My SOS (someone special) has a girlfriend!! Move on, or wait it out?
Q. So, I am very attracted to this guy that works for my Dad. Five weeks ago, we started talking. I think he is absolutely amazing. He is everything I think I want in a man. He is absolutely adorable, charming, and very sweet. He is just as attracted ...
A. 27 October 2011: From your text:
He is everything I think I want in a man.
[BUT] The only problem is that he has a girlfriend that he has been with for two years.
Question: Red flag, not single, move on. Why would you want a man that's looking to cheat ... (read in full...)
New girl I'm dating doesn't know how to treat me like my ex. Should I leave her?
Q. Im going to try to condense the story as much as possible. I been dating this girl for about a month and a half now. Our relationship is moving very slowly and I'm okay with it. I have some recurring thoughts though. I have a strong feeling t...
A. 26 October 2011: Just an observation from your text:
ON THE "NEW GIRL":
I feel disrespected for the amount of time and work I put in. Its not reciprocated...This leads me to the belief that she's not for me. She does not know how to keep me.
[....] she just... (read in full...)
I don't like him watching porn alone! Should I just watch it with him?
Q. I don't like my boyfriend watching porn. It makes me feel like I am not good enough for him. Just the thought of him watching other naked girls and doing the nasty with himself makes me sick. Should I just watch it with him? Would he stop watching ...
A. 8 August 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/category/pornography
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Where are all the real women???
Q. I was what is called a player in my early 20's. Now I am 36 and a single Father to my amazing 5 yr old boy. I haven't dated since his mom left 5 years ago. I tried a couple of times but it seems like games. Most women are not interested once they ...
A. 5 August 2010: The reason I brought up age, is because someone 20's no kids, is probably not going to want to be with someone with kids, as they're in different stages in life, whatever.
A chick in 30's no kids, might not have kids by choice or truly someone ... (read in full...)
Am I too attached to my boyfriend?
Q. Hi. There's something, I don't know if that's a problem but I'm extremely attached to my boyfriend but in a very exaggerated way. We are together like 12 hr a day everyday, he wants to be with me all the time and I want to be with him too, w...
A. 5 August 2010: Some couples both people are clingy, some couples have a more independent person in them paired with a clingier one, and some have both pretty independent people.
What I mean by independent is just the able to be away from each other.
If it w... (read in full...)
Girlfriend spends to much time with this other guy. It seems to be non-sexual from her side but should I be worried?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for five years. In the last couple of years she has become friends with a single man. It is more than obvious to me that he is attracted to her. She always tells me that they are just friends and she in not ...
A. 5 August 2010: The first anonymous chick is right on somethings about as far as seeing you can get body language, etc. You already have a biased opinion so EVERYTHING will look like some kind of attraction..
Oh his hand grazed her when she passed the ketchup,... (read in full...)
Can I become pregnant by day old sperm?
Q. i just had a baby like 15 days ago and i did my boyfriend with my hand he finish and didn't clean himself the next day we where about to have sex it went in but we stooped because it hurt ... can i get pregnant even if we didn't do it all the way ...
A. 5 August 2010: Outside the body, sperm can only live up to an hour (I've seen some sites cite this as even less).
So dried sperm from 24 hours ago, I highly doubt would make you pregnant.... (read in full...)
If you love someone but don't have a clue wether they feel the same or not should you tell them.
Q. Hi, if you love someone but don't have a clue wether they feel the same or not should you tell them. What if the guy just freaks out? would telling him reduce your chances of ever being together? Please let me know what you think. what advantag...
A. 4 August 2010: I just did this recently.
I had this guy I knew for awhile, we seemed to get along great, same values.
I told him I liked him more than a friend and if he felt the same. I wasn't in love, head over heels yet, but wanted to see if it would go a... (read in full...)
If I lose weight will I have a chance with the girl I like?
Q. Hello, I'm a 14 year old boy and I always had some problems with my weight. I'm not obese but I got some fat on my chest and my belly and around the belly too.I don't know what techniques I should use so I can Loose Weight. I want to loose fat ...
A. 4 August 2010: My brother was always over weight since a kid, from about 10+ up until he was 18. He's 6'1/185 cm tall His highest weight: 275 lbs/19.6 stone/124 kg He spent an entire year, eating right, and working out 5x a week. He now weighs 170 lbs... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has double standards about oral sex!
Q. Dear all my girlfriends says that me tasting her cum is ok and should be a pleasure but her tasting my is disgusting and degrading to women Help please...
