My boyfriend doesn't understand how upset his porn viewing makes me!
Q. My boyfriend doesnt understand how I get hurt if he watches porn, pictures of naked females and mastrubates to it... Hello, my bf of 2 years and i broke up 9 days ago. We want to get back together but only after we both read the book on a relati...
A. 28 June 2007: Dear Unique 1 Men don't consider watching porn and masturbating to porn as having anything much to do with sex at all, so stop worrying, he's not cheating on you in his mind at all, and even if he was, it is only his mind. You could try to be ... (read in full...)
My guy is taken, but is taken with me, but wants to run back to his fiancee
Q. i have been friends with my boss for three years now. we started seeing eachother 2 months ago and i am madly in love with him. he says he loves me to. but we have a few problems with our relationship. 1) i am only seventeen and he is thirty 2)...
A. 28 June 2007: Dear 17 The reason "your" guy's fiancee kicked him out was because of you, or someone else like you. He has a baby with her, they're engaged to be married, he's begging to be let back. You can't convince anyone of love. Right this one off as ... (read in full...)
This breakup is breaking my resolve
Q. my partner cheated on me and we have split but now the whole situation has really wrecked my nerves.i made many sacrifices to help build everything we had-and this is the thanks i get.i feel on edge all the time,my nerves are bad and i keep having ...
A. 28 June 2007: All the above advice is really heartfelt. I hope you can see from that that all those people have been through the same stuff and survived. And got better than what they were before. I just wouldn't dismiss the antidepressants. Something like Zol... (read in full...)
She was crazy, but I miss her and my family so much.. Is there anything I can do?
Q. A couple of years ago I met this gal who was 24 yrs.old (I'm 47) I was working for a band, and she walked right up to me and licked my face. Normally when women are that forward I am turned off, but for some reason this totally blew me away. She ...
A. 28 June 2007: Dear Nice Man Unfortunately this girl does have a mental illness, probably bi-polar or borderline personality or both and I would say that they previous 3 fathers have had the same relationship with her that you have had, and that this next guy is i... (read in full...)
She keeps destroying me by leading me on!
Q. I'm 16. Like this girl, asked her out to watch a movie, she accepted but keeps changing the day. What should I do? I really really like her, I'm crazy over her but if she makes another excuse I want to say something to make her feel bad. Any ideas? ...
A. 28 June 2007: You do have to drop this girl and move on. Imagine how much better you are going to feel when you have totally stopped calling her and texting her, and a few days or weeks or months later she contacts you and says "Hi!". Don't respond when she cont... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't let his female best friend and I meet
Q. My boyfriend's best friend is another woman, who doesn't seem to be interested in getting to know me. I've asked to meet her to no avail. He spends time either with her or me and never with both of us. I know there isn't anything going on between ...
A. 27 June 2007: Your boyfriend probably hasn't let his best friend meet you because of her feeling towards you - she is likely to be a little, if not a lot, possessive of him. You are his lover, she is his friend, and for the moment at least you have the higher ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to cheat on my husband with a married man?
Q. I'm in a bit of bother! I have feelings for my friends husband, and he has feelings for me too (More sexually driven). We love our partners but have this urge for each other that is so so so strong. We dont see each other anymore but we still cha...
A. 27 June 2007: Yes - its wrong to have sex with someone else other than your husband (without permission), and yes, its wrong to have sex with someone else's husband. But of course you already know that. That feeling that you describe as being so, so, so strong i... (read in full...)
I can't imagine not wanting sex so I would imagine if I could just get her to want it more, we could both be happier!
Q. Hi, I'm married over 10 years now and love my wife very much. Lately, however, I have been feeling like I'm getting a bit old and wanting more sex to compensate. I fear having a dull, brother/sister type marriage. I'm extremely sexual and could have ...
A. 27 June 2007: OK - I think you do have to give your wife a break here, but please read on . . . I admire a man that has been married for 10 years and still wants sex from his wife 3 times a day. So she's really, really lucky from that point of view. The probl... (read in full...)
My 3 female fellow students want the 4 of us to go on holiday together but I don't think my girlfriend is too keen on the idea seeing as she wouldn't be going.
Q. Hi! I ask to get some opinions. I study maths and have three female fellow students I used to learn with for the past two years. My girlfriend of just over two years studies history at the same university. She knows this friend. And all of those ...
A. 27 June 2007: You have to be kidding?? Why do you think your 3 female friends don't want your girlfriend to go? Or do you really not want her to go?. For your girlfriend's sake, I would go on the trip with the three jealous "study-friends" so that your girlfrie... (read in full...)
My partner says he doesn't like sex because of the mess--what can I do?
Q. I have been in a gay relationship for four years and only a week ago did we discuss the reasons as to why my partner never wants sex of any kind and I mean nothing in four years. It has been so bad I decided to accept that I would remain celibate ...
A. 27 June 2007: Dear d Your boyfriend has very obvious intimacy issues, so be careful for his sake about the way you handle any discussions you have about your/his sex life. Firstly, he has been intimate with you by just discussing this very personal problem... (read in full...)
Has masturbating changed me?
Q. I am 15 and have been masturbating since last year and I've noticed my "stuff" has stretched and become a brownish purply colour...what does this mean??...
A. 27 June 2007: The fact that your genitalia has changed in appearance at about the same time you started masturbating is linked: you are maturing sexually, that's all . . .
Best,
Dr. Surgel... (read in full...)
I think my husband wants to cheat on me to make up for experiences he missed out on in prison
Q. I have been married to my husband for 10 months. We knew each other for 11 yrs before we got married. Things have been great until April. I had to go out of town to train for my job. I came home every weekend and it seems since I came home for ...
A. 22 June 2007: Back right off from this guy for a while. Don't call him, do your own thing - work, play, have your own friends, live your own life as much as you can while you are still married to him. By doing this you will make yourself much more attractive to ... (read in full...)
Does someone appreciate you more if you refuse contact for a while?
Q. if you have a fallen out with someone you care about (who is used to hearing from you daily)and you stop calling and texting them do you think they will appreciate you more for not bugging them?...
A. 22 June 2007: Yes - they will appreciate you more if you're not bothering them with constant contact. Be a bit remote and let them miss you. Best Dr. Surgel... (read in full...)
I am in the process of splitting up but we are still in the same house...
Q. I am in the process of splitting up (well, we have already I suppose, but we are still in the same house when he is here.) He is trying to get the funds to buy me out and until he does I am hoping to stay here and not move in with my mother, ...
A. 18 June 2007: Dear 44 year old Anonymous,
I really know what you are going through here because I am going through some really similar stuff now - husband of 10 years left me, no mortgage or children, but unable to pay the rent as my business is also doing badl... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be with him even though I know it wont be forever?
Q. No baby, no wedding, but delightful all the same. My boyfriend of one year and I both have very different life plans as far as pairing off and reproducing. He intends never to marry and frankly admits neither the desire for children nor the...
A. 18 June 2007: Dear Anonymous
It is OK to be with someone your love, or even just like, even if you know it won't be forever.
The danger I see here though is spending a number of years with this guy, and then finding it hard to move on when you know you have to ... (read in full...)
I fancy the deputy heads daughter!
Q. (can't spell) there is a girl at my school and i fancy her but she thinks i've got over her and i havn't. what makes this more complicated is that she is the deputy heads daughter and he is stricked. what should i do? were both 16 if that changes ...
A. 18 June 2007: Dear Can't Spell,
As the deputy head's daughter her written english might be better than yours, so you could easily ask her to spend a few hours a week after school helping you with your spelling. Her father will greatly admire your efforts to impr... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he likes me?
Q. Hey, Okay so heres the deal, I have this guy who I like alot!! and really want to have a bf gf relationship with him, but I'm not entirely sure if he likes me, and want to be able to read the messages before sending out the charm and real signals....
A. 18 June 2007: Dear Anonymous
He likes you, you know he does, I can tell by the excitement in your question.
To find out HOW MUCH he likes you, you're going to have to be just a little bit tricky: try getting him alone when you're both relaxed and listenin... (read in full...)
I am only 11, but I am two months pregant!
Q. (ok my original profile thing iz batman but i did something and made a new profile) alright well i am 11 and now 2 monthes pregnant! im really scared cuz me and my boyfriend r both ganna need to take care of this child 2gether and im still liv...
A. 18 June 2007: Mickey
You are going to have to talk to your mother and/or his mother and you have to talk to a good doctor about this.
Don't be afraid of losing the baby, that is just the panic talking.
You are really terribly young to be doing this, but if... (read in full...)
I've like this guy for a while. Do I have a shot?
Q. Hi everyone reading this, I would like to ask your advice on something. I have recently (6 months ago) been out of a 5 year relationship and I have had a very rough time goingh through that. The reason for him breaking up with me was another girl...
A. 18 June 2007: Dear Miss Anonymous,
If you are only 10-12 years old as your profile states, you shouldn't have even had a boyfriend at your age, you should be running round the streets with gangs of friends causing mayhem and having fun like other 12 year olds... (read in full...)
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