Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 March 2008: I don't think anyone in this situation is ready to help others regarding abuse like a professional would so pericles missed the point on that one. I think we all know what happens in an abusive relationship, it's called BATTERED WOMAN's SYNDROM!!! ... (read in full...)
I am enjoying the excitement but there are however too many moral reasons to stop this incoming affair. What would you do?
Q. I have been secretly emailing with a friend's husband and it is getting heavy. There is crazy attraction and they will be moving close by soon. I'm not sure how to handle this. It was just sort of flirty before but now it's too close to home. I ...
A. 29 February 2008: Read this article: http://groups.google.com/group/ask-oldersister/web/the-married-man-single-woman-syndrome--dating-a-married-man-and-losing-yourself-in-the-process?hl=en
This situation will no longer feel as exciting to you.
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Could I be pregnant even though I got my period?
Q. i had unprotected sex on the 9th and 10th of febuary,but i had a period on the 12th which was lighter than my other periods and only lasted four days. i've had a pain lately in the lower part of my stomach and my mouth has baeen tasty funny but no ...
A. 26 February 2008: it is possible but unlikely. I would still get it checked out though because some people do have their periods when they are pregnant. Be careful next time because you need to worry about diseases too. ... (read in full...)
We rowed like we never have before after his ex called...was I so wrong in what I said??
Q. Please help me. When I first met my boyfriend I'd known of him for 6 years, working together in a mental health hospital. I had originally asked him out over email before I left my job. Then after I'd been seeing him for 3 months, I found out that...
A. 26 February 2008: Some things are contradicting themselves here and i don't understand how you can start a relationship for the first three months and it be a lie and then are supposed to trust him but it doesn't make much sense even what you say! that you have ... (read in full...)
My ex was not right for me, my new lover lied to me and I had to terminate my pregnancy. How do I cope with these burdens?
Q. I am going through some major anxiety and i believe its because of my most recent loses. I was pregnant with my ex of 2 years' baby. We were supposed to get married but when we shouldve been growing together and being there for one another is w...
A. 26 February 2008: You chose these guys knowing they weren't good for you so why you cause yourself so much pain, i don't know. Is your family not good enough to support you because i don't get this. There was no mention about how wrong it was for you to have an ... (read in full...)
I'm still living with him but he's told me he doesn't love me anymore. How do I leave him and move on with my life?
Q. Time with friends, not with me. Now we break-up but we still living together because he cares about me and I can't leave him cuz I love him so much and that's the reason I'm still living in the same house. But it hurt me a lot because all the time ...
A. 26 February 2008: everybody has had to deal with heartache. It is not supposed to feel good packing up and leaving him. that is how you do it and if you are waiting for it to not hurt you will be there forever... (read in full...)
I felt so hurt, used, betrayed by this man, whose son I gave birth to. There is also another man in my life, whom I actually love but I'm very confused!
Q. Hi, I need some advice, a different insight, well i'm sure you will understand... Well my question is basically who should I choose? You will understand why in a minute... I'm sorry if this long but I have been pondering this decision for som...
A. 26 February 2008: I think everyone is right about spending time to take care of you. I agree with red that this will take a counselor to really work through it and I think oldersister is right about you not seeing that you chose all this pain for yourself so you need ... (read in full...)
How can I move on from an affair?
Q. I'm trying so hard to get through the heart ache I feel after my three year affair with a married man, I too started out married. I must say what is helping me get through this is to see that other girls have been through a situation that i...
A. 26 February 2008: There is an article on here about married men and single women, it was good, I have been through this and looked at it just like you are. Later on I realized it wasn't quite what I thought on his end. Read it and it will make you feel better... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to start paying attention to me,instead of masturbating to porn?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and lately I feel that he doesn't think that I am attractive. He is always looking at pictures of naked girls online. He admits that he likes masturbating to these pictures even though usually I am ...
A. 26 February 2008: There is a lot of this going around!! It's almost like the fascination with video games but of course, much worse. What are these guys thinking? Hours and hours and hours of it. Maybe it takes them longer to get turned on after looking at it so ... (read in full...)
We both love each other, but is love enough? I'm worried about jobs.
Q. I Have a long distance realtionship. We both love eacho ther. I'm crazy for him and i'm sure he does too. The only problem is that he has a better chances for the future for good jobs. For me i may just be working out in a supermarket again. One ...