A. 4 August 2010: Poster, how long have you two been going out?... (read in full...)
Having children she can't afford without thought
Q. My best friend is 21, I have asked a post about her before regarding her child: (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/torn-between-love-of-a-best-friend-and.html) she already has one child who is 5, and she recently got together with (anot...
A. 4 August 2010: My family knew this one chick for the longest time, she was near her 40's and had 1 son that late teens.
She had a good job, had a house, a normal chick.
Well, she really liked this one guy that she had met and she actually got pregnant wit... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just the sluttiest girl on the planet???
Q. Do girls ever like "having a train pulled on them?". My girlfriend has had a very lurid sexual past, as have all her close friends. She unveiled all this to me soon after we had said, "I love you.". I have been dealing with some jealousy/maybe a ...
A. 4 August 2010: I just wanted to mention, the OP's fears about being accused of rape even though consensual at that time is VERY valid:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/09/16/hofstra-rape-student-lied_n_289473.html
College girl gets a 5 man train pulled on ... (read in full...)
I revealed something very personal about our relationship and he found out and broke things off...
Q. Me an my partner have not long broke up, we have a 3 month old baby together and i love him so so much, i really want him back. The reason we broke up is because i told his cousin's girlfriend that he was pressurising me to have sex not long after i ...
A. 4 August 2010: Anonymous posts some good info, but I still don't think this guy would pack up and leave over this.
Anonymous mentions about not talking behind his back, but in reality..it seems like it was 2 chicks talking (which women talk about everythi... (read in full...)
I want her to love me... not say that I'm boring!!!
Q. Hi guys, right to cut a long story short, I was needy / clingy, she got mad, we nearly split, we sorted it out and now have sorted some "ground rules" no texting 100 times a day, no constantly telling her I love her, couple of days ago she says that ...
A. 3 August 2010: James..
I remember your other post.
I was reading this current one and this really stood out:
She thinks we should have stuff to talk about, but how? I mean, if you have done nothing all day what is there to talk about?
If something h... (read in full...)
I revealed something very personal about our relationship and he found out and broke things off...
Q. Me an my partner have not long broke up, we have a 3 month old baby together and i love him so so much, i really want him back. The reason we broke up is because i told his cousin's girlfriend that he was pressurising me to have sex not long after i ...
A. 3 August 2010: I doubt he really broke up with you.
I bet you're driving up his phone with calls, texts, apologizing, leaving voice mails...see where I'm going with this..
I think he's just trying to make a point, so you don't do it again.
Some guys kn... (read in full...)
Where are all the real women???
Q. I was what is called a player in my early 20's. Now I am 36 and a single Father to my amazing 5 yr old boy. I haven't dated since his mom left 5 years ago. I tried a couple of times but it seems like games. Most women are not interested once they ...
A. 3 August 2010: Poster,
Curiously, what kind of women are you seeing..
Are they 20's-30's women without children of their own?
Or single mothers themselves, let us know.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can get too rough in the bed sometimes...I need advice!
Q. Hey everyone, i've been dating my BF for almost 3 years now and we have a good, trusting relationship. Sex is satisfying for me, but he seems to want to be violent during sex. Now don't think i mean rough, because i don't mind a bit of rough now and ...
A. 3 August 2010: Until we get some more info, I think Dear Jilly, makes some good points, hopefully we get a follow up. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just the sluttiest girl on the planet???
Q. Do girls ever like "having a train pulled on them?". My girlfriend has had a very lurid sexual past, as have all her close friends. She unveiled all this to me soon after we had said, "I love you.". I have been dealing with some jealousy/maybe a ...
A. 3 August 2010: Your last post wasn't there when I answered the question, when you stated you would never do it.
Sorry.
Your Q: Is this is just a matter of enjoying a fantasy, why the need to pretend you are wasted or passed out?
Not to be judged, it ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just the sluttiest girl on the planet???
Q. Do girls ever like "having a train pulled on them?". My girlfriend has had a very lurid sexual past, as have all her close friends. She unveiled all this to me soon after we had said, "I love you.". I have been dealing with some jealousy/maybe a ...
A. 3 August 2010: Serenity80, Rescuer (and Cerebus, on you being open to doing it minus the rape factor) gave some good advice.
Basically, relationships are about values.
I read your post, you seem to be okay with it, and if it was switched like in Cerebus'... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can get too rough in the bed sometimes...I need advice!
Q. Hey everyone, i've been dating my BF for almost 3 years now and we have a good, trusting relationship. Sex is satisfying for me, but he seems to want to be violent during sex. Now don't think i mean rough, because i don't mind a bit of rough now and ...
A. 3 August 2010: I'm curious..
1) Has it always been this way?
