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writes:Hi everyone reading this, I would like to ask your advice on something.I have recently (6 months ago) been out of a 5 year relationship and I have had a very rough time goingh through that. The reason for him breaking up with me was another girl. Well, after 6 months I am feeling better and I'm ready for a new life.I have knows a guy for about 1.5 years, and I have always liked him. Back when I had my boyfriend, it looked like this guy liked me because he kept asking when I would be single again. Don;t get it wrong, he is a very sweet guy, and would never hurt me. But, he is a good friend of my (now ex)boyfriend. I did like him back then, but I was head over heald with my boyfriend. I stayed friends with this guy, and after a while we've lost some contact. He lives in another continent, and we have always chatted online. When he came to my continent, I tried to get in contact with him but he was always busy (he is a singer in a popular band). After my relationship broke up, we got back in contact as friends. We talked a lot, and sometimes it seems as if he likes me. He flirts a lot, and makes jokes about the two of us together, but he has never actually mentioned something about him really liking me. Sometimes he talkes a lot to me (online), and other times it just seemes as if he ignores me. I start a conversation (online) and he doesn;t answer.In 3 weeks I will be moving to his continent, to his city for my studies. So, I will be going to his school and we will be seeing each other a lot personally instead of online. What should I think? Does he like me, or do I have to be concerned about the ignoring part? Or is he not ignoring me, just busy? What do you people think?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 See how things go when you get there. Maybe he's waiting for you to move to the school he goes to so he can see you more. If you are still unsure sit down with him and tell him how you feel or ask him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry my profile states I'm 12 but I am 22. Don't know how to change it
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reader, Dr. Surgel  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Dear Miss Anonymous,
If you are only 10-12 years old as your profile states, you shouldn't have even had a boyfriend at your age, you should be running round the streets with gangs of friends causing mayhem and having fun like other 12 year olds, perhaps even doing a spot of homework every now and then.
However, if you are going to be seeing him at your new school, then things will clear themselves up pretty quickly:
You should sit back and watch who his friends are, what he gets up to during and after school, and try to figure out why he might have been too busy to respond to your emails those times.
Being in a band he probably has a bunch of charming young women vying for his attention. Therefore you have to set yourself apart from them. Be attractive and warm, but not too available to him. Be too busy with friends and other activities to pay him too much attention. Let him come to you, let him pay attention to you, let him make time for you.
Move on quickly if he doesn't. There are going to be plenty of guys for you to choose from in your life, and if things don't work out for you and this guy this year, or next year or the next, I bet you'll see him again in the future and you will both be glad nothing happened when you were still babies, because in the future you might have a real chance together.
Kindly
Dr. Surgel
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