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*hell1977
writes:I am dating an older man. HI am 30 he is 43 he has not had a relationship for 12 years and is frightened of getting hurt. I have now told him i love him and his response was well love is not a word to use lightly and he doesn't beleive me...i would do anything for this man i have never felt like this before how do i convice him i do love him??
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reader, shell1977 +, writes (26 February 2008):
shell1977 is verified as being by the original poster of the question can i just add that i have know this man for 8yrs....we both new we had feelings for each other but i was married and didn't do anything about my feelings for him...i am now divored....I have told him once that i love him and i have now dropped it and feel dis hearted now...i really don't no if i should just move on or give him some time??
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reader, jenna34  +, writes (26 February 2008):
Just move slowly because...12 yrs? Sometimes it's easy to fall in love if someone is unavailable but I don't think you know him well enough and this guy may not be able to take in how you feel. If he is too scared it doesn't matter what you do so ease into it and don't apply pressure. I'd stop all the love talk and convincing. He could be set in his ways too. Does he say he loves you?
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reader, Aylarsh +, writes (26 February 2008):
 You shouldn't have to convince him that you love him. He should believe that you care for him deeply and love him. You should talk to him about this. If nothing works out then just go on with someone else after awhile of being single again.If you have any questions then message me. Good luck love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): It is understandable that he feels this way. He has been hurt in the past and his wounds dont want opening up again. Just be very very patient and i am sure he will see that you do in fact love him. Dont stop saying it to him either, just because he is this way. He is a very lucky bloke to meet someone who loves him and in time he will come round and see that you do mean it. Be patient, we all get hurt, but it is how we repair the damage that counts.
take care
xx
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