How do I confront my housemate about his ridiculous obsession with my mother?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really appreciate the opportunity to speak to someone about my worries, i have never openly discussed my problems with an agony aunt before. One of my housemates, currently a student, has an unnatural and exaggerated attrac...
A. 26 January 2014: Get rid of his as a friend then tell your mother about it. ... (read in full...)
Should I put sex on hold?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have an amazing relationship and I love him with all my heart but the issue lies with our sex life. The thing is, Are love is so strong, but at the same time so is the sexual chemistry. I am A Christian so for me, I feel as th...
A. 26 January 2014: It is not wrong to have those feelings - to want to abstain from sex - but continue with the relationship. In fact, me and my wife were in a similar situation for similar reasons and we decided to "fast" for a while from sex until married and it ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy and his ex is hitting on me???
Q. Okay so, I met this guy in an online game, we started getting to know eachother better and we were very clear nothing was to be expected but then things changed. We started to get to know eachother better and shared real life details (the game we ...
A. 25 January 2014: I sense a setup... By a married couple with polymorphous life style seeking a "unicorn" or a young girlfriend that an older, married couple want to enjoy. Among swingers and others, unicorns are considered rare and extremely desirable. So, the w... (read in full...)
How do I leave my violent husband?
Q. I have been with my husband for 8 years and we have 4 young children together. My husband has always had a bad temper and drinks excessively, but both have gotten worse over the years. He screams and swears at me at least once a day for something ...
A. 23 January 2014: Your husbands excessive anger may be an Intermittent Anger Disorder triggered by mood imbalance. There are treatments for that like drug Abilify. Alcohol enhances these feelings.
If you do counseling try to see if he is willing to go on these be... (read in full...)
Do I choose my husband or my boyfriend?
Q. I need advice very badly. I'm in a predicament I never thought I would find myself in though I have seen it on the site before. I am having to choose between two men. Each have their strengths and weaknesses. One is my husband, not what you think or ...
A. 23 January 2014: You should stay with your husband and try to work things out since he is willing. That would be a great chance for you to express how you feel, and how you would like your husband to beige of.
It may take an effort but you already have a bond whi... (read in full...)
Do girls do this if they are interested?
Q. why do girls do this? I went on a date with a girl last night and she was on her phone for the momst of the time and talking about other guys that are interested in her, talking about previous love interests, and acting cold. she even invited ...
A. 23 January 2014: You should forget about her and move on.
In case you are adventurous, you may want to go on another date with her and do what she does - get on the phone and talk about girls making sure she is amply ignored. Then move on. ... (read in full...)
Are there known relationship phases?
Q. This isn't a problem as such - I'm just wondering about the phases of relationships really. For example, I'm living with my boyfriend of a year and a half. And I've noticed recently - he tells me he loves me twice a day these days whereas beforehand ...
A. 21 January 2014: There are no such things as phases if you both are as well as lovers. It is important to keep heightening both and to invest in friendship and loving, and not just physical. Being affectionate is contagious and the best way is never to focus on how ... (read in full...)
I caught the man in lies and he finally came clean. No contact for 3 days--should I reach out to him?
Q. Ok so I started talking to this guy, who I met online, 8 months ago. We live two states away from each other and started developing this amazing emotional connection. We did eventually meet and the connection was even stronger. About three months i...
A. 21 January 2014: Withholding information that is vital to a relationship is always a deal breaker but lying is an immediate one. You should be glad your mother looked him up.
I'd suggest you fix your personal issues and look for an honest guy that will be upfro... (read in full...)
My heart is heavy with the thought that the relationship should be ending
Q. I am in a relationship with a 39 year old man (I am 42). There are a number of things that have not been right since we got together 18 months ago but I am struggling to make a decision as to whether or not to move on as I am not happy. The first is...
A. 20 January 2014: Although you may be bothered with his porn habit or fling for blonds what is more troubling, speaking here as a man, is that at 39 he has no clue how to be financially independent let alone make any money. Equally troubling is that, in this day and ... (read in full...)
I stood him up twice due to anxiety and now I don't know how to fix things
Q. I was supposed to go on a date with this absolutely amazing guy and I told him I couldn't make it... This was only because I suffer from anxiety issues and the thought of going on a dare with him prettified me. I know I'm always ok once I'm on the ...
A. 19 January 2014: Find ways to convey to him, in not too many words, that you have anxiety issues and because of that you are unable to do things over which you are excited or feel that you have a great stake into. Some ways of reaching to him about this is a ... (read in full...)
What should I do to avoid making the biggest mistake of my life ???
Q. I have been married for 6 years and I have the best husband in the world but I recently met someone ! We are very close friends but somehow I am attracted to him ! I feel like he is the perfect match for him ! He is married too but I know he is ...
A. 19 January 2014: If you are referring to making a mistake by sleeping with that other man then you will make a regrettable mistake if, as a married woman, sleep with that married man.
Married men sleep with other women because those women are ready to sleep wi... (read in full...)
Threats, fighting, verbal and mental abuse. Is he about to break up? What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid yesterday i had a huge fight with my bf of 4 years, lately he is ignoring me, verbally and mentally abusing me all the time. Its getting difficult even to have a decent conversation with him on anything. Yesterday we had a huge f...
A. 19 January 2014: Find a place to live then is pack your belongings and go away from him. You will also be better off not telling him that you are going nor telling him where you will be because he will, in all likelihood, get violent on you.
Remember, no person s... (read in full...)
She told me she didn't want a serious relationship, then turned around and started dating someone else!
Q. So this girl was dating for a few months ended things with me over Christmas. She at least seemed to be a really down to earth and nice girl but broke up with me after SHE missed one of our dates. So a few days we talk and i tell her that i'm...