A. 26 February 2008: I think there is something more to this story. ... (read in full...)
I don't want my brother's friend to ask me out but I do want him to know I'm interested in him.
Q. There's this guy I'm really interested in being with, not right now cause I'm not ready. The thing is he's like my brother's best friend and I don't know if I'd be his type or not, but he's really hot and I could see it really going somewhere with ...
A. 26 February 2008: I don't get this either. What is the point of letting him know if you aren't ready?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he will dump me if I ever cut myself. Now I don't know if I want to be with him anymore. Help.
Q. My bf was recently telling me how a friend of his broke up with his gf because she was cutting herself. I was shocked that someone could break up with someone they are supposed to love when they need them so much. I was even more shock to hear my bf ...
A. 26 February 2008: Guys get uncomfortable if you even cry and especially if they can't make you happy. I think they can still like an immature girl if she is fun and positive and makes them feel good. You want your boyfriend to be there like a mother would and ... (read in full...)
How do I get through to my older lover?
Q. I am dating an older man. HI am 30 he is 43 he has not had a relationship for 12 years and is frightened of getting hurt. I have now told him i love him and his response was well love is not a word to use lightly and he doesn't beleive me...i would ...
A. 26 February 2008: Just move slowly because...12 yrs? Sometimes it's easy to fall in love if someone is unavailable but I don't think you know him well enough and this guy may not be able to take in how you feel. If he is too scared it doesn't matter what you do so ... (read in full...)
I unloaded my stress on him, so he broke up with me and started to drink. What now?
Q. I don't know what to do, I am 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. We have always had a very exciting relationship, with really strong emotions. But last week I was so stressed out and I took it out on him, which I felt so guilty about. ...
A. 26 February 2008: you asked this question before and now you are altering it- i guess you didn't like what everyone told you the first time. You want to hear you guys are so in love and should be together, i don't know, do you really want advice?... (read in full...)
I cheated. What should I do now?
Q. i have been with my man for 3 years and things are great we are getting married in a few months but recently i had it off my ex, help since we split 6 years ago we have remained good friends and now this what to do?...
A. 26 February 2008: you confess because it's not fair to your fiance to get married under false pretenses. You work through it together if he can forgive you, because if you marry, you will end up telling him later when you get uncertain again and that will be a ... (read in full...)
Should I call it quits or try to work it out?
Q. I haven't talked to my boyfriend since Friday. He's mad at me but I don't know why. Everything was fine on Friday then all of a sudden he's mad. He always does this and it frustrates me so much and he never tells me why he's mad. He just goes on ...
A. 26 February 2008: He's going to make you feel crazy, get out of this now. He's selfish and he's picking fights so he can push the envelope and see how much he can get away with. this type of guy doesn't want to communicate, he wants you to think there is something ... (read in full...)
He's my best friend's husband and we're close, but where does friendship cross the line?
Q. I am very confused! My friend has been with her husband almost 10 years. He and I didn't really start getting to know each other until about 2 years ago. Once we started to get to know each other we got to be really close. She is O.K. with this and ...
A. 26 February 2008: I have to agree with Ask and Anonymous on this one. I hate to say it but usually there is so much chemistry that the 2 people find it spiralling out of control but this seems to have been flat. I think he felt friends at first and now he is just ... (read in full...)
How to get her more attracted to me, by specific gestures?
Q. yo, does anyone have an idea how i can get someone turned on/want me without something sexual, some kind of a gesture? I'm average built but a little heavy i'm willing to work on it any ideas? (specific exercises would help) ...
A. 26 February 2008: they say you can tell if someone likes you if their pupils are dilated. I think it's a better idea if you be a good listener because that means more. Just have good posture so you look confident and smile a lot.... (read in full...)
My boss is very flirty with me, but I don't want to risk losing my job or his, am I reading him right?
Q. Help,Iam falling for one of the male managers at my work. I dont know if he feels the same way but its possible. I dont want to ever do anything about it and risk either one of our jobs but its now getting to the point where I would give up my job ...
A. 26 February 2008: He may like you but sometimes guys like to see how far they can get you to like them! Then when you do, they lose interest. I don't think you should do it but i think you like him too much, you will do it anyway so be smart... (read in full...)
Why did he act the way he did?
