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writes:I've been dating this guy for about six months. He never wants to kiss (And I am xtra fresh with my breathe, so it's not that), hardly wants to hug but wants sex. He never take me out and the one time he did, I nearly had to beg for it. I keep asking him whats wrong and his reply is always I care and like you alot. I keep trying to be positive and envision the type of relationship I want. But am I being disillusional, and fooling myself of something that obviously doesn't feel right all because I want it to be right. I even asked him if he was bi-sexual and he got so angry and cursed me out for asking. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dreamland  +, writes (22 August 2011):
I am a guy, and I'm really big into kissing and affection when I care about someone or when there is a strong level of attraction, so something is up with this character regarding his feelings towards you. Moreover, how can you have great, wild, passionate sex without intense kissing and foreplay?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 August 2011):
 he does not care about you. he cares about sex with you...
old song: 'If you wanna know if he loves you so it's in his kiss"
kissing is intimate. sex is not.
I'm sorry he's not interested in a real relationship with you just sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): iv been in a situation like yours basically i really liked this guy but all he was interested in was me going round at his at night for some sex, id stay but he never kissed me anything like that he would get up have a shower come back to the bed turn the light off and roll over to sleep i would leave in the morning! only happened twice i was gutted cos i really liked him but now looking back i think what a wxxxer i would never let anyone do that to me again! you sound like you deserve better
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): As much as I enjoy having sex with my bf, some of the best times we have is just making out or holding hands watching TV. I wouldn't know what to do if suddenly it was sex or nothing when it came to physical demonstrations of affection.
I'm sorry for you having this problem.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 Dear Anom,
You should go with Instint on this one. It clearly isnt working out for you.
Hugs
KellyO
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): You deserve a guy that loves you and treats you like he would have lost something great if you left.
He treats you like a hooker and that's not fair.
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reader, /\Julie/\ +, writes (21 August 2011):
Listen i know sometimes you feel like he's the one for you and then you get disappointed when he does what he does.
Do you know a guy who shows no affection to his own girl?!
Means he doesn't love her
and you don't wanna stay with a guy that does nothing but sex with you
DUMP HiM , it's the best way to act.
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reader, juhi agrawal  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 dump him right now!!he is simply using you...get rid of him...else u would find yourself into a terrible and miserable situation...
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 That he neither wants to hug, kiss or take you out says a lot. I think you know the answer to this already. Drop this guy like a bad habit. There's a better person for you out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): Hey there, as angelDlite has already said, he has no emotional attachment to you.
Your case is exactly the same with what I went through two months ago with a guy I met two months ago. I rejected the sex and even when I tried to keep him around as a friend to see if it would change, it never worked out. It was a tough decision for me to leave him but I did.
I just can not comprehend how some one can do that, but yes, those guys exist.
Move on girl, you are too good for that. All the best!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (21 August 2011):
 in answer to your question - "But am I being disillusional, and fooling myself of something that obviously doesn't feel right all because I want it to be right"
yes. that is exactly right. this has gone on for six months and will continue to happen because you are letting it continue. he has no feelings for you. you are what's known as a booty call and he is emotionally unavailable to you. look for someone else coz he probably is and when he finds someone he prefers he will be gone in a flash. it sounds like he THINKS he is too good for you. don't be used!
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