How do I contact this married man to tell him I'm pregnant? I want him to help support me!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm the op of this post "He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?", which I posted a month back. I found out that I'm pregnant few days back and I'm positive he is the father since I didn't have sex with an...
A. 25 February 2016: If he ignores you and completely repudiates the idea that he is the father, you will be in for a very long battle.
You will have to procure an attorney. Do you have any evidence, like voice mail, texts, or anything else that can corrobor... (read in full...)
He's a great guy so why am I not more excited about this relationship?
Q. Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice. I live with a great guy, we started house sharing in June. He is the kindest, loveliest man I've ever known. Our feelings for each changed in September and we decided to get together. Its been lovely and ...
A. 25 October 2014: Do this guy a favor and break off the relationship ASAP. You're making a mistake that a lot of women make when settling down, which is settling for a "nice guy". Just because he's a nice guy and a doormat doesn't mean that you have great chemistry. ... (read in full...)
Why is divorce a problem for a liar cheater wife?
Q. My wife started cheating on me around the year 2000. I confronted her and she was extremely sorry, so she made me believe. A few years later she was cheating again and after all the wasted effort I put into salvaging our marriage I knew it was over. ...
A. 14 November 2013: "She didn't want a divorce". Tough luck because you should have procured and attorney and gotten one anyway. You allowed her to perpetuate her game for quite some time for the sake of the kids, but in reality you have only delayed the inevitable. ... (read in full...)
How much of a deal breaker is penis size?
Q. I've seen a lot of penis anxiety threads based around "reassure me, is insert size normal?" but I'm going to come at it from another (still similar) angle. I'm 23, relatively slim although my guts bigger than it's ever been (people still ac...
A. 4 September 2012: Do you have wide shoulders, nice pecs, and a solid firm butt? Women are turned on by these features a lot, so if you're lacking in the size department make sure you work on these features by way of lifting weights. I am a little under 8" and I've ... (read in full...)
Married for less than 1 year and Super UnHappy!!!!!
Q. Hi guys. Thanks for reading my post. So...I've been married for 11 and a half months..Sept 4th is our 1 year anniversary. We were high school sweethearts then went our separate ways during college..but we stayed friends. We both moved away from ...
A. 15 August 2012: You made the same mistake that so many women make. Just read what you wrote in your post:
"He is the most caring, affectionate, expressive, honest, truthful, loving, respectful,man I know. He is a true gem of a man. He has minor faults like ... (read in full...)
I can't get over the emotional affair with a married man
Q. Hi everyone. I am having a really hard time getting over a married man. I am in an unhappy marriage and this is why I was vulnerable to him. He led me on and then disappeared from my life. I had true and deep feelings for him during our frien...
A. 30 October 2011: YouWish hit the nail right on the head with her post, especially the part about the insidious nature of emotional and sexual affairs; it all starts with innocent conversation, but as time goes on you end up letting your guard down and before you ... (read in full...)
What's the difference between settling and being logical?
Q. What is the difference between settling and being logical? I'm 23 and single. It's strange but it seems like all of my friends are in serious relationships or have been. I haven't. I feel abnormal. I do have admirers but I think maybe I'm being ...
A. 13 September 2011: It's not all about being logical. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and you need to just go with it. I think that you're suffering from what I call analysis paralysis, a state of mind that tends over rationalize and over analyze everything ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife wear sexy panties at work and granny panties at home?
Q. I'll try to keep this brief. She wears sexy panties and thongs to work but granny panties at home and sometimes, about 50% of the time, wears no panties to work. When questioned about no panties she explains she wore the same ugly pair because she...
A. 9 September 2011: Do you know any of her coworkers who can perhaps shed some light on the situation as far as her interaction with her male colleagues are concerned? Gossip usually travels really fast in an office or work setting, so if she's having an affair I'm ... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they want a nice guy, when we all know that is a load of crap?
Q. The past 5 girls i have talked to, i have asked them the same question. What qualities do you like best in a man? Amazingly they all said as long as hes nice idk...... really? i have people tell me i am too nice , that im the nicest guy they ever ...
A. 7 September 2011: When women refer to a nice guy they probably mean someone who doesn't cheat, lie, scam, and also someone who treats them well and adores his girl. But make no mistake about, because if you're too predictable and always have this nice guy persona, ... (read in full...)
Why not cheat? I am interested in all your ideas and suggestions please
Q. I have been married over 10 years. Before marriage had a very active sex life. As soon as we were married, it became less, and less and kept getting less until it was 3 years. I brought it up to him, then we went to counseling, then I brought it u...
