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male
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41-50,
*ouis Vuitton
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years.I was her only friend.We were happy,were always together,the sex was great until last december where i caught one of her txt to a guy she just met about a week ago saying "did you get the lubricant" and another one saying "NEVERMIND".When i confronted her,she admited that they just kissed and that was it,that i should not worry.During the holidays,the tension was there.I happened to know he guy,and i found cple of txt where my gf complained to him about not calling her that much,that he totally changed.After months of asking her questions and questions,she finally admit that she slept with him twice during the holidays and that she regretted what she did,and she love me with all her heart,that it was just an impulse and that she stopped her afair.And when ask her why she did it,she said that,i wasnt there for her when she needed me.But until now,she still talk to that guy like everyday and text him a lot.When ask her,she said thatshe doesnt hve any friend and he is a very good friend.WE are having fights.Now she deletes all the txt that she send and receive from that guy.But swear that there is nothing,that they r just good buddies since she has no friends.I even told her to lower her calls nd txt,but it seems to piss her off.She said she needs her space.And we stopped having sex.I really love that girl because she helpd me a lot.My question is that i think she is still romanticaly involved with the dude.But she swears,she is not.Shld i just cut my losses or accept it that friendship?
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reader, newbern  +, writes (13 July 2009):
Soz mate, I know it hurts, but she's so blatantly into him and she's just not telling you because she feels guilty.
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reader, Louis Vuitton +, writes (8 September 2008):
Louis Vuitton is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe worst is she wants us to be like brothers,ilke real cloz friends.What shld i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): If i was in your situation - either she stops contact with him or id leave. I know its easier said then done but your better than that and you deserve more and in the long run, youre going to come out on top.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): Cut your losses, break up and move on.
I understand you love her, and will MISS HER terribly once you've broken off with her. But, come on - you've seen those texts, they're way too familiar in tone to be a one or twice off. She was planning him for a regular partner.
She wants to keep you and Side Guy at the same time. If this is OK with you, that's one thing. If not, then you need to stop being so dependent on her, and find someone who is seriously into you. This woman isn't.
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (3 September 2008):
 I would seriously give her an ultimatum. Either she quits talking to this guy or you leave. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that won't quit talking to who she cheated on you with? Don't believe it's okay for her to talk to him. I understand you love her, but do you really want her talking to this guy? I know I wouldn't, especially since she's already tried hiding what they did from you. How can you trust her just because she's saying she's only "good buddies" with him? I think that if she respected you and the relationship enough, she would quit talking to him and find some NEW friends, maybe female friends that she's not tempted to sleep with. Hope everything works out for you!
Good Luck!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 Hi
I personally would not be happy if my bf was to speak to his ex gf. The fact that you gf slept with this guy and broken the trust you have for her - you should be feeling the way you are feeling. If she is really serious about you then she would do what makes you happy - stop ALL contact with this guy. What would she do if you did this to her? would she forgive? would she allow you to communicate with the girl? If this does happen again she can alsways use the same excuse that you were not there for her. If you werent there for her she should have spoken to you about it and found a solution.Her sleeping with another never solved anything - It would actually make you grow further away from her. I think you should consider getting out of this relationship and finding someone that love and appreciates you and your love. You can be in a relationship iif you are going to be second guessing everything that she is doing. This incident will take you a very long time to build your trust back.
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