2) If it has, ever asked him why he feels he needs to be so rough to get off?
3) If it just started, what do you think changed his ways in the bedroom?... (read in full...)
Sex toys for males?
Q. Hello everyone! I'm a 18 year old guy and I love masturbating. I'm not obsessed with it, I only do it 3-5 times a day, but it's not like I can't stop if I wanted to or that I'm doing it in public. I want to get a male sex toy, but I can't beca...
A. 3 August 2010: Rubberbands, etc - sounds dangerous man. I think you should just accept masturbation for what it is, a release. And yeah, 3-5 times a day IS obsessive.
I'm not a guy, but a chick that does go solo a lot, and I've been doing it for a long time. I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is HIV positive and we want children, so which man do I choose to be the father of my child?
Q. My boyfriend is HIV positive and we both want children...but i dont want to do it medically so i have to decide whether i want my ex or his friend who is married to get me pregnant. i weighed the options but i'm still confused...who do i choose? my ...
A. 3 August 2010: Hey Girl, Honestly, if your age is accurate 18-21, I think you should slow down. How can you two want be at a point in life where you want kids but haven't even made the commitment to get married? Personally, if you're that much in love w... (read in full...)
Do I respond to an email from a 14 year old when I'm 30?
Q. I got to work this morning to find an email that I don't know what to do with, so I'm looking for some help here. It's from a girl who I'm pretty sure has a crush on me. I'll give you a little backstory. I work for a local bank. I used to manag...
A. 3 August 2010: Do NOT listen to that anonymous posters text about replying back and the chick being heart broken, that book is a pedo relationship book, it's the exact opposite of what you want to do.
I would follow TimmD's advice.
If she ever comes in, f... (read in full...)
I stay overnight all the time, but he does not want me moving in, why not??
Q. I've been dating a guy exclusively for over two years. I've been staying at his house every day and night since Christmas 2009. When I say I'm going to stay at my place, he always talks me into staying with him instead. My lease will be up in a few ...
A. 2 August 2010: "He has been married once and has had two long term live in relationships that didn't work out."
He's probably associating the above, with "as long as we don't move in together it keeps everything simple."
But upfront, he's not the only man... (read in full...)
What can I do to try to solve this problem between my wife and my daughter??
Q. Caught in-between my daughter and my wife Hi. I'm seeking some kind of answer to a predicament which is driving my crazy. I'm the father of a 17 year old girl (my only child), and married on my fourth year with a lovely lady. The problem is that ...
A. 2 August 2010: You said she's 17, and finished boarding school..
I'm curious, does she have any plans for college?
If she does, is she going to a local college or someplace that's farther away?
... (read in full...)
Should the man have to do everything when lovemaking?
Q. hello to anyone reading this and anyone willing to post some help lately my girlfriend and i have wanted to have sex also she's a virgin. but theres always been a problem. either she's on her period, i dont have a condom or she's just not mentall...
A. 2 August 2010: Are you a virgin too? I could be wrong (as I'm not a guy), but in my mind I think the first time someone has sex male or female, I think the female will be more anxious/nervous. Even though virgins are not clueless as they once were (with... (read in full...)
Why is it mainly women posting on here and not men?
Q. Hello Aunts I have one general question on the forum. Why do only women post questions here ? why so less questions being raised here by Men?. what are the thoughts on this. I know it is complex question and not a single and easy answe...
A. 1 August 2010: I wish more guys posted about deep relationship issues, lots of times when I'm scrolling for interesting questions, I'm specifically looking for and more likely to read the blue (m) ones. But like a lot of posters mention, lots of guys aren't into... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I trust her and I don't need the drama
Q. Where to begin, I've been seeing this girl since feb. of the year and she was fairly recently out of a long relationship(just over 3 years) We started out as just friends with benefits, and I slowly came to realize I wasn't the only one she was fool...
A. 1 August 2010: Honestly,
I don't think it can go anywhere long-term with this chick.
Usually on DearC, it's the chick who posts Q's like this.
Yes, she can love you and care for you. But it's just like some guys that can love a chick, but sleep with ot... (read in full...)
The celebrity I'm dating constantly bugs me for money!
Q. (OP's suggested title) I'm a model who is dating a celebrity (I'll call him Tyrone), most people call him a hasbeen or say his career is over... why? Because he hasn't been a star of a movie in nearly 17years. We met on Facebook and we clicked ...
A. 1 August 2010: Good advice already on this page, although we hear it all the time being the other way around (chick using guy for money), it's the other way too sometimes.
The guy doesn't have to be overly good looking, they know it's the way they make you feel... (read in full...)
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