Q. When a girl drinks a lot and she kisses another man and he takes her in the gents loo for some more action, will she be able to stop going all the way and will she remember everything what happened in there? she remembers what they were talking ...
A. 28 July 2009: I see. Sorry than. I misinterpreted what you described as your 'fantasy'. Hmmm...
There are two things here. If you start pestering here with questions you may lose her. Would you be able to just accept that she may have been naughty and carry on... (read in full...)
Will sex feel okay? My boyfriend has a curved penis. What will it feel like?
Q. my boyfriend has a curved penis and I am wondering if the sex will be ok? It is curved downwards, and am concerned it might hurt or feel different during sex. If any ladies have been with a guy with a curved penis and can relate please do. and ...
A. 28 July 2009: Wow, you lucky woman! What are you complaining about? A large penis which is curved is well-known for feeling more pleasurable down there (angle and stuff).
My b/f's has a really curved one - it looks like the letter "J" (!) - which really i... (read in full...)
My wife went into the gents with another guy but claims she cant remember what happened in there!
Q. When a girl drinks a lot and she kisses another man and he takes her in the gents loo for some more action, will she be able to stop going all the way and will she remember everything what happened in there? she remembers what they were talking ...
A. 27 July 2009: Right- so it's your fantasy...then you can't complain!
Is she a flirt when you go out normally?
Do you object to that?
... (read in full...)
My wife went into the gents with another guy but claims she cant remember what happened in there!
Q. When a girl drinks a lot and she kisses another man and he takes her in the gents loo for some more action, will she be able to stop going all the way and will she remember everything what happened in there? she remembers what they were talking ...
A. 27 July 2009: But how do you know for sure that she kissed him? Did you see it? Or did she tell you? Need more info to comment on this.
I had a similar situation with my b/f about 6 months ago in a club. I got stupidly drunk and started snogging this guy on t... (read in full...)
I can't stay in a relationship where I'm not trusted!
Q. I'll try and keep this short, but there is so much to the story. My boyfriend is extremely jealous, insecure and controlling. This is all getting better since he has been seeing a therapist, but one thing that has gotten worse it his trust problems. ...
A. 26 July 2009: Dump him. Now. You don't want to live like this. These are your best years.... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to make the smell go away 'down there'?
Q. Hi, recently my boyfriend told me when ever we have sex that I dont smell very pleasant down there. I went and had a pap and everything was fine. i dont know what else to do?! any recommendations in how i can make the smell go away?...
A. 21 July 2009: I agree with satindesire who post earlier. Some men actually actively like the smell. And, sorry to be gross, but any woman here would tell you about the aromas we have to put up with when we perform a certain thing...!You may want to tell ... (read in full...)
My foreskin doesn't retract when I have an erection
Q. i have a 5.5 inch penis and when i get an erection, my foreskin doesnt retract. i think my penis is too small for my foreskin as i can pull my foreskin over the head but it just slips back. is this normal? ...
A. 15 July 2009: It just will happen, dont worry.
It is a bit tiny for your age, but like other people said you're not done growing yet.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me and I think she is still cheating as she continues to talk to him daily...
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years.I was her only friend.We were happy,were always together,the sex was great until last december where i caught one of her txt to a guy she just met about a week ago saying "did you get the lubricant" ...
A. 13 July 2009: Soz mate, I know it hurts, but she's so blatantly into him and she's just not telling you because she feels guilty.... (read in full...)
I come across very confident sexualy but in reality I'm bricking it! Help me
Q. I'm nervous. I've been seeing this guy and i'm really worried that i'm not going to be enough, sexually. It's embarrassing to admit... You see, he has 8 inches down there, and I'm worried that I won't be able to give him decent oral sex. He told me ...
A. 13 July 2009: What if he's also just telling you he has an 8 incher and he's bricking it too coz it's not that big? ;-)... (read in full...)
What is this problem I'm having with my penis? it bends down!
Q. hello...im 21 and i think that i have a problem with my penis...is about 5.5 inches is perfectly straight...but the head bends and its kinda ugly...i dunno how to explain how the bend acctualy is ... is like when u tring to bend only ure finger ...
A. 13 July 2009: I have news for you. There are women out there who actually have a fetish for bendy ones. I used to think they were freakish but now I like them and I've discovered I'm not the only one. By the sound of it, yours is only bendy at the top. Some me... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to be more dominant in bed?
Q. i want to know how to get my boyfriend to be more dominant in bed. i get turned on knowing i am satisfying the guy, doing the positions he likes etc but my bf will not ever say. i ask do u wanna try a different position? and he just says if you do, ...
A. 13 July 2009: Mine is like yours, he's really insecure as his thing is small and also incredibly bendy- he was told before by his exes lol. So what you need to do is to boos his confidence. Make him feel bigger than he is, just pay him compliments, obv... (read in full...)
I get performance anxiety when sleeping with someone for the first time. Would Viagra help? Should I try it?
Q. i get really bad performance anxiety when im with someone new for the first time. it stops me getting an ersction. ive met a girl and feel like im really falling for her. would it be a good idea to use viagra for the first time I sleep with her? I ...
A. 13 July 2009: One of my exes took it occasionally and it was lots of fun! However, be careful to take only a small dosage. 25mg or 50mg btops/b should do the job. Take on about 20mins to half hour prior to intercourse. One word of advice though: don't te... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is under the impression I have a really big penis, but I think I'm average. Will she be disappointed?
Q. Ive met a girl that I really really like. and she has also fallen for me to. She has left her boyfriend of six years for me. Anyway, this might sound very stupid but please take it seriousely as it is getting to me. She is under the impres...
A. 13 July 2009: "I'm just worried about her initial feeling when she first sees it."
Are you joking? I actually checked online and your girth is absolutely massive! Luckily this place is anonymous, but let's just say I'd be well pleased if my boyfriend was even... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is under the impression I have a really big penis, but I think I'm average. Will she be disappointed?
Q. Ive met a girl that I really really like. and she has also fallen for me to. She has left her boyfriend of six years for me. Anyway, this might sound very stupid but please take it seriousely as it is getting to me. She is under the impres...
A. 13 July 2009: Dear male, she will not be disappointed. You actually sound slightly above average lengthwise, but really very big in terms of circumference. So, mark my words, no worries on that front. Size matters, however, don't forget that it's how you use... (read in full...)
I really need your advice on this one! How can I get her to open up about her feelings towards me?
Q. I apologize for the long post, but I feel that I’m experiencing a dilemma that requires some sort of a resolution. About three years ago I became the supervisor of a woman whom I found to be full of contradictions. (Currently I’m 43 and she is 39...
A. 13 July 2009: Quite an interesting situation, I don't deny.
I feel for you because there is a category of people who are incredibly difficult to read and send mixed signals.
It could be that she's just a 'natural flirt' and she enjoys your company as a friend.... (read in full...)
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