A. 18 January 2014: Women often do downgrade and many affairs of married women involve a relationship with a man that is less educated, unhappy and financially unstable vagabond in comparison to her husband... Why that is so? No clue because from the man's perspective ... (read in full...)
Is he committed to marrying me?
Q. hi all. I just want to understand this. I have dated my boyfriend for 7 years and in march 2012 he asked me to bought a house with him and I did because he promised that we are going to get married in that December of 2012. when December came he ...
A. 18 January 2014: You can always get a court order and have the house sold so you can recover your money and I would recommend you do that. Mixing finances all over the place or having your money to finance his mother's finances is not a good start to a marriage ... (read in full...)
Married but fell for someone else
Q. I am 28 and married. I have never cheated on my husbands and never looked at another man until now. My husband has always been flirty with other women and chats them up right in front of me sometimes which is hurtful and embarrassing. I always take ...
A. 16 January 2014: That man will not fix your marriage and if anything your relationship with him would ruin it. Men who are willing to sleep with married women do it because they can get sex and are not interested in your underlying needs which seem to have brought ... (read in full...)
Stumbled across a message of my fiance questioning whether or not she should marry me!
Q. Hello agony aunts! I need some help with my fiancé and our upcoming marriage. This morning when I was getting ready or work I noticed her phone light up because she received a message I glanced at it and saw that it was her close friend who had ...
A. 13 January 2014: I would have a conversation by asking probing questions about what she said without mention that you read it. Then compare her answers to you vs to her buddy and evaluate merit and truthfulness of each.
Frankly this dilemma she got you in surel... (read in full...)
I suspect my wife is cheating
Q. I am married for my second time and feel I may have made a major mistake. She is a teacher and on the surface seemed to be the kind of person I was looking for. She was into family as at the time we both had kids about the same age at that tim...
A. 13 January 2014: Find more evidence. Hire PI to get the evidence so you can win in the court during divorce. ... (read in full...)
Found sexual pics of my fiancé and his ex on his computer and not sure what to do or where to go from here....
Q. The other day I was uploading pics on my fiancés laptop and came across a file that had pics of him and his ex having sex and her giving him a blowjob. It was by far the worst thing I ever saw. I am 5 months pregnant too with our first child. There ...
A. 12 January 2014: I would not want to to view videos of my wife being pounded by her ex and if she wanted to keep those as momentos then there would be something wrong with her and my relationship with her. If you are not with your ex then there is reason to keep ... (read in full...)
What do you expect from your husband and his side of the family when getting married?
Q. This question isn't just directed at women, men feel free to give your thoughts and experiences. What do you expect from your husband and his side of the family when getting married? -- Whilst growing up my parents spoiled me, I would put th...
A. 11 January 2014: My marriage is multicultural but part of the decision to marry was a discussion over these customs. In my case we decided to follow my customs in large measure while setting aside many of hers that deal with finances or require spending in order to ... (read in full...)
He is cheating on me emotionally with his ex what should I do in this situation?
Q. I am dating a guy from last 7 months. But I have recently discovered he’s been emotionally cheating on me with his ex. He broke up with his ex (as she only dumped her) nearly one year ago. Only after that he started hitting on me but now a days he ...
A. 11 January 2014: Emotional cheating is the ground work for the physical cheat so it can be just as painful as the physical.
Also men have harder time accepting a break up with a female and it is emotionally harder so if he immediately moved over into you after hi... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle my boyfriend's abusive behavior anymore!
Q. Dear Cupid Im with my current bf for almost 4 years, its the longest relationship for both of us. My bf was previously with lots of girls nothing lasted even for 6 months. Coming to my problem, he often becomes abusive, im not even sure whats ...
A. 11 January 2014: Drop him and find a man who will treat you nice. Faster you get out of this faster you will find someone better. Just think: if he is pattern-abuser without apologies now he will continue with that in marriage and perhaps expand the abuse into ... (read in full...)
Found out boyfriend looks at porn and gay porn. Does everyone do this?
Q. really need some good advice as this problem is really upsetting me . ive been with my partner 3 years and have lived together for 6 months with our baby . i recently found that he had looked at gay porn on the internet. he says hes not gay and ...
A. 10 January 2014: If I was you I would explore the gay porn little more to see if he is excited about doing the guy (desiring a male) versus being done (desiring anal sex). If it is second one then that us something you can fix yourself in the bedroom and turn your ... (read in full...)
I don't wish to lose my wife nor my friend!
Q. Hey everyone, I know this is going to sound bad but I really need some help. I have been married for 4 years with two lovely children, and although I love my wife and kids to bits I can't stop thinking about a friend of mine. We get on really well ...
A. 10 January 2014: You have to pick one or the other and stop growling how you will loose. There is nothing to lose but instead gain peace in your marriage and in your mind. ... (read in full...)
What happened in Vegas didn't stay in Vegas!
Q. my wife and i have been together for almost 3 years and have been married almost 1 year. we have had our fair share of bumps and bruises. 2 months ago, i broke a promise to her by going to a strip club with my friends on my birthday. i have been ...
A. 10 January 2014: There is no such thing as spare of the moment. Sexually experienced people know exactly where does hanging around with strange guys lead - in bed room. Getting drunk is just an excuse to wash down the desire for sex with strangers.
You have maj... (read in full...)
What happened in Vegas didn't stay in Vegas!
Q. my wife and i have been together for almost 3 years and have been married almost 1 year. we have had our fair share of bumps and bruises. 2 months ago, i broke a promise to her by going to a strip club with my friends on my birthday. i have been ...
A. 10 January 2014: There is no such thing as spare of the moment. Sexually experienced people know exactly where does hanging around with strange guys lead - in bed room. Getting drunk is just an excuse to wash down the desire for sex with strangers.
You have maj... (read in full...)
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