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writes: I had a short lived relationship with this may, who has been a childhood friend. He wanted marriage and i agreed to it, though i wasnt realy sure. I hurt his feelings badly. I cheated on him several times and he cought me with condoms and hotel room bills from my lovers. I ended the relationship cos i felt i wasnt realy prepared. its been two years and he still wants me back. i have changed now. i had a drinking problem, which contributed to my bad behaviour, but i have since stoped and am more honest, reliable, faithfull... The problem i have with getting back is that i feel very guilty abut how i treated him and am not sure how he really thinks of me. would we have a healthy relationship?
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reader, missjones  +, writes (13 August 2009):
People forgive but they never forget. Dont expect him to forget how you hurt him.He has enough love inside of him to look past it and try to work it out with you, which makes him a very good guy, its a little to late for feeling bad now it the time for moving on and making the relationship work and also making sure you never do such a thing again cause honestly i could not have taken my husband back regardless of the reason so count your blessing and be good to him because he is worth it
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Maybe BEFORE you two enter into a relationship or marriage you get some couples counseling. You could definitely benefit from it and I bet he could too.
It would show him just how far you have come and how willing you are to make it really work.
He seemed to have forgiven you, now it is turn for you to forgive yourself.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 If your partner wants to be with you again after how much you have hurt him it suggests to me he really does care for you.
Also if you feel guilty for your behaviour in the past, that is a very good thing, because you realise the error of your ways and are changing or changed.
The past is the past, noone can change it.
All you have is this present moment.
If you love this guy then talk to him and find out how he feels about everything.
If you decide to give it another try, take the relationship very slow.
when u have thoughts of guilt pop into your mind rememeber that your partner gave you a 2nd chance and be thankful for it.
Then let the thought go.
In time you will feel better.
We all have done things we're not proud of, but it makes us stronger as people.
Good luck!
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reader, newbern +, writes (13 August 2009):
Well.. if he wants you back, then it means he's ready to forgive you.
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