Q. I really like this guy and we are in good terms with each other mutually. We met last year and have been good friends ever since. He says I love you to me and all that. He continually stares at me when I walk by his area. We never talked much to ...
A. 26 February 2008: I agree that there's not a whole lot going on here to know. He's flirting but guys that age flirt a lot and he's saying he loves you is more just trying to get a reaction and it's not serious at all. I can tell you really like him but you guys ... (read in full...)
We were flirting and he was touching my leg...now we are going out...is this a date??
Q. I went on a business meeting and met a guy as part of business and just had a casual meeting over a few drinks. Through out the meeting, he was flirting, touching my leg, laughing etc, and then 4 days after the meeting he left a message on my ...
A. 26 February 2008: I think after some guy feels comfortable enough "touching your leg" he should be asking you out to dinner. If this is some guy you like and he hasn't made physical advances on you already the first time you met him, then yeah, go out for ... (read in full...)
I might have a second chance, how do I make it clear I won't break his heart again?
Q. A couple of months ago, an ex-boyfriend from 10 years ago emailed me from out of the blue to say hi. He was the sweetest guy that I have ever dated, but I was very immature at that time. I may have broken his heart as I was his first girlfriend. ...
A. 25 February 2008: Men don't disappear for weeks when they are trying to catch you. They pull away once they are in a relationship with you because intimacy sometimes overwhelms them. Hot and cold is not the best sign starting out. It's been 10 yrs and the past is ... (read in full...)
He broke up but he will not explain why until he considers I am ready to know! Should I give him a b-day present?
Q. well this guy told me that he liked me during the Christmas holidays last year, we got to the same college , but we broke up after a week. i still dont know why he broke up with me, he wont say it because he said that hes going to tell me when im ...
A. 25 February 2008: this guy broke up with you and is trying to get away from you . You should leave him alone, there is nothing between you and him except a lot of distance. No, you should not give him the present. ... (read in full...)
We were flirting and he was touching my leg...now we are going out...is this a date??
Q. I went on a business meeting and met a guy as part of business and just had a casual meeting over a few drinks. Through out the meeting, he was flirting, touching my leg, laughing etc, and then 4 days after the meeting he left a message on my ...
A. 25 February 2008: He sounds awfully friendly for someone you just met!! I had that happen a lot to me on business trips and then I learned to be much more cautious. Most of the guys that came onto me like that just wanted a fling. Who knows if he is married(I saw a ... (read in full...)
Trapped in a relationship
Q. Hi I am 20 years old, I have a 7 month old baby and I live with my boyfriend who is also my baby's father. We live with his mother. The thing about it is, I am not in love with him anymore and I want to move on with my life. The only problem is I ...
A. 25 February 2008: You don't get to have space when you have a new family. You say you want to move on and do all these things like you have no responsibilities. You act like you are single and want to work and go to school as if you don't have a baby. You want your ... (read in full...)
Will this man marry me, or am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been dating a guy for over 3 yrs - He says he loves me - My b-day just came and went and he jokingly told others his gift to me was that I could be his friend for another year - I am so sad - this is the same man who says he loves me - I ...
A. 25 February 2008: he is on dating sites and tells you he does not ever want to get married. I'm not sure where your question comes from. If you like chasing unavailable men you are not wasting your time. You say he's on these dating sites but has no intention of ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriend, its hard financially, but I want another baby, advice please?
Q. Ok so I have a question. Hopefully someone can help. I'm a 24 yr old with a beautiful 3 yr old daughter. Lately I've been eager to have another child eventhough I know I'm definitely not ready. I'm living with my parents due to financial reasons. ...
A. 25 February 2008: I agree with what was said- your wants are more important than your baby's needs. Sad. You act like you are discussing getting a new puppy. You don't really want any advice, you just want that one person to say it's ok so you can do it.... (read in full...)
Why is my doctor behaving strange around me?
Q. I've known a male doctor for 19 years. He used to treat one of my children and seemed to like my family-anyhow things changed suddenly. His behaviour changed, he seems to avoid talking to me-or any one on one interactions with me, I get the feeling ...
A. 25 February 2008: Since you don't see how he reacts around his other patients, i'm not sure why you would think it has to do with you. Unless you have done something like flirted with him, then I could see why he was acting that way- that would make sense so he may ... (read in full...)
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