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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: Help,Iam falling for one of the male managers at my work. I dont know if he feels the same way but its possible. I dont want to ever do anything about it and risk either one of our jobs but its now getting to the point where I would give up my job any day to be with him. The fact that he is an authority figure at work makes it hard enough but I really dont know how he feels about me. I think he might flirt with me. He is always staring,smiling, and winking. He constantly is teasing, making jokes, and doing stupid stuff to try and make me laugh. He has cute and funny nicknames he calls me. Sometimes he will even get a little personal with me and ask me questions about my life outside of work. Sometimes he will even give me compliments, sometimes on my appearance. I know he is single and it seems to me like he might be flirting with me but i could be just imagining it because it is what i want to happen. I couldnt help falling for him. He is the most perfect man Ive ever known. He seems nicer and friendlier and a little more flirty to me than to anyone else. What do you all think? Does it sound like he flirts with me? Is it possible he could have some feelings for me? What can I do about these strong feelings I keep inside? Please help, I think Im falling in love and cant do anything about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): yes, he likes you. I am a boss and what you described I am going through the same thing. The problem is that he can not make the first move because he is not 100% as sure if you will go for it.
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reader, jenna34 +, writes (26 February 2008):
He may like you but sometimes guys like to see how far they can get you to like them! Then when you do, they lose interest. I don't think you should do it but i think you like him too much, you will do it anyway so be smart
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 Hi,
all I can say is office affairs between a manager and a subordinate invariably end in disaster.
there is the office jealousy to start with, people think you will now get special attention as you are dating..etc etc. the list goes on.
As for leaving your job, be serious here, you might start going out and split up within a few weeks then where are you, single and out of a job.
I suggest you do nothing for now, if you two really have a connection then it will build over time and you won't be able to avoid each other. But you have to accept that he may just be flirting innocently with the cute girl at work and may not want to take it any further. You will know in time anyhoo.
good luck.
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