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| | *unty butterfly's profile:i feel that i qualify to help people as i have learned a great deal from others that have helped me...i owe them a lot.
i live in cambridgeshire uk,i have a grown up son and im just about to become a grandmother(a young one at that!)
what makes me tick...i suppose good friends and loving family,fun and laughter and a little space for pain too(we have to shed a tear now and again)
All in all i feel that i have lived through some terrible times as well as a lot of good ones too,so when i sift through some of the questions a lot of them hit home and i feel a need to help. |
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How can I get out and make friends ?
Q. What is the best way to make new friends and get out of the house away from my computer?...
A. 21 June 2006: hi,
poor thing you sound like you are a bit of a loner..i suppose it depends what type of person you are opposed to the kind of people you want to meet, i mean a lot of people mix themselves up with the wrong sort of people,generally because they... (read in full...)
My gay friend is getting married and I feel bad about it
Q. Hi this isn't a relationship problem but I'm desperate for help.My best friend of 20 years has suddenly decided she is gay, I have no problem with that.But now she and her partner are having a civil ceremony (marriage?) I got an evening invite and I ...
A. 20 June 2006: hi,
i agree with DrPsych, just be there as the friend she wants you to be,and out of twenty years of friendship i'm sure you could manage one day for friendships sake?...GO to the ball and have a good knees up,i wish you well...Aunty B xx... (read in full...)
Could I still have an STD?
Q. I've been with my g-friend for 3 years. She's been tested for std's and is clean. Could I still have anything?...
A. 20 June 2006: Not being funny,but don't you think you could save yourself a lot of bother by asking your doctor? i mean your'e wasting precious time by asking us on here,and you could have passed your lover something in this time period...If you care about your ... (read in full...)
Can I have a short fling with the Italian boy, and not ruin my perfect relationship?
Q. Hi I'm a girl, nearly 18,and I've been with my boyfriend for a year now (who is the same age as me), I love him to bits and we have been engaged for ages now, and everything's just perfect. But there's a problem, last week my mum invited round a ...
A. 20 June 2006: OH DEAR!
I totally agree with bonym,and i feel that you do not have what i would regard as any staying power until you realise exactly how you sound to yourself and others around you,i am a stranger to you,yet i feel that you can't be trusted with... (read in full...)
Construction work career, or hairdresser?
Q. My husband of ten years is a construction worker. An opportunity has arisen for him to start working in a hair salon that belongs to a high school friend of his. It´s a job he's always aspired to and has a natural talent for. On one hand, the it's...
A. 23 May 2006: you have been married for ten years,really i would have thought you'd know if you trusted him or not by now. i think that you maybe just a bit scared of the changes he's making to his life you no longer think it has anything to do with you ... (read in full...)
Best friend moved in on the guy I loved from afar!
Q. My Best friend has asked out the guy I have loved for over 11 years. She's rubbing it in my face by kissing and hugging him in front of me and she keeps telling me all the details of their nights out. It's making me feel so upset becuase I have ...
A. 23 May 2006: 11 yrs? oh my god girl,that must be a world record for holding back for as long as you have.surely this man hasn't been on his own for all this time?he must have had girlfriends before your so called best friend?and as for her?for as long as you are ... (read in full...)
Guys, can I win back my On Again, Off Again boyfriend?
Q. For the guys...how do I win the love of my life back when we have had an on/off relationship and now we have split for good? It's been about a month but I really miss him and want him back. What should I do?...
A. 23 May 2006: on and off is never any good anyway hunny,your relationship with this man sounds like a rebound after rebound situation, may i suggest you start to walk a different path?you never know if you pay a little more attention elsewhere you might find who ... (read in full...)
How do i get someone to like me for what I am?
Q. how do i get someone to like me for what i am?...
A. 1 February 2006: hi,
If you just be yourself and you're a likeable person then you wouldn't have to get anybody to do anything...they will like you just because they do...some people clash others don't,this is the way the world is so please don't beat yourself up a... (read in full...)
I am so unhappy that I drink alcohol and cheat on him..why can't I just leave him? Help.
Q. I am 22years old and have been in a relationship now for over 6years but have been unhappy for years. Ive tried dropping hints, didnt work. I told him, he promised that he would change and make me happy, which worked for a week, then he went back to ...
A. 1 February 2006: hi,
I agree that your behaivour is self destructive and it's destructive towards someone whom you obviously thought a great deal about once,fair enough you don't feel the same anymore,but that's no excuse to keep him hanging on,even if he does... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has an erection??
Q. heya i am 16 and i want to know how i know if my 16 year old boyfriend has an erection around me. if we hug or kiss or something how do i know if he has an erection without asking him cos i dont really wanna ask him ha ha. is there any signs li...
A. 17 January 2006: hi,
i find it a bit confusing that you haven't just looked down my love,as it's very clear if he has or not his trousers suddenly get smaller and there is a bulge that he didn't have before,and don't tell me you daren't look,he's your boyfriend and ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him or go to be with my ideal man?