A. 4 September 2011: The right thing to do in the situation is to end your marriage and move on. If you can only have an exciting and active sex life by resorting to being deceitful then it's obvious that you're doing something wrong. Your occasional sexual tryst here ... (read in full...)
Three questions for men!
Q. Three Questions to guys : 1.)Do men go out their way to make an ex/ or current girlfriend jealous? And if so, how? 2.)Why would a man in a 3 year relationship make an online Dating profile? 3.)What are the signs that a man is no longer ...
A. 28 August 2011: 1) Some men with poor communication skills, of borderline personality disorders, might resort to this type of childish behavior. I personally have never done anything like that. If I don't feel right about something in a relationship, I'll just com... (read in full...)
My wife says that sex with me grosses her out. Can that change?
Q. I am 38 and my wife is 41. We do not have sex anymore and have not for at least a decade. She says that sex with me grosses her out. She says that the idea of sex itself does not gross her out, and she fantasizes about sex with other men sometimes, ...
A. 26 August 2011: What really stands out to me is the fact, as you stated, that she had a habit of sleeping with a man rather quick, only to dump them once the relationship began to escalate into something more serious. She deals with men on a superficial level; ... (read in full...)
He never wants kisses and affection - just sex
Q. I've been dating this guy for about six months. He never wants to kiss (And I am xtra fresh with my breathe, so it's not that), hardly wants to hug but wants sex. He never take me out and the one time he did, I nearly had to beg for it. I keep ...
A. 22 August 2011: I am a guy, and I'm really big into kissing and affection when I care about someone or when there is a strong level of attraction, so something is up with this character regarding his feelings towards you. Moreover, how can you have great, wild, ... (read in full...)
How do you end an affair when you are "the other guy"?
Q. I posted a question similar to this one a while back, but I can't seem to motivate myself to end this, even though my mind is saying enough is enough! I've been involved with a married woman for a couple of years now, and I don't feel like I live in ...
A. 31 July 2011: ***update***
She's meeting with an attorney next week to discuss the next steps and best practices on how to proceed with a divorce.... (read in full...)
I'm 33.....time to be an adult! Any ideas?
Q. Ok. I'm a 33 yr old male. I have no children. I currently am single. Here's what I have learned about myself in the past 6 months after the woman of my dreams walked all over me. I was 23 and thought to myself there has to be more enjoyment in life ...
A. 29 July 2011: Are you the youngest or an only child? Did your parents spoil you? Can you expound a but on your "my growing up kind sucked" statement? It's possible that you have an aversion to responsibilities involving children, a marriage, and a high stress job ... (read in full...)
Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this?
Q. Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this? I was invited to a cosmetic party along with another friend. All participated have their husbands and kids there because we all knew each other. My husband also went along. Important info:...
A. 28 July 2011: I totally agree with your husband's take on this pyramid type of scam; however, he should have been more diplomatic instead going off on some rant.
***I have first hand experience with a family member whose marriage ended up going south because ... (read in full...)
How do you end an affair when you are "the other guy"?
Q. I posted a question similar to this one a while back, but I can't seem to motivate myself to end this, even though my mind is saying enough is enough! I've been involved with a married woman for a couple of years now, and I don't feel like I live in ...
A. 18 May 2011: @Lovegirl.......I'm not gloating about the fact that I'm her passionate lover, but I'm merely stating a FACT because that's ALL I am to her. It's hard to convey body language and facial expression on a forum ;) My demons are rooted in the fact that ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man....where is this going?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a confused, single woman, no kids, and living independently. But i am in a relationship with a married man for more than a year now. it's not like what most people think of when they hear of this type of relationship. we are not ...
A. 17 May 2011: Wow!.....you're in a tough predicament. Why are you living with the guy? Just do your thing and have fun, but falling in love with a married person with the expectation that he's going to leave his wife for you?? A leopard doesn't lose its spots, so ... (read in full...)
How do you end an affair when you are "the other guy"?
Q. I posted a question similar to this one a while back, but I can't seem to motivate myself to end this, even though my mind is saying enough is enough! I've been involved with a married woman for a couple of years now, and I don't feel like I live in ...
A. 17 May 2011: @So Very Confused.....I am NOT expecting her to leave, nor do I want her to leave! Read my post. I often express my concerns to her and have canceled trysts in the past because she might get "questioned" that particular day regarding her ... (read in full...)
How do you end an affair when you are "the other guy"?
Q. I posted a question similar to this one a while back, but I can't seem to motivate myself to end this, even though my mind is saying enough is enough! I've been involved with a married woman for a couple of years now, and I don't feel like I live in ...
A. 17 May 2011: @Male anonymous reader.......you have got this all wrong as far as the "drama" part is concerned, because this reminds me exactly of a previous five year relationship that I had with a girlfriend. We got together for all the good times but we kept ... (read in full...)
I have asked her to be my girlfriend but she has not given me an answer! What can I do now?
Q. I love my Friend, we are like just friends for about 1.5 years, now I feel that I am in love. I want her as my Girlfriend and i've told her but she is not giving me positive answer. one thing which could be important that she does not want to break ...
A. 16 May 2011: Hint: You have been friends for about a year and a half because you've been relegated to the "friend zone", which is not a good place to be for a guy if you like a girl. There's nothing you can do, say, pray, or whatever; she's either attracted to ... (read in full...)
How do you end an affair when you are "the other guy"?
Q. I posted a question similar to this one a while back, but I can't seem to motivate myself to end this, even though my mind is saying enough is enough! I've been involved with a married woman for a couple of years now, and I don't feel like I live in ...
A. 16 May 2011: Thanks, so much for replying and I appreciate all of your answers and suggestions. I often think about what she's doing to her family if they find out, but the constant reminders that she lives in a loveless marriage in which both parties coexist ... (read in full...)
He won't be intimate with me, but he has no problem watching porn when I'm not around!
Q. Why would a man over many years, regularly avoid sex with his wife? We would have sex about 2 times a month at most. I would try to initiate about 3 times a week, but get the "i'm tired" excuse. We argued alot about sex, I felt like something was ...
A. 17 March 2011: Porn addictions have ruined a lot of relationships! Guys who watch a lot of porn get caught up in that sex fantasy-land B.S., and they become desensitized when dealing with the real thing. There's nothing wrong with watching porn occasionally if you ... (read in full...)
Do people put too much weight on the institution of marriage, and too little value on the PERSON they marry?
Q. I sometimes worry when I see a young person "pushing" for marriage, and seeing marriage as the ultimate goal in a relationship, while worrying little about the "issues" that exist within the relationship and on building a healthy relationship and ...
A. 16 March 2011: Excellent observation! I'm having an affair with a married woman who kind reached the same conclusion, since she married someone who she viewed as a good provider, intelligent, stable. etc. She, however, apparently decided to overlook many of the ... (read in full...)
The lady who I'm having an affair with is not willing to walk out of her marriage. Where does that leave me?
Q. Got issues with the most beautiful lady in this world. Where do I start? I was married for 20 years and had allotted of problem with my former wife for about 10 years. So I left .Any way, I Have known this lady whom I am now in love with for 28 y...
A. 15 March 2011: Read my post from yesterday.....I'm in a similar situation as yours, but I think that you're in it deeper emotionally.
Question: why do you want to ruin a good thing? You're getting all the free sex in the world, at least twice a week, so why d... (read in full...)
Caught in a torrid love affair with a married woman but she refuses to walk out of her loveless, boring marriage. Why???
Q. Okay....please refrain from excoriating and vilifying me because I know that I'm not supposed to partake in this endeavor, but I'm a little too deep into this game. I've been seeing this married woman who is five years my senior for about three ...
A. 15 March 2011: @eyeswideopen: If you read my post you'll see the question that I posted: do cheaters(my lover) eventually get caught, and why does she stay with someone who she can't stand and is not attracted to, aside from the fact that they do carry on a amicab... (read in full...)
Caught in a torrid love affair with a married woman but she refuses to walk out of her loveless, boring marriage. Why???
Q. Okay....please refrain from excoriating and vilifying me because I know that I'm not supposed to partake in this endeavor, but I'm a little too deep into this game. I've been seeing this married woman who is five years my senior for about three ...
A. 15 March 2011: @eyeswideopen
She is not stringing me along because she has been very vocal and succinct in her views that, per her words, "we need to find you a nice single girl." We have both agreed on numerous occasions that all this debauchery has to stop, bu... (read in full...)
Caught in a torrid love affair with a married woman but she refuses to walk out of her loveless, boring marriage. Why???
Q. Okay....please refrain from excoriating and vilifying me because I know that I'm not supposed to partake in this endeavor, but I'm a little too deep into this game. I've been seeing this married woman who is five years my senior for about three ...
A. 15 March 2011: ****UPDATE******In case I didn't make this clear......I don't want her to leave her marriage for me, but I just want her to be there two, or three times a week. I am single and have never been married, so I probably exude a lot of commitment phobia ... (read in full...)
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