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writes:Dear Cupid,Me and a guy have been flirting for over 18 months now. I like him a lot but he really makes me angry sometimes, he only texts me very very occasionally, but when he does it is as if he really has the hots for me, and when I see him its like he can't get enough of me. I don't know if he is just playing mindgames with me, whether or not he really is interested. I'm getting very frustrated with his behaviour, two weeks ago, I texted him, he texted back saying 'Hey baby, I'll call you later tonight, my cousin has just came back from london'...he never called. He has done this kind of thing to me before, there was one time where he didn't text or call for three months and when I saw him at a party he just smiled and disappeared, but the next week we bumped into each other and he was beng romantic and kissing me passionately etc, he then texted me the every night for hree days, then didnt text me again until I texted him. Im getting so many mixed signals that I don't know what to do.Any advice??Thanks
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reader, StarNews +, writes (2 January 2006):
 That is a long time to flirt without it going anywhere other than text messages and a few quick kisses. He is clearly a game player. You havent spent any quality time with this person and he hasnt even taken the time to get to know you. He sounds immature and has a hard time dealing with reality, which is obvious when he lives in a fantasy world of text relationships. He has fingers and hopefully he knows how to use them, to pick up a phone, dial and speak to a live person. Im sorry but I feel when someone makes a habit of texting, and you dont even feel you can call them, they have things to hide.
Ive made myself some rules that I stick by, when it comes to giving a guy my number. I have a 2 week rule. Once he has my number, he has 2 weeks to call. If he calls within that time period, I allow him one strike. That means if he makes a plan, and doesnt stick to it, he gets one more chance. Two strikes and he's out.
I made a new year's resolution to weed the flakes out of my life. The way to do that is with confrontation. Be upfront, tell a guy what your expectations are and what you feel is unacceptable and stick to it. If he is a flake, he will vanish into thin air. If he is not, he will meet your needs and you wont be getting those mixed signals.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (2 January 2006):
 Hi dearie, my own thoughts about this guy is simple, he isnt serious and ready to date u. I know u already suspect this from your posting, go with ur heart.
Sometimes when we are in love we arent able to see and we hope there is more to a relationship even though it clearly stands out that there isnt. it isnt at all your fault here and majority of us experience this that is while we ask for advise.
I really dont want u to waste u time on this guy cos he isnt worth it. He doesnt call u for three months and disappears then breeze back into ur life and then off again.
When a guy truly likes or loves u he tries all his effort to be with u, hear ur voice when he isnt there. He doesnt wait for u to call him or wait until he bumps into u in a party.
My own advise is that u shouldnt call or text him. If he does contact u in anyway then tell him how u feel. what u wrote here,that u have known him for 18 months and u dont think he is serious and u cant continue wasting ur time flirting with him. That u dont see it going anywhere. stand firm if he does like u then it should be a waking up call for him. but dont dwell thinking this way, move on to someone better and is worthy of u.
You seem to be a lively person go out and have fun,u will meet someone totally devoted to u.
Take care dear.
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reader, aunty butterfly +, writes (2 January 2006):
 hello,
my advise is stop wasting your time on this man,he obviously has no idea what he wants...the question is,what do you want?surely you don't want this to carry on as it is?..so you really have to make a decision.
You sound to me like you are just thriving off the romantic side of him instead of the realistic side.
hunny,please find yourself a man who is worth wasting your time on as well as your texts,cause your worth much more than having to sit around for three months at a time just for a second glance from somebody like him..good luck -Aunty B xx
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reader, Brandi134 +, writes (2 January 2006):
Ditch him. He doesn't sound worth all the fuss. We both know you can do better. But if you're really stuck on him, confront him and ask him what the deal is. Just come right out and say it. But it sounds to me that all you might be is a back up plan if you catch my drift. GOod luck to you sister.
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