Q. What the hell should I do? Last summer i met my ideal man, he's caring, thoughtful, always gives me compliments, sexy, good in bed and very touchy feely. But the problem is i already have a boyfriend of 4 years who is the total opposite of this. Im...
A. 17 January 2006: hello,
you say you need to be told you are loved every month or so...i think you are missing the fact that you have just had four years of not getting that and put up with it,so you are more secure than you actually think you are,you just need to s... (read in full...)
Guys: How long do you last during sex?
Q. Question for the guys: How long do *you* usually last, during intercourse? Reply honestly, anon if you like!...
A. 15 January 2006: hi,
To be quite honest with you,It lasts for as long as it lasts.
Sorry to disappoint Dawnest,but you might even find they can go around half an hour if done correctly(slowly sensual and not in a rush).It kind of depends weather your'e having s... (read in full...)
Did he drink a love potion, or what?! I never thought he'd fall for me this hard!
Q. Is it common for a guy to fall in love with a girl who he initially wanted a no-strings-attached relationship with? I’m referring to a relationship in which they are the male and female version of each other, so they never fight. They agree about ...
A. 14 January 2006: Hello, You sound like you are asking if he is normal hunny,he is,but the question i have in my head is does it feel normal to you?because if it doesn't then what chance are you giving him or yourself?Its sounds to me like you both had the chance t... (read in full...)
I'm so terrified about sex I can't even use a tampon. How could I ever have a baby?
Q. I have a huuge problem that I'm not exactly ready to face. I have a problem with sex. Im 19 and my boyfriend and I have decided to wait till marriage to have sex. I'm fine with that, but I'm dreading the day we do get married and I'll be ob...
A. 4 January 2006: hello,
I must start by congratulating you,there are not many people these days that wait to be married before having sex,so well done you!.
I think that you have to just tell your boyfriend that you are feeling this way...chances are that he will ... (read in full...)
I could handle bouts of depression before, but this time it's worse. Any suggestions?
Q. Sup Readers, Just turned a teenager and as I'm a girl obviously I have developed quicker so hormones have kicked in quite soon. Well the thing is I'm feeling depressed. I have a little before but I didn't tell anyone and I helped myself get better, ...
A. 4 January 2006: hello hunny,
One thing i must say is you have made one major step already...youv'e asked someone for help here..why can't you talk to your mother?i'm sure she wouldn't want her little girl asking anybody else but her first for help,after all,... (read in full...)
What's with all his mixed messages? Is he playing mindgames with me?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and a guy have been flirting for over 18 months now. I like him a lot but he really makes me angry sometimes, he only texts me very very occasionally, but when he does it is as if he really has the hots for me, and when I see h...
A. 2 January 2006: hello,
my advise is stop wasting your time on this man,he obviously has no idea what he wants...the question is,what do you want?surely you don't want this to carry on as it is?..so you really have to make a decision.
You sound to me like you are ... (read in full...)
We have 4 kids together and I've never been with another man... but he treats me so badly!
Q. Hello, I really need advice to my problem. Pease aunties help me. I have been with a guy for 13 yrs now. We both met at age 14 (we both the same age) and my mom heard that I was with this boy and threw me out; however being so young his mom took me ...
A. 28 December 2005: good for you girl.your'e making the right steps to a newer you and a fresher life..i hope that you see that you are worth everything to yourself and your kids now.even i care about you and i don't know you!but i wish you all the best,you deserve it ... (read in full...)
My online dating confusion with terrific new girl...
Q. i met a terific girl through an online dating agency not long ago, we got in contact on a messenger service & got along realy well, we met up 3 days after our first phone call to eachother & things went realy well, we spent a whole sunday together ...
A. 23 December 2005: Hi,
It could be possible that this girl has been hurt in the past and now she finds the only way to stop it from happening again is to stop seeing you.Had she just come out of a relationship?It's a high percentage of people that have been hurt and ... (read in full...)
We have 4 kids together and I've never been with another man... but he treats me so badly!
Q. Hello, I really need advice to my problem. Pease aunties help me. I have been with a guy for 13 yrs now. We both met at age 14 (we both the same age) and my mom heard that I was with this boy and threw me out; however being so young his mom took me ...
A. 21 December 2005: Hi,
sounds to me like you are very dependant on your man to the extent where you have forgotten yourself.your children are there to remind you how much you should be loved,why walk out on them too?they shouldn't feel like they are to blame so don'... (read in full...)
How do you know if it is true love?
Q. Well the thing is that my boyfriend and me were kissing on the couch. Then he stop and just started to looking at me and started smiling, then he finial came out with what he wanted to say. He said I love you, but he first ask if it was ok for him ...
A. 20 December 2005: to love someone is not to question the feeling you have,
but to feel the emotion,grace it with the enjoyment it deserves and let it be...
i feel that he asked you if it was ok for him to say that,because he didn't want to scare you away.he ... (read in full